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Parents And Children – You CAN

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, June 27th, 2011

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Parents and children can grow up together

Parenting advice: To instill in your child the positive power of an “I CAN” attitude requires more than “lip service”.

Parents and children both sometimes act like children.

 

What are some of the childish ways that you behave, that you do not want your children to demonstrate?

 

Few childish behaviors are more frustrating for parents than when their children display a helpless, “I CAN’T” attitude.

 

Have you ever wondered where they learn this?

 

Let’s take a closer look at the “I can’t” attitude really expresses, whether it issues forth from parents or children. What it really expresses is self-doubt.

 

What major accomplishments do you wish you could achieve, but that you, at least sometimes, doubt your ability to achieve it?

 

Both parents and children need to believe in themselves to accomplish all that is possible for them. But you undermine your child’s belief in himself or herself to the extent that you indulge in self-doubt.

 

Children naturally adopt the attitude that we express around them, through the amazing power of modeling.

 

It is not what we model consciously that may be the problem, as much as what we model UNconsciously.

 

When a child behaves poorly, it is not uncommon for the parent to feel overwhelmed to the point of feeling powerless.

 

In these instances, probably without even realizing it, the parent expresses an “I can’t” attitude regarding being effectively in charge of the child.

 

Whenever you react with exasperation to your child’s resistance to cooperating with you, there is an undercurrent in your self-expression that says, “This is all too much for me.”

 

Parents, your children have no choice but to demonstrate
a more positive attitude as you demonstrate
a more completely positive attitude
around your children.

To instill in your child the positive power of an “I CAN” attitude requires more than “lip service”.

 

If you feel dissatisfied with your child’s display of helplessness, look for the ways that you express a similar, self-defeating lack of assertiveness, and work on turning that around.

 

This is one way that parents and children can grow up together.

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Children, Parents and Thought-Power

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, June 8th, 2011

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One of the most important life wisdom lessons that children and parents can discuss has to do with the power of thought.

Understanding how thought influences what happens to them can make for happier and more successful children.  Parents can begin teaching this lesson to their children at the earliest stages of infancy.

 

Thought power for personal development of children

Understanding how thought influences what happens to them can make for happier and more successful children.

This is because the development of the child’s attitude is influenced by the demonstration of the parent’s attitude, long before the child can form any concept of what is going on.

 

The parent who takes charge of his or her thinking is bound to display a more positive, hopeful attitude, and waste less energy on negative, despondent moods.

 

Just as we nurture our children’s bodies on the food we serve, we nurture them spiritually on the level of attitude and motivation that we express around them.

 

Discuss creative power of thought
with your children.

Parents should keep in mind that from around the age of around 3-years they can “plant seeds” of “thought power wisdom” in the minds of their children by talking about how thinking about what you want to happen helps it to happen.

 

Suggest to the child that she:

 

  • Think about doing easily what she now finds difficult doing
  • Expect to have a pleasant time instead of an unpleasant time
  • Imagine herself smiling when she feels a little blue

This begins to lay the ground-work for the child to awaken to the positive use of thought, in time.

 

From the age of 5 and up, point to objects in the environment and say something like, “This desk began with an idea of a desk, and holding the idea of the desk in mind helped them build the desk” to your children.

Parents who repeatedly discuss “thought power” with their children, provide those children with a priceless advantage.

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