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Parent With Love

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, September 24th, 2011

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The most powerful parenting advice may also be about the simplest: parent with love.

 

While on the surface this parenting tip seems like it should go without saying, one of the most common and costly mistakes that parents make every day is to take it for granted that they ARE parenting with love.

 

Of course good parenting is loving parenting, but so many presume that parenting with love involves reacting with:

 

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The most powerful parenting advice may also be about the simplest: parent with love

  • Anger
  • Irritation
  • Annoyance
  • Disapproval
  • Disappointment
  • Overwhelm
  • Impatience
  • Frustration
  • Condemnation

The fact is, though, that reacting with the above forms of anger and stress BLOCKS love.

 

You cannot REALLY know, do or say what is truly best for your child under the influence of a stressful, negative emotional reaction.

 

Remember to parent with love IN THE NOW may be the most important and helpful parenting advice for:

 

  1. Leading your child into better behavior now
  2. Setting your child on a successful course of living in a loving way

 

 

What behaviors does your child demonstrate that makes
parenting with love the hardest for you?

What are the ways that your child demonstrates UN-loving behavior that you would like to change?

Share your thoughts and questions about this
important topic in this blog.

Parenting with love does not mean that you praise whatever your child does or that you indulge your child’s every desire.

 

It means that you remain centered in a calm, patient, loving state so that you can sense what truly is in your child’s best interest.

 

The more consistently you parent with love, the more powerfully your example leads your child to live in a loving way.

 

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The Child’s Natural Ambition

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, September 19th, 2011

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Ambition is a natural part of child behavior and development. It drives the infant to learn to walk, the toddler to learn to pour his own juice, the seven year old to master soccer.

 

Parenting kids with child behavior

In child-parent relationships, an important objective of the parent is to nurture the child’s ambition to master the skills of responsible life

In child-parent relationships, an important objective of the parent is to nurture the child’s ambition to master the skills of responsible life.

 

We DON’T accomplish this by stress-fully complaining to the child about his conduct or by harshly criticizing her performance.

 

In our desire to raise a child with the determination needed to be successful in life, we need to be careful to avoid confusing the child about the real aim of ambition.

 

We want child behavior to be oriented toward truly MEANINGFUL success. We need to help our children remain clear about the real value of winning, succeeding, or doing good work.

 

That real value can be defined as:
1. The joy of mastery
2. The joy of loving service

 

Demonstrating mastery and helpfulness is in and of itself intrinsically rewarding.

 

The innate ambition we want to nurture in our children, then, is the ambition to help themselves and to help others at higher and higher levels.

 

In what ways does your child demonstrate or lack ambition?

What are some of your mist passionate ambitions as a parent? In other words, what do you want most to accomplish in your parenting?

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power of ambition in this blog.

When we nurture our children’s ambition correction, they feel the motivation they need to pursue on their own the very finest child behavior.

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