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Parenting Guide For Raising Boys

By admin   |  Sunday, October 30th, 2011

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Parenting guide for encouraging children

Watch the energy level of your boys. Your objective is to help them to stay calm.

Here are some mother quotes that pertain to parenting boys:

• Watch the energy level of your boys. Your objective is to help them to stay calm. I have found that once they become too excited, they cannot contain their energy and their behavior gets out of control.

• Maintain your attitude of calm confidence, even when it seems that the boys are out of control. In my experience, this attitude exerts a calming influence upon the boys and it also helps me to gain control of the situation.

• Work your hardest on improving your own self-control. Taking charge in my relationship with my three sons always begins with being in charge of myself.

What child behavior challenges your ability to maintain your self-control?

When your child becomes very excited, how can you tell,
and what behaviors does he demonstrate?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about
the challenge of raising boys.

Here are additional mother quotes that provide a parenting guide for raising boys:

• I have learned that I need to accept responsibility for my reactions. When I blame my son for the stressful way that I react to him I feel powerless to improve things.

• From day one my twin boys seemed to have my stress-buttons pegged. But I learned that I can diminish my frustration, annoyance and stress by small degrees every day, if I work at it, and this is very important work.

The mother quotes contained in this blog can certainly provide a useful parenting guide for raising girls as well as to raising boys.

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Parenting Wisdom

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 28th, 2011

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mother quotes

Wise parenting, to me, means experiencing fulfillment and solving problems, not miserably reacting to my children in stress and strain

Be aware of the examples being set for your child is an essential piece of parenting advice.

Observe a toddler as he watches someone doing something, like bending down to touch the floor over and over.

Within moments, the toddler will mimic that behavior.

The way people behave around the child programs the child to behave similarly.

As you work on handling every aspect of your life more wisely, you lead your child along wisdom’s path.

Mother Quotes on Parenting Wisdom

  • “As I study life-wisdom sources, including wisdom classes, books, videos and CD’s, I find myself spiritually nurtured in a way that brings me peace.  I can then more easily bring greater peace into my parenting.”

  • “I want to be a wise mother, not just a “smart” mother. Too many highly educated mothers that I know are nervous wrecks with their children.  Wise parenting, to me, means experiencing fulfillment and solving problems, not miserably reacting to my children in stress and strain.”

How do you relate with the above two “mother quotes” about wisdom?

Do YOU have any parenting advice to share that pertains to preparing a child to lead a WISE life?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about wisdom and parenting.

The essence of wisdom is dedicating yourself to your ongoing personal development, for this is the foundation for improving your results and experiences in all areas of life, including parenting.

Parenting Advice: Wisdom is about aligning with the way life truly is. As you seek deeper understanding of the way life really is, you will be a better guide for your child.

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3 Keys For Improving Child Behavior

By Bob Lancer   |  Sunday, October 23rd, 2011

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Improving child behavior

By helping your child to remain calm, you support the balanced emotional condition that is the foundation for orderly child self-conduct.

Here are 3 keys for improving child behavior.

The first step is modeling.  Children are programed by nature to repeat what they see and hear.

If your child, for instance, demonstrates a problem containing her exuberance in the school classroom, it may be traced to one of her parents operating through the day in an overly high-strung manner.

As that parent demonstrates better self-control by functioning in a more calm and relaxed manner throughout the day, that parent models the kind of improved behavior that is expected from the child.

Modeling is just one bit of parenting advice for improving child behavior.

Here is another: Help the child to maintain emotional balance.

When the child’s level of emotional intensity runs too high, it is impossible for the child to demonstrate orderly behavior.

Child behavior problems often stem from a child’s emotional problem.  By helping your child to remain calm, you support the balanced emotional condition that is the foundation for orderly child self-conduct.

What child behavior problems does your child exhibit?

Can you see how modeling, and how the child’s emotional condition influences that behavior?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about modeling and
how to help your child to remain calm enough to behave well.

Here is a bit of parenting advice for raising children beginning at around age four. To improve their behavior, they need to understand:
1.    The problem with the behavior they have been displaying
2.    The behavior that you expect from them
3.    The benefit of demonstrating that improved behavior

The reason the child needs to improve his behavior should pertain to the patterns of behavior he needs to develop to lead a happy, successful life.

The real purpose of improving child behavior is to prepare the child for responsible self-reliance.
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Acknowledge Your Child’s Perfection

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, October 13th, 2011

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Positive discipline for improving child behavior

The child needs to accept her “wonderfulness” in order to manifest it in positive child behavior.

Positive discipline means guiding and establishing boundaries for children in ways that release the child’s healthy, higher potential.

We can describe discipline as “negative” when it produces negative results. Just yelling at a kid, scolding him, timing him out, spanking him, or depriving him of what he wants does not automatically lead that child into more intelligent, caring, responsible behavior. In fact, it often has the opposite effect.

Essential for positive discipline is relating with the child in ways that foster the child’s positive belief in himself. The child needs to accept her “wonderfulness” in order to manifest it in positive child behavior.

Does your child believe in herself/himself?

Do you agree that self-esteem impacts child-behavior?

In what ways do parents need to nurture, support, and protect
their child’s healthy self-esteem?

Share your thoughts, experiences and questions about this in this blog.

While we want our children to strive to fulfill their higher potential, we need to understand the delicate balance involved.

Focusing too much on what the child does “wrong”, or reacting with too much harshness in your attitude when your child “gets it wrong”, undermines the child’s belief in his ability to do any better. It actually fosters the child’s belief that it is his role to be the “mischief-maker”, and that belief drives him to behave poorly.

Our children need us to teach them how to love themselves just as they are, or at least to protect and nurture that healthy form of self-love that they possess inherently.

However your child behaves, realize that in a very important sense your child is already perfect.

The beauty that shines from your child is divine.

Use only POSITIVE discipline to help your child manifest the forms of self-conduct that express that innate perfection.

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Child Discipline And Higher Will

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, October 12th, 2011

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The parent needs to get in touch with what is best for the child, what the child needs to develop and demonstrate for a successful, happy life

Adults often think of child discipline as trying to get the child to heed the parent’s will.

But the real aim of child discipline should be about raising children to develop and heed their own HIGHER will.

It is THIS Will that we want to lead our children to recognize and follow, not our personal will.

Raising kids to do as they are told leaves them helpless when there is no one there telling them what to do, or when there is someone directing them to do something wrong.

Before reacting to child behavior, and before struggling for a child’s compliance, the parent needs to get in touch with what is best for the child, what the child needs to develop and demonstrate for a successful, happy life.  This is the foundation for real child discipline.

When it comes to raising your kids, what is your vision of success?  In other words, what are you trying to raise your child into?

How are you preparing your child to be able to make
good choices for himself or herself?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about
how to discipline children well?

The key to leading your child into connecting with his own higher will, which is rooted in true wisdom, model that behavior in your parenting.

Centering yourself in your own higher will means first centering yourself in peace, opening your mind and heart to what your child really needs from you to grow into the great person she can be.

Practice that the next time you engage with your child:  Discipline YOURSELF to connect with your own higher will.

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Improve Your Child’s Reactions

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 7th, 2011

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The foundation for improving child behavior is improving PARENT behavior.

The quality of your results with your child is a product of what you do.

Improve parent behavior to improve child behavior

Your child cannot demonstrate better self-control when you are losing yours.

As long as you continuing reacting in the same old ways, you continue re-producing the same old disappointing results.

Nature programs children to display personality and behavior patterns similar to those that they are exposed to.

Your child cannot demonstrate better self-control when you are losing yours.

Parents often complain about how their child reacts to not getting his way.

These parents need to look at how THEY react when the do not get THEIR way with their child.

Behavior is learned.  As you learn how to improve your reaction to your child’s reactions, you teach your child how to improve HER reactions.

How does your child react when you do not let him have his way, and how do YOU typically react to that?

How would you like your child to handle it
when she cannot have her way?

Share your thoughts and questions about improving children’s reactions in this blog for parents.

Tips for improving your child’s reactions:

  1. 1. Don’t blame your child for your loss of calm and loving composure.

  1. 2. Regard your reactions to your child’s disturbing behavior as modeling that teaches your child to react when things don’t go the way she wants.

  1. 3. Before you try to improve your child’s reactions, work on improving your reactions to his reactions.

Remember that your child is really NOT responsible for your behavior. How you respond to your child teaches your child how to behave.

To improve child behavior, improve your own.

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Impulsive Child Behavior

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, October 3rd, 2011

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Raising kids to better manage their impulses demands tremendous self-control.

As parents, we need to relate with the child in the way the child needs.

Reacting in anger and frustration is easy when the child’s behavior disturbs us.

Child parent relationship

Raising kids means relating to them in a way that helps them fulfill their higher potential.

But very often the child behavior that triggers our angry response actually calls for our loving understanding.

Reacting in anger, frustration, annoyance and impatience is NOT the same thing as effectively leading a child into more responsible behavior.

If your toddler hits you deliberately because he feels upset, your first impulse may be to react with harsh anger, or even to strike him back.

But that reaction can actually cause the child to develop more inappropriate physical aggression patterns.

Raising kids means relating to them in a way that helps them fulfill their higher potential.

What behaviors does your child engage in that
challenge your self-control the most?

What are some ways that you impulsively react to your child’s behavior that you would like to improve or change?

Share your thoughts and questions about parent self-control or child impulse management in this blog.

Your child’s behavior is to a significant extent a product of how you parent. To help our children develop responsible behavior, we need to demonstrate responsible behavior.

This often means NOT reacting based on our first impulse to our child’s behavior, but rather to exercise better self-control, so that we can match our response to what our children need to do better.

Raising our kids to better manage their impulsiveness demands raising ourselves to manage our own.

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