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Automatically emotionally reacting to child behavior can be described as the OPPOSITE of parenting wisdom.
Mechanically dishing out punishment for children when they display inappropriate behavior is like trying to fix your carâ€™s behavior problem without first understanding the cause â€“ while it may just be out of gas, you might be working on the breaks!
Disciplining children whose appropriate behavior stems from the fact that they are not feeling well physically is not all that different of a strategy.
When your childâ€™s behavior regresses, before reacting, consider the possibility that he may be â€ścoming down with something.â€ť
When it comes to advice for parents, there is really no such thing asÂ â€śone size fits allâ€ť.
Any number of factors can be contributing to a child behavior problem, and unless those are addressed, giving the child a â€śtime outâ€ť or trying any other way that you might punish a child will prove fruitless, and may even work against your parenting objectives.
If you know that your child is not feeling well physically, realize that it is more difficult, and it may even be impossible, for her to restrain herself from displaying inappropriate behavior â€“ even malicious behavior.
And please realize also that you are no different.Â When YOU are not feeling well you become more cranky, irritable, and difficult to please.Â You donâ€™t treat people as well as you know you should, including â€“ maybe even especially â€“ those you care the most about.
Instead of reflexively reacting in a harsh way to behaviors like whining, defiance, vicious sibling rivalry, destructiveness, or emotional fits, consider the cause.
It is possible that some influence is actually sapping your child of the power to live up to your expectations.
In those instances, being a stern disciplinarian may trigger even more serious behavior problems, because it will add pressure to your childâ€™s already over-taxing condition.
The reason why the child who feels unwell physically behaves poorly is because of the influence of his physical condition upon his emotional condition.
The more emotional a child feels the more difficult it is to get a child to listen, follow directions and rules, and behave in a considerate fashion.
In this situation it is usually best to respond with love, patience and understanding, not fierce discipline, because as you help the child feel better she will be able to do better.
When your child is emotional, due to a physical problem or any other provocation, to improve her behavior demonstrate the parenting wisdom of first considering the underlying cause.
In this blog, please provide examples of when your childâ€™s physical or emotional condition contributed to a behavior problem, and how you handled it.
And share any questions you have about the cause of any behavior problems you are facing, for parenting advice regarding what to do about them.