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Understand The Cause Of Child Behavior Problems

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, February 17th, 2012

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Any number of factors can be contributing to a child behavior problem, and unless those are addressed, giving the child a “time out” or trying any other way that you might punish a child will prove fruitless.

Automatically emotionally reacting to child behavior can be described as the OPPOSITE of parenting wisdom.

 

Mechanically dishing out punishment for children when they display inappropriate behavior is like trying to fix your car’s behavior problem without first understanding the cause – while it may just be out of gas, you might be working on the breaks!

 

Disciplining children whose appropriate behavior stems from the fact that they are not feeling well physically is not all that different of a strategy.

 

When your child’s behavior regresses, before reacting, consider the possibility that he may be “coming down with something.”

 

When it comes to advice for parents, there is really no such thing as  “one size fits all”.

 

Any number of factors can be contributing to a child behavior problem, and unless those are addressed, giving the child a “time out” or trying any other way that you might punish a child will prove fruitless, and may even work against your parenting objectives.

 

If you know that your child is not feeling well physically, realize that it is more difficult, and it may even be impossible, for her to restrain herself from displaying inappropriate behavior – even malicious behavior.

 

And please realize also that you are no different.  When YOU are not feeling well you become more cranky, irritable, and difficult to please.  You don’t treat people as well as you know you should, including – maybe even especially – those you care the most about.

 

Instead of reflexively reacting in a harsh way to behaviors like whining, defiance, vicious sibling rivalry, destructiveness, or emotional fits, consider the cause.

 

It is possible that some influence is actually sapping your child of the power to live up to your expectations.

 

In those instances, being a stern disciplinarian may trigger even more serious behavior problems, because it will add pressure to your child’s already over-taxing condition.

 

The reason why the child who feels unwell physically behaves poorly is because of the influence of his physical condition upon his emotional condition.

 

The more emotional a child feels the more difficult it is to get a child to listen, follow directions and rules, and behave in a considerate fashion.

 

In this situation it is usually best to respond with love, patience and understanding, not fierce discipline, because as you help the child feel better she will be able to do better.

 

When your child is emotional, due to a physical problem or any other provocation, to improve her behavior demonstrate the parenting wisdom of first considering the underlying cause.

 

In this blog, please provide examples of when your child’s physical or emotional condition contributed to a behavior problem, and how you handled it.


And share any questions you have about the cause of any behavior problems you are facing, for parenting advice regarding what to do about them.

 

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Create Great Times With Your Kids

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, February 9th, 2012

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Children and parents thrive on a positive, creative relationship with one another.

 

Child Behavior Improvement Tip

Child behavior improves when parents engage with their children in loving, creative ways

Child behavior improves when parents engage with their children in loving, creative ways.

 

Parents feel energized, rather than drained, by their time with their kids when they focus on creating great times with them.

 

Raising children becomes easier, more fun and produces better behaved children when parents work on making their time with their kids interesting, exciting and pleasant.

 

When parents see children as wild creatures they need to control, instead of as wonderful partners in creating joyful times together, parenting feels more like a burden than a blessing.

 

Raising kids well takes work, but remember to work at making every moment with your child a positively engaging experience for you both.

 

Parenting skills should not just be about disciplining children.  They need to be about coming up with clever ways of being with the child and leading the child through joyful acts of bonding.

 

Parenting Tips:

1. Don’t just tell your child what to do.  Think up a playful way to lead.  For instance, if you need to turn off the TV because your child has been watching long enough, dance and sing as you do it, to see if you can get a smile instead of a frown.

 

2. Does your child resist bedtime?  Make it part of your PARENT discipline to remain loving, and to find new and creative ways to start bedtime each evening.  For instance, you might bend over and speak to your child with your head upside down.  You might race your child to his bed.

 

3. Brainstorm with your spouse, or even with your child, to come up with fun, creative ways to lead your child into responsible behavior.

 

Passive parenting is so much more fun than stern, serious parenting.

Would you like to receive some creative, fun ideas for handling a child behavior problem?

Share them in this blog to receive some creative, fun AND PRACTICAL parenting tips.

 

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Being Patient With Inappropriate Child Behavior

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

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This blog post is about the wisdom of patient parenting.

 

Wisdom Of Patient Parenting With Inappropriate Child Behavior

For parenting your child with wisdom, you sometimes have to be patient with NOT KNOWING what to do about a child discipline challenge

To follow the guidance of wisdom with our children often requires patience.

 

For instance, you may not know exactly what it will take from you to motivate your child to, say, eat with utensils instead of with his fingers, to seriously apply herself to homework, to stop screaming out in public.

 

Wisdom comes with a flash of inspiration, but kids often catch us off guard with a surprising behavior.

 

A problem, for instance a child telling lies, can come out of the blue.

 

You have a parenting expert within you, an inner parenting guide that can lead you.

 

But the parenting guidance you need may not always arrive as quickly as you want it to.

 

Wisdom follows a rhythmic, cyclic pattern like all organic processes.

 

It blooms at times, but at other times it seems to lie dormant.  At those times, we just don’t know what to do to be successful parents, to help our children fulfill their great potential.

 

You don’t have to know all the answers right away to be a good parent. If that was necessary, there would be no good parents!

 

For parenting your child with wisdom, you sometimes have to be patient with NOT KNOWING what to do about a child discipline challenge.

 

Remain calm, even while your child behaves inappropriately, with your mind open and alert to recognize the dawning of a positive parenting strategy.

 

Try not to worry about your child drawing the conclusion that you approve of his unacceptable behavior.  That will only stress you out, and when you feel stress you make child behavior problems more difficult, if not impossible, for you to solve.

 

Some child behavior solutions can take months to solve!  Some behaviors remain beyond our parental control, and we simply have to endure the problem, without making it worse, until the child outgrows it.

 

Patience means trusting the time it takes for wisdom’s inner guidance to lead you.

 

Passive parenting means you do less than you can to help your child develop responsible behavior.

Patient parenting means that you avoid reacting hastily, and await and follow wisdom’s guidance.

What challenging behaviors does your child demonstrate that you feel clueless about solving?

Share them in this blog to receive some practical suggestions.

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