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Child Behavior: Parenting Skill of Expectation

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, August 24th, 2012
Parenting Skills For Solving Behavior Problems

Too often we give our children answers to remember rather than problems to solve. ~ Roger Lewin

The power of expectation is something that it would be wise for parents to master.

 

When you employ expectation as a parenting skill, you receive great parenting support.

 

In a sense, what you expect from your child is what you will get from your child.

 

But this does not mean that you will not go through some disappointment in your parent-child relationship.

 

Expecting wonderful child behavior from your child helps your child to demonstrate wonderful behavior.

 

But it does NOT necessarily mean that your child’s behavior will immediately match your expectations.

 

The parenting skill of expectation that we parents need to develop is unconditional positive expectation.  Another way of describing this is unconditional faith in our children.

 

When your child behaves in a disturbing way, maintain your faith in your child.

 

Children don’t need their parents to worry about them.  Children need their parents to believe in them.

 

Your belief in your child, your faith in your child, your expectation that your child WILL behave beautifully functions as a positive parenting power that supports the manifestation of your that beautiful behavior.

 

Parenting Skills For Raising Children

“Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry.” ~ Alvin Price

Of course, maintaining consistent belief in your child is not the only parenting skill we need to employ to resolve or avoid child behavior problems and to manifest magnificent child conduct.

 

But it is among the most important parenting skills, because the degree to which you feel insecure about your child’s ability to behave well, to that degree you undermine any other efforts you might make in the child-parent relationship.

 

Expecting a child to fail, envisioning a child letting you down, doubting a child’s ability to perform well, worrying about a child misbehaving, causes the power of expectation to work against both parent and child.

 

The vision of the future that you hold in mind, coupled with the emotional attitude you feel toward that vision, directs the manifestation process of your life.

 

Despite past experiences, however tempting it may feel to worry about your child, practice the parenting skill of unconditional positive expectation to support positive child behavior.

 


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