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Parenting Wisdom For Developing Your Child’s Leadership

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

 

Give your kids all the freedom to control themselves that you can, but not too much.  Giving them enough freedom to find their own way develops their sense of who they really are and what they really want to do.  This prepares them to be able to find their own authentic path to fulfillment and success in adulthood.

Parenting Help For Child Development

Do not ask that your kids live up to your expectations. Let your kids be who they are, and your expectations will be in breathless pursuit. ~ Robert Brault

 

It develops the child’s self-leadership power.

 

But of course, avoid giving kids too much responsibility for themselves.  You need to closely monitor your child to recognize when you need to intervene and establish boundaries.

 

If you give a child more freedom than he or she can responsibly handle, the child oversteps appropriate behavior boundaries and develops habitual behavior problems.

 

And when you do step in, avoid disciplining children using behaviors you don’t want them to copy, because nature programs children to imitate the behaviors that they witness and receive.

 

This means that yelling at children teaches them to yell.  Hitting children teaches them to hit.  Harshly criticizing and complaining to kids teaches them to display those negative speech patterns.

 

Remember this child behavior principle: How you react to not getting your way with your kids teaches your kids how to react when they don’t get their way.

 

Our responsibility as parents is to prepare our children to intelligently and constructively handle NOT getting their way.  This means responding to not getting their way in a way that really works for them, in a way that helps them to get your way in time.

 

This amounts to teaching kids the wise leadership skill of accountability.

 

Here is how that skill works:  Rather than blowing their top and blaming others when they do not like what happens, wise leaders accept responsibility for recognizing what they have done that led to what is happening, and how they can change to improve their results.

 

As you apply this parenting wisdom for developing leadership skill in your child, your child will demonstrate improved child behavior and you will not have to work as hard to keep your child’s conduct on a positive track.

 

Raising Children to Make Good Friends

By Noah Brown   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

Encourage your children to share their experiences

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

If your child is introvert and hesitates in building and developing friendships at school and play, it is a time for you to help and motivate your child to make friends.

 

Read more: http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/01/17/raising-children-to-make-good-friends/

 

Parenting Advice For Raising Successful Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012
Positive Inspiration For Raising Kids

In our hurry to be a perfect parent, we risk excessive discipline or over indulgence. Keep the balance. Be a parent, friend, guide and mentor to your child.

When we react to child behavior with anger, stress and strain, we may be trying too hard to help our children succeed in living up to our expectations.

 

We parents want our children to follow our rules, but the parenting strategy we employ to make that happen may undermine our objective, cause us pointless parent frustration and cause the child needless suffering.

 

Reacting with impatience and anger to motivate your child to do as you say makes parenting children a miserable strain and drain AND it doesn’t really work.

 

While routinely reacting to a child’s lapse in behavior with harsh, angry criticism, pitiful complaining and intimidating demands is a common parenting strategy, it can undermine the child’s ability to succeed in life.

 

You may get your child to comply with your demand by yelling, threatening or complaining in extreme frustration, but the intense dissatisfaction you express erodes the child’s self-confidence and self-esteem.

 

This emotional erosion not only causes the child needless suffering, it ends up lowering the child’s ability to perform and ends up worsening the child’s behavior problem in the long run.

 

Raising kids who are self-motivated to be successful requires that we honor their need to believe in themselves.

 

When children believe in themselves, they feel motivated to do their best to live up to their parent’s positive expectations, as well as the expectations of teachers. 

 

Build Self Confidence In Children

Love your children the way they are. Each child is unique, each child is special.

They see themselves capable of succeeding, and this can develop into a long term pattern of positive motivation.

 

When a child sees himself as capable of succeeding, the child has the motivation to do what it takes to succeed.

 

So the parent advice we need is how to constructively and compassionately lead children into higher performance.

 

The answer is for the parent to lose the habit of angry criticism and complaining.  Replace it with closer supervision and more constructive involvement in the parent child relationship.

 

Calmly guide your child to follow the rule that he breaks.  Each time that you help her to successfully follow the rule her self-discipline grows stronger.

 

Pro-actively engage the child in, say, flushing the toilet, turning off the light when he leaves the room, closing his drawers, cleaning up his mess before moving into another activity, instead of impatiently criticizing, complaining or blowing your top.

 

When you see her about to, say, use her fingers to eat her pasta, remind her to use her fork.  When she follows the rule, even with your help, she see’s herself succeeding.  You can nurture her self-esteem further by saying something like, “Good work.”

 

Each time you give your child the help he needs to succeed, your child receives a “training” that develops his drive and commitment to success.

 

Admittedly, following this parenting advice for raising successful children takes work, but it is proves less taxing and far more constructive, than relying on reactions of extreme harshness.

 

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