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Love Of Parents Improves Chid Behavior

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Tuesday, December 25th, 2012
Children are educated by what the grown-up is and not by his talk. ~ Carl Jung

Effective communication with your child betters child parent relationships.

How pleasant it is for a father to sit at his child’s board. It is like an aged man reclining under the shadow of an oak which he has planted.
~ Voltaire

 

Parenting Can be Overwhelming

By Guest Author   |  Wednesday, December 19th, 2012

 

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Aaran.

 

Parental Involvement

“Having children makes you no more a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist.” ~ Michael Levine

If one makes a list of some of the most difficult jobs to do in the world, then parenting should definitely feature in that list probably at the top of the list.

 

Especially, managing children in the age group of 1 to 3 can be extremely difficult. It is a very delicate age group, and you need to handle children in that age group with the utmost care.

 

This is the age group where children start to learn things. They sometimes try to imitate parents and imbibe the characteristics of the parents. So you need to watch what you say or how you behave in front of your kids.

 

Single Parenting is Particularly Difficult

 

If you are a single parent, then your troubles will be compounded. There can be various reasons why you are a single parent. You may be a divorcee, and you get the custody of your child, or your spouse may have died, and you choose not to remarry, or you might have gotten pregnant either by choice or chance without opting to get married.

 

No matter what the reason is for being a single parent, the job is only going to get more and more difficult. One of the popular quotes on parenting that I found online comes to my mind. Here it goes – “A mother who is really a mother is never free.”

 

Expenses Can Significantly Increase

 

First of all, you need to make sure your job or business doesn’t get affected. The expenditure for children at a very young age will be significantly more than when they grow up.

 

Of course, there are going to be other expenses when they grow up, but when they are young, there will be many unnecessary expenses which are quite difficult to avoid.

 

Work Life May be Affected

 

You need to strike a proper balance between your work and parenting. Research has shown that parenthood can affect the productivity levels of employees in the office.

 

If you are a business owner, even then things would be affected since taking care of businesses, either small or large, requires more time and attention than normal jobs.
When you are away for work, you can’t take your children along with you. Some offices allow bringing your children to work since there are separate rooms in some offices for small children. However, not all offices have these facilities.

 

Even if you leave your children in those rooms, you won’t be able to concentrate on your work fully. You will be constantly going and checking on what the child is doing.

 

Also, only a small baby which is under a year old is suitable for taking with you to the office. Children above one year of age are usually very naughty and quite difficult to manage.

 

Nannies Are an Option

 

This leaves you with the option of hiring professional nannies to take care of your children at home when you are at work. It is true that hiring nannies can get quite expensive. But at least your child will be taken care of even in your absence.

 

An article by Aaran who loves reading inspirational quotes and photography. Find some of his favorite sayings about relationship at FinestQuotes.com

Inspiring Children Towards Persistence

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Tuesday, December 18th, 2012
Child Behavior Inspiring Children

“We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future.” ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Parents can promote persistence by encouraging their children to keep going and not give in at the slightest hurdle or difficulty.”

–         Michael Grose

 

The ability to persist or stay committed to a task till its successful accomplishment is an important quality of positive child behavior that you should try to develop in your child.

 

From learning to tie shoelaces to achieving his career goal, persistence defines the success of any task that a child undertakes. Children need to stick to the job despite the flood of difficulties and hurdles they face while putting in efforts for reaching their goals.

 

This parenting advice aims help parents in inspiring children to be persistent and self-motivated.

 

Follow your child’s interests

 

This is a basic principle of helping children learn quickly as they always stick to a task they find their interest in. The pleasure and pride children gain after successful completion of work encourages them to undertake new purposes and attain new career peaks in the future.

 

Appreciate your children when they pursue a task

 

Appreciation is an important lesson in children education. Every time you see your child sticking on to a task for a long time despite initial failure, give him a pat on his back, hug him or reward him with a chocolate or so.

 

If you feel he is about to give up just simplify the things a bit or tempt him with a reward so that he stays motivated till he achieves success. The taste of success will encourage him to accept more challenges.

 

Help him draw courage from past achievements

 

You can also inspire your child to stay committed from her past experiences when she had finally pulled off things after defying all odds. Instill wisdom in kids that persistence always pays off.

Just be patient and keep trying. It will help her to hang on and keep pursuing the .

 

Be supportive and helpful

 

Don’t leave your children helpless with their tasks. Though you should motivate your children to be as independent as possible but predict and respond proactively when they need you.

 

Define the limits to the children clearly but always leave room for flexibility. Parenting a child requires lots of patience and maturity.

 

Remember, childhood is about more fun and less restrictions. That’s how a child learns and prepares himself for future.

 

How well do you know your child?

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012

 

By Antara and Pankaj Sharma

 

How well do you know your child?

 

Ask any parent this question and usual response will be an instant positive affirmation, the “I-know-her-better-than-she-knows-herself” kind. And then maybe in a deeper afterthought, “well-I-think-I-know-her-well”… and so it will go on.  Deeper introspection, more doubts…

 

Parenting Children QuotesIt is a tough question that will usually fetch easy, instant answers and then maybe some second thoughts after a pause. Parents like to believe they know their children very well. Many parents do. But there are also parents who do not know their children as well as they should.

 

They are not aware of the thought processes of their children; they are not keen to know the flights of imagination their child is taking in his own little world; they do not care to find out how their child whiles his idle time.

 

In short, they do not think it is essential to put in enough efforts in raising children as good, caring, responsible human beings.

 

As America tries to come to terms with the horrifying Connecticut shooting, parents all across the country and the world are shaken in grief and disbelief.

 

Law enforcement authorities and the media are trying to piece together the reasons behind what forced the alleged 20-year-old shooter to spray bullets on unsuspecting, innocent 6-7 year old children and 6 adults in the quiet, upscale Sandy Hook Elementary School.

 

“But those who knew the alleged shooter grasped to reconcile the difference between the quiet, withdrawn 20-year-old without a criminal record and the man who donned black fatigues and a military vest and rained hell at the Newtown, Connecticut, school last week,” says a report in CNN.

 

 

According to reports, Adam and his elder brother Ryan, 24, were affected by their parent’s divorce in 2009. His father Peter Lanza is a successful business executive and mother Nancy Lanza was a school teacher.

 

Both the children were staying with their mother who is reported to have been a collector of guns and even took her sons to practice shooting. A Washington Post report says, “How many guns Nancy had is not clear, though authorities say several were registered to her, including the ones used in the massacre.”

 

“These are assault weapons. You don’t hunt deer with these things,” Governor Dannel Malloy said on the CNN program “State of the Union”, the Chicago Tribune quoted in a report.

 

Wisdom QuotesParents play a deciding role in shaping the behavior and mind of their children. While home is the first school of children, parents are the first teachers. Children imbibe values and wisdom from the atmosphere that surrounds them.

 

If compassion, care and sense of security make them good human beings; dejection, rejection, and negligence can turn them into explosive livewires. It is not clear what led to the Friday rampage as several media reports said it was “nice, pleasant family” quoting people who knew the family.

 

A CNN report quoted one of Lanza’s aunts as saying, “Lanza’s mother “battled” with the school board and ended up having her son home-schooled.”

 

“She had issues with school,” the aunt, who lives in Crystal Lake, Illinois, said, quoted the report. “I’m not 100% certain if it was behavior or learning disabilities, but he was a very, very bright boy. He was smart.”

 

As more details of this tragedy emerge, so do more baffling questions.

 

Connecticut shooting is a waking alarm for parents. We do not know what led to this young man to do this… but one thing is clear, parents need to sit up and take note of their parenting goals.

 

It is not to enforce their own ambitions on their kids without understanding their needs and interests.

It is not to ignore a child’s regressive loneliness as a natural trait.

It is not to leave children to their own devices without keeping a close watch on what those devices are how they are being used.

 

Parenting children has become more difficult than ever in this over-communicated world where children are exposed daily to news about violence, aggression and oppression early in age.

 

There is no dearth of parenting advice on how to raise children in a secure, protective, healthy and positive environment but the ground rule remains the same.

 

  • Strengthen child parent relationships.
  • Win the confidence of your child.
  • Do not behave like ring masters while disciplining your child.
  • Become their friend, philosopher and guide so that they can discuss both their problems and dreams with you.
  • Instill positive behavior in your children.
  • Parent with care, compassion, values, honesty and integrity.
  • Raise children who contribute to society positively.

 

Antara is a former journalist and a mum of a 7-year-old and Pankaj Sharma is a promising staff writer.

Discordant Child Parent Relationship: The Root Of Behavior Problems

By Guest Author   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Neha

 

As the entire nation mourns the Connecticut tragedy, questions are being raised on the growing discord and tensions in child parent relationships.

Child Parent Relationships

Let parents bequeath to their children not riches, but the spirit of reverence.
~ Plato

 

How a quiet 20-year-old could gun down 20 innocent children, 6 adults, reportedly his own mother and then himself, has left parents horrified, shaken and wondering what went so hopelessly wrong.

 

“I know there’s not a parent in America who doesn’t feel the same overwhelming grief that I do. The majority of those who died today were children, beautiful little kids between five and 10 years old,” President Obama had said in an emotional address. “They had their entire lives ahead of them — birthdays, graduations, weddings, kids of their own.”

 

A lot of soul-searching needs to be done, to understand how deep an influence parents have on their children.

 

Being a parent, you have the most important role to play in shaping your child’s mind, attitude, behavior, values and character. Why would a reclusive boy like Adam Lanza who was described as one “who excelled in academics but apparently not in forming deep friendships” by those who knew him, would resort to such mindless carnage?

 

According to reports in the media, Adam Lanza hardly interacted with anyone, didn’t have a Facebook account, and was “withdrawn but not threatening in any way”.

 

In fact, the school authorities reportedly don’t have a picture of Adam Lanza.

 

The Washington Post quoted Beth Israel, who lived for a time on the same street as the Lanzas, as saying, “Overall, I would just call him a socially awkward kid, I don’t know, shy and quiet. Didn’t really look you in the eye,” Israel said in a telephone interview Friday night. “Just kind of a weird kid, maybe. I can’t tell you any specific incidents why [I thought so],” she said.

 

It should be a matter of concern for any parent. Your child may be shy, introvert and quiet. But being a loner with no friends and virtually no communication with others could be the root of a serious behavior problem and needs a closer attention.

 

Ironically Adam Lanza has an older brother – Ryan Lanza who unlike him, is sociable and successful. As a parent, one has to understand that every child has different needs and must be treated accordingly.

 

Lecturing your child won’t make much of an impact on him unless you develop a connection with your child. Shouting and screaming doesn’t work at all.

 

Being extra demanding or resorting to oppressive discipline can prove counter-productive.

 

If your child’s self-esteem is low and your child lives in a lonely, self-created world, as a parent you need to take immediate corrective measures to address such behavior problems.

 

As your child grows through the years, you have to keep a close watch on how he gets along with others, the type of friends he makes, the kind of toys and games he likes to play and what he thinks, feels, says and shares.

 

Child development means wholesome, healthy growth of your child’s physical, intellectual, attitudinal and emotional wellbeing.

 

A peaceful family life, based on a strong, supportive parent child relationship encourages healthy, happy, soaring success of every family member and in turn ensures a harmonious society.

 

Neha Arora is a promising staff writer at Wisitech InfoSolutions Pvt Ltd. The views expressed here are her own

The Indomitable Human Spirit: Xander Vento, 4, Dies To Save 3-Year-Old Girl From Drowning

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012

 

Bravery knows no barrier – neither age nor physique.


Xander Vento – a 4-year-old boy from Texas – dared death and displayed a supreme act of humanity when he lost his life while saving a 3-year-old girl from drowning at a neighborhood pool in Fort Worth, Texas.

 

Parenting Advice: Instill Moral Values in Your Children

Xander Vento displayed indomitable act of humanity when he sacrificed his life to save a girl from drowning.

Xander Vento and the 3-year-old girl were in the pool when the girl started to drown. Vento held the struggling girl’s head above water until she was safe, but he became exhausted and slipped below the water’s surface, The Associated Press reported. The epitome of utmost bravery finally succumbed to a three-day long coma.

 

“We in some way hope our son’s life serves as an inspiration. He was the angel in the pool who sacrificed himself to save another. And now he continues to give as an organ donor. We were blessed to have such a kind and caring boy as Xander who set an example for all of us and even now he will be saving lives by giving of himself.”

—      Cris and Misty Vento, parents of Xander Vento

(Courtesy: NBCNEWS)

 

Xander led the way to prove that you need not to grow in age to perform extraordinary. He defies his age to do something that even an adult would hesitate to attempt. At an age when a child thinks about his wants and desires, such a feat can make even the most prolific psychologists to revisit their books on child behavior.

 

The example of this brave kid gives valuable parenting advice to parents who believe that books can teach everything to children. No book can be as effective as the surroundings in which the child dwells in helping a child learn the universal human values of love, sacrifice, humanity, compassion and courage, effectively. The learning induced through inspiration is more effective than imparting the same theoretically.

 

The role of good parenting is crucial in inspiring children. If you want to teach the lesson of respect and humanity to your kids, you need to practice these in your life. Seeing you helping a blind person in crossing the road or showing respect to elders will inspire him to do the same when he will get the opportunity.

 

Hats off to Xander Vento whose desire to help others live was stronger than the choice to save his own life first.

 

About Lying In Children And Importance Of Telling The Truth

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012

 

Editor’s Note: This is a guest blog by Pankaj Sharma

 

In my last blog “Parenting Help: Curbing The Habit of Lying in Children”, I discussed the reasons that prompt children to lie. This blog suggests effective parenting tips that help you curb the habit of lying in children.

 

Honesty In Children

Always tell the Truth. That way, you don’t have to remember what you said.
~ Mark Twain

Having a lying child is a nightmare for every parent.

 

On the one side, you would want your child to be creative and imaginative and story-telling is a great means of encouraging this.

 

But on the other hand, you would also want to teach your child the importance of honesty and of telling the truth. Teaching children the difference between imaginative storytelling and unscrupulous lying is a tricky balance you need to meet.

 

Following some effective parenting advice that will help you discourage the habit of lying in your children:

 

Encourage the Positive Behavior

 

“Catch children being good! Children repeat behaviors that get attention; they give up behaviors that get no attention. “

~ Child Welfare League of America

 

Praising a child for displaying positive behavior further encourages him to stick to good habits. Appreciate your child every time she accepts her mistakes and stays honest. Let her experience the joy of telling the truth. It will instill wisdom in children to learn positive behavior.

 

Role Modeling

 

We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~ Tad Williams

Children imitate and imbibe values from people around them. Make sure you don’t resort to lying when your kids are around.

 

Communicate the importance of truthfulness by narrating stories that highlight the power of truth and also emphasize on the harmful consequences of lying.

 

Make your child aware about the scenarios when lying caused problems to different individuals. Moral fairy tales and stories such as “Pinocchio” and “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” can prove helpful.

 

Stay Attentive to Your Child’s Lies

 

Parents should be on their toes when it comes to catching lies and disciplining children.

 

Children lie either to seek attention or to escape an uncomfortable situation and succeeding in the same promotes the habit of lying in children.

 

It is very important to catch and correct every little lie your child tells. Every time you catch a lie you get an opportunity to teach honesty to your child.

 

Also, the fear of being caught and facing embarrassment discourages the habit of lying in children.

 

Punishment is not the Solution

 

Punishing lying children with spanking or yelling is not going to solve the problem. The threat of punishment can turn children into smarter and more frequent liars. Deal with this in a calm and collected manner.

 

Mentor your child firmly yet positively on why lying is wrong and should never be repeated again.

 

Your controlled reaction will make it clear to your child that speaking the truth and being honest will always be appreciated while lying will spell trouble.

 

 

When is it Okay for Kids to Use a Kindle or iPad?

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This post is by Guest Author Brenda Stevens)

 

When we were students, we spent countless hours buried in books in the library doing research on our school paper or report.

 

teaching children

“I’m more interested in arousing enthusiasm in kids than in teaching the facts. The facts may change, but that enthusiasm for exploring the world will remain with them the rest of their lives.” ~ Seymour Simon

All kids need now is a laptop, mobile phone, e-reader, or tablet and they have all the resources they need within a few clicks.

 

This change raises some important questions.

 

Are our children ready for all that screen time?

 

What is a safe age to start introducing technology to our toddlers and young children?

 

There is no stopping the pace of technology advancement around us and its influence on our daily lives. As we see more and more young children spending countless hours on their iPads and Kindles, how do we know if they are ready to take on these gadgets.

 

Many of us are worried about how these changes can affect the formative years of our child.

 

Here is a structure for slowly and safely introducing this tech into your son or daughter’s life.

1-2 Years Old

 

Generally speaking, children under 2 are still too young to make full use of the iPad or the Kindle. Sure, they will appreciate the colorful graphics and animations but the screens itself provide limited sensory experience.

 

At this stage, it is best to let your child explore the real 3-dimensional world. Allow them to touch the snow or feel the softness of a marshmallow for the first time.

 

Encourage them to play with their shadows and run in a grass field. While these things seem simple enough to us, to a child these experiences will help hone their development. There is no level of screen resolutions that will offer this kind of understanding of the world around us.

Toddler Years

 

Now that your toddler is starting to recognize colors, shapes, and the alphabet, we can introduce them to the wonderful world of iPads and Kindles.

 

Just make sure to monitor and limit their screen time to avoid taking over their daily routines.

 

Thankfully, there is a wide array of child-friendly apps and electronic books to help with your child’s speech and cognitive development.

Pre-School Years

 

The iPad and Kindle are excellent ways to encourage your child to read. At this stage, it is best to go for interactive books that double as an educational toy to help them with their studies.

 

Ebooks are just beginning to evolve into larger immersive experiences, and quick access to dictionaries and the sounding out of words means that your child can quickly build their vocabulary and reading comprehension.

 

Depending on how we use them, e-readers and tablets work to your child’s advantage. The important thing is that we set limitations and monitor them as they explore these gadgets.

 

Brenda Stevens is a techy mom and blogger who writes about all things family. You can find her helping families calculate their baby conception date at DueDateCalculator.org.

Teaching Your Kids to Eat Healthy

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This blog post is by Guest Author Jacqui Vincent)

 

Eating habits are often developed at an early age. It is no surprise that many of us turn to our childhood comfort foods, in times of distress.

 

Teaching Children Healthy Eating Habits

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well. ~ Virginia Woolf

Childhood obesity is a growing concern. Unhealthy eating habits can make kids prone to cholesterol and diseases.

 

As parents and caregivers, it is essential to teach kids to eat healthy, starting at an early age. Eating healthy can have enormous benefits by giving your child that extra insurance in health and also by keeping diseases at bay.

 

Children are often resistant and determined to eat what they like. How exactly do you go about introducing healthy eating habits in your child? Here are a few tips that could help you develop better eating habits in your child.

 

Develop a Long-Term Plan

 

If your kids have been consistently eating fast foods and takeout, chances are they will rebel if you insist on a complete overhaul of their diet. In other words, plan to move gradually towards a healthier lifestyle.

 

Start off by replacing snacks with veggies and dips or fruits. Introduce healthier sides and entrees.

 

Start using heart-friendly cooking substitutes.

 

Switch to whole grains, lean proteins and leaner dairy products.

 

You might be surprised how well your children will adapt to your new plan.

 

Teaching Children

When we learn to eat properly we begin to rebuild our bodies and to fulfill our purpose on this planet to grow in health, creativity, wisdom, and compassion. ~ Dr. Ann Wigmore

Involve Kids in Food Planning and Preparation

 

Children love to be involved. Kids who are actively engaged in menu planning, grocery shopping and food preparation are receptive to trying new foods.

 

Eat a Variety of Foods

 

Introducing a variety of foods will help kids get more nutrients, and develop a palate that is more receptive to new foods.

 

Boredom may revert kids to junk foods. Giving them a choice of delicious, healthy foods will keep hunger at bay and lead them to make healthier eating choices.

 

Portion Control is Key

 

It is important to teach kids to eat the right portions. Portion sizes have been increasing over the years. The average size of a pizza slice or a muffin is not the same anymore.

 

Kids need to be educated about the difference between eating to curb hunger and overeating. Demonstrate healthy portions at meal times and help kids develop visual cues about serving sizes.

 

Eat Together and Eat Slowly

 

Eating too fast may result in overeating. Children need to be reminded to eat slowly. Also, eating together and having family meal times leads to healthier eating habits in children.

 

As with everything else, consistency is key. Children watch and learn. Living by example and following long-term strategies are surely beneficial in teaching your kids to eat healthy.

 

These great parenting tips are brought to you by Jacqui Vincent, mum of four and the owner of MyBabyShoes, Australia’s leading online retailer of children’s shoes.

Have Fun Raising Children

By Noah Brown   |  Thursday, December 13th, 2012

Of course, your kids still need to have a strong parent to help teach them right from wrong, dangerous and safe as well as good and bad but there should also be fun in your child parent relations too. Children tend to drown out negative comments, if they occur too often. Kids are more apt to listen to their parents if they can actually enjoy spending time with them.

Bonding time makes parenting kids much easier because the children are more relaxed with their parents.

Parenting kids is easier if you let yourself have fun and enjoy spending time with them

Remember, there are no cell phones, laptops or handheld video games while camping. Older parents might want to use an air mattress while younger ones might want to “rough it” by sleeping on the ground. The choice is yours as long as you spend the time together, all will be great!

 

Read more http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/03/13/have-fun-raising-children/

 

5 Tips to Get Your Kid To Sleep in Her Own Bed

By Noah Brown   |  Wednesday, December 12th, 2012

Sometimes, it becomes near-to-impossible task for the parents to convince their child to sleep in their own beds. Eventually the battle concludes with children sharing bedroom space with their parents.

According to the National Sleep Foundation (NSF), “as many as 24% of parents have their children sleep in their beds for at least part of the night.”

According to the National Sleep Foundation (NSF), “as many as 24% of parents have their children sleep in their beds for at least part of the night.”

While this child behavior invades the privacy of parents, it also leaves working couples restless and fatigued. Toddlers, preschoolers, or even school-goers across the world importune to sleep in their parents’ bedrooms.

 

Read more: http://marilyncramer1.livejournal.com/

 

 

Simple Yet Essential Life Wisdom Quotes For Kids

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Monday, December 10th, 2012
Inspiring Children to Win

Yours is the energy that makes your world.
There are no limitations to the self except those you believe in.
~Jane Roberts

Inspiring Self Confidence In Kids

Your chances of success in any undertaking can always be measured by your belief in yourself.
~ Robert Collier

Parenting Children To Succeed

Real success is finding your lifework in the work that you love.~ David McCullough

 

Parents: Help Your Child Develop Healthy Self-Esteem

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, December 10th, 2012
self confidence in children

We are each gifted in a unique and important way. It is our privilege and our adventure to discover our own special light. ~ Mary Dunbar

 

Parents pass any self-esteem issues they might have onto their child.

 

So protecting your child’s self-esteem and self-confidence starts with healing your own.

 

Building self-esteem is really about letting go of the ideas of ourselves that belittle us.

 

Realize that how you think of yourself is just a thought-habit.  

 

Thought is creative, though, meaning that you become more and more like the person you think of yourself as being.

 

Therefore, begin relating with your thoughts more strategically.

 

Instead of automatically identifying with the thoughts you think about yourself, consider if the thought represents the kind of person you really want to be.

 

When you think of yourself as inadequate or disappointing in any way, your creative thought-power works against you.

 

Self-defeating, counter-productive thought patterns are habitual, so it takes time to weaken and finally lose the habit of thinking negatively about ourselves.

 

Each time you catch yourself thinking a demoralizing thought about yourself, remember that you are not the person you think of yourself as being.  This can help you to let go of that thought.

 

Another practice that can help you free yourself from self-esteem issues, and protect your child from low self-esteem as well, involves spending some time daily thinking about the strengths and abilities that you want to demonstrate.

 

Close your eyes and try to visualize yourself expressing true greatness.  This exercise “harnesses” the creative power of thought to give birth to your greater potential.

 

This exercise in creative positive thought forming will be undermined, though, if you do not diligently practice noticing what you think of yourself when you think of yourself.  Otherwise, your habitual, unconscious, negative self-concept will diminish the power of your efforts to liberate yourself.

 

The sooner you let go of counter-productive thoughts of yourself, the more quickly you liberate the greater self you can be.  And the more you pass on that wonderful condition of healthy self-esteem to your child.

 

Imagining yourself as strong, capable, intelligent, loving, happy, healthy and talented not only helps you to fulfill your great potential, it will help your child do the same.

 

Helping Your Child Overcome a Fear of the Dentist

By Guest Author   |  Monday, December 10th, 2012

There is something about lying helplessly on a chair amid glaring lights, unfamiliar sights, and nerve-wracking sounds in the dentist’s office that turns even the most macho of men into nervous cowards.

 

parenting kids without fear

A positive attitude of both parents and the dentist makes your child feel comfortable in the dentist chair.

If the dentist can cause adults to shake in their boots, how do you think the younger folks among us feel?

 

Parents of small children know the effort it can take to get children to cooperate at the dentist, especially if previous visits were not the best of experiences.

 

If you have kids, the last thing you want to do is create a habit of perpetual fear that makes going to the dentist a dreaded occasion for everyone involved. A successful first visit can set the stage for a lifetime of positive dental experiences.

 

Start Early

 

Early dental attention is important to dental health throughout one’s life. In addition, early trips to the dentist can help a parent know how best to care for her child’s teeth.

 

One of the biggest mistakes a parent can make is putting off the child’s first dental visit until an issue arises that needs attention. If the first trip to the dentist involves pain and discomfort, the child learns that the dentist’s office is an unpleasant place to be.

 

Early visits to the dentist can be a fun experience for your child, especially if you choose a dentist that specializes in pediatric care. Such dental offices are prepared to make dental appointments a positive experience for your child.

 

Many dentists are joining the ADA in recommending a first visit to the dentist by age 1 in order to catch any early problems and to start kids on the path to appreciating a healthy mouth.

 

Choose Well

 

Finding a dentist for your child is an important task. The attitude of the dentist and his staff has the possibility of affecting your child’s dental experiences for the rest of his life. Some helpful ideas for selecting a dentist include:

 

  • Recommendations – Ask other parents about their kids’ dentists. Word of mouth is a great way to find out who is good and who to avoid.
  • Tour – Once you have narrowed down your choices, stop in for a tour of the office. Child-friendly dental offices should feature bright colors, child-size seats, exciting decorations, and child-appropriate teaching materials.
  • Check Credentials – A quick call to the state licensing board or the American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry (AAPD) will ensure that the dentist of your choice has the proper licenses to practice in the field of pediatric dentistry. In addition, you may want to make a call to the dental office to find out how long the dentist has been practicing, both as a dentist and as a child-specialized dentist.

 

Parents Make a Difference

 

There are many things a parent can do to make dental experiences more enjoyable for children. Children pick up on the attitudes of their parents, whether positive or negative. Here are some great tips for you as a parent:

 

  • Don’t tell scary stories – If you have had bad experiences at the dentist, your child does not need to hear about them.
  • Go first – If possible, schedule an appointment to see the dentist right before your child. This may not always be possible with pediatric dentists, but it boosts confidence considerably to see mom or dad happily survive his time in the scary-looking chair.
  • Keep it honest – Don’t tell your children that it won’t hurt or that nothing is going to happen. If they do end up experiencing any pain, they will lose confidence in your word regarding future visits.

 

Meg Jones enjoys the opportunity to write about family and home issues, especially when it comes to nurturing children.  If you are looking for a Dover dentist, there are many very fine care centers available that specialize in working with children.

Parenting Help: Curbing The Habit of Lying in Children

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Saturday, December 1st, 2012

 

One of the common behavior problems in children is lying. Children lie or make false stories to get away with mistakes or simply for fun. While some stories are harmless, some lies demand both caution and concern of parents. Many parents who do not check this at the right time, later seek parenting help for curbing this habit in their kids

Improving Child Behavior

Always tell the truth – it’s the easiest thing to remember. ~ David Mamet

 

Just as story-telling is to be encouraged to boost creativity in child, the habit of lying needs to be corrected early.

 

As parents, you should watch your kid carefully to draw a line between harmless story-telling and growing dishonesty.

 

If you find your child telling tall tales or narrating outright lies, it is the time for you to take definite steps to correct such child behavior.

 

Why Children Lie?

 

There may be many different reasons that prompt kids for escaping the truth including:

 

To establish identity – A majority of children lie to establish an identity or reputation in his peer groups. He wants to gain respect and admiration of his friends.

 

For which, he even boasts of having or doing something he has not really done or acquired.

 

Once he starts enjoying the privilege of his lies, he gets into the habit of making false claims or telling lies.

 

To avoid trouble – Sometimes it is the desperation to come out of a troublesome situation that forces a child to tell a lie.

 

For example, he has committed some mistake and he is afraid of punishment or has done something he was not supposed to do.

 

In order to avoid punishment or repercussions the situation might bring, he simply tells a lie to escape the consequences.

 

Parents may be responsible – Sometimes, parents inadvertently end up teaching their children the initial lessons of lying. Asking your child to tell the person at the door that dad is not in, just because you don’t want to meet the person although you are home, is going to confuse your child on what is right and what is wrong.

 

“Tell Grandma you loved her present even if you didn’t because she will feel hurt otherwise” – you may be bill this as a “white lie” but it is a lie anyways.

 

Your kid is too small to understand the character of the lie and takes it as a strategy to avoid some trouble situation.

 

In some cases, over expectations of parents also tend to make their children liars. When your child feels that she has failed to please her parents, she simply tries to cover up the facts, which eventually becomes a habit.

 

Positive parenting can ensure improved child behavior

 

These are some of the major reasons responsible for developing the habit of telling lies in children. There are several more. The only way you can avoid such behavior is through positive parenting.

 

We will be discussing positive parenting techniques for improving the behavior of lying children in our next blog. Watch out this space!

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