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Parenting Wisdom For Easier Child Development

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, April 12th, 2013

Child development is a natural process, meaning that our children are naturally inclined to work as hard as possible on fulfilling their greater potential.

 

In fact, the deepest driving desire in a child is to demonstrate mastery, to grow more capable, to become all that he and she can be.

 

Just as the seed holds the pattern of growth and fruition of the plant, and just as the seed contains the internal drive to grow into its full potential, at the very core of their being our kids are internally guided and driven toward full child development.

 

Child Development Should be the Ultimate Motive of Parents

“Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them.” – Bill Ayers

A child of any age who appears to lack the motivation to do better may simply have “lost touch” with his or her own truest, deepest intention and desire.

 

As parents, we create or contribute to this tragic “disconnect” by fighting with the child.

 

The more we fight with our children, the more we suppress their own internal will to do better.

 

We really cannot “make” our children behave. The best we can do is to consistently provide influences that nurture and support their own motivation behave better.

 

We accomplish this by helping the child understand the behavior improvement that we expect. In terms of giving a child feedback, this is called “feed forward”.

 

Rather than criticize the child for what he DID wrong, clearly convey the behavior you expect moving forward.

 

Now here is a really crucial point. Avoid making that new behavior about you, about what you want, about doing what you say. It has to be about the child doing what his own intrinsic will for child development tells him.

 

For children under the age of six, you need to show them how you want them to behave, not just tell them. For children older than six, a clear, simple explanation of the behavior that you expect can suffice.

 

For instance, if your child refuses to stop playing and come to the dinner table, calmly demonstrate and / or explain exactly what behavior you expect.

 

For instance, you might explain, “I expect you to stop playing and come to the dinner table the first time I ask. Now, let’s pretend this is the first time. Please stop your play now and come sit at the dinner table. Let’s see if you can do that?”

 

If the child does it, show your satisfaction. Treat the accomplishment as a success for the child.

 

If the child ignores you again, you might try ignoring the child for the time being. Eat your dinner while the child’s dinner cools. The child learns from the consequence of his choices, and you don’t have to stress about it.

 

Don’t worry that you will “have” to give into a demand that you prepare the child a warm meal or snack later. Cross that bridge if you come to it, using the same guideline for working with the child development will.

 

When we get caught up in an argument or stressful power-struggle with our children we perpetuate conflict in the parent-child relationship and incite their emotional opposition to their own intrinsic motivation toward behavior improvement.

15-year-old Down Syndrome Boy Scales Mount Everest

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Tuesday, April 2nd, 2013

SUCCESS is SURE when one decides to DARE the DISABILITIES.

 

Gone are the days when disabilities only attracted sympathy and help. Eli Reimer – a 15-year-old Oregon boy and a victim of Down Syndrome – received a bow from the world when he dared his disability and conquered Mount Everest, the highest vertical limit on Earth.

 

Eli Reimer Conquers Mount Everest despite being suffering from Down Syndrome

Fifteen-year-old Eli Reimer, who suffers from Down syndrome, dared his disability and conquered Mount Everest.

 

It took him 10 days and almost 70 miles to reach 17,600 feet up Mount Everest in Nepal. What makes this feat extraordinary or rather unbelievable is the fact that the achiever is suffering from Down Syndrome. Down syndrome is a medical condition when a child is born with disabilities that get severe as the child grows.

 

In addition to hearing and vision impairment, a Down Syndrome patient faces decreased mental activity, poor IQ, and physical weakness. Triumphing Everest, which seems impossible for even a healthy person in the first place, was something unimaginable for a person who faces such challenges.

 

15-year-old Down Syndrome Boy Scales Mount Everest

Triumphant Eli with Justin Reimer, his proud and ecstatic father, guide, mentor and a co-climber

 

Justin Reimer, the proud and ecstatic father, guide, mentor and a co-climber, told HLN in an interview, reported the Daily News, “It was surreal. To be standing there at that place and see the smile on Eli’s face and the sense of accomplishment that he had, and the fact that his health was better than any of us at that point … it was humbling, it was inspiring, just an amazing moment.”

 

The unbelievable feat of Eli Reimer is inspiring not only for those suffering from Down syndrome (in the United States, 691 babies are born each year with this disability) and but also for children across the world. The news made headlines in the media all over the world.

 

The achievement of Eli Reimer highlights the power of parenting. Eli’s father Justin Reimer, who runs The Elisha Foundation to provide professional and educational support to families with special-needs children, is the source of invincible courage and indomitable strength of the Eli Reimer. He proved that proper love, care, and support can make a disabled or diseased child to achieve what may seem unthinkable even for a healthy person.

 

A child draws values from his home and parents. Being parents, you play a deciding role in the development of your child. The reason Eli Reimer could conquer the Mount Everest is the continuous company and support of his father during the endeavor.

 

Every parent can draw motivation and courage from Justin Reimer who transformed limitations into an achievement that created history and a feat that will continue to inspire children.

 

Inspiring Children

Proper love, care, and support from the parents can make a disabled or diseased child to achieve what may seem unthinkable even for a healthy person.

 

Help Your Child Explore Her Innate Strengths

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Tuesday, March 19th, 2013

Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry

~ Alvin Price

The love and support of the parents create champions.

Children need your continuous support to prosper and attain success.

 

Give Wings To Your Child’s Creativity

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, March 8th, 2013

“Every child is an artist, the problem is staying an artist when you grow up” – Pablo Picasso

Help your child pick right colors for your life

.“Creativity is contagious, pass it on” – Albert Einstein

 

Spending Time Together Betters Child Parent Relationships

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, March 8th, 2013
Give your child a healthy atmosphere at home.

Family is the first home and parents are first teachers of children.

Spend some happy hours with your children. It will instill wisdom in children and make them good human beings.

When is it Okay for Kids to Use a Kindle or iPad?

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This post is by Guest Author Brenda Stevens)

 

When we were students, we spent countless hours buried in books in the library doing research on our school paper or report.

 

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“I’m more interested in arousing enthusiasm in kids than in teaching the facts. The facts may change, but that enthusiasm for exploring the world will remain with them the rest of their lives.” ~ Seymour Simon

All kids need now is a laptop, mobile phone, e-reader, or tablet and they have all the resources they need within a few clicks.

 

This change raises some important questions.

 

Are our children ready for all that screen time?

 

What is a safe age to start introducing technology to our toddlers and young children?

 

There is no stopping the pace of technology advancement around us and its influence on our daily lives. As we see more and more young children spending countless hours on their iPads and Kindles, how do we know if they are ready to take on these gadgets.

 

Many of us are worried about how these changes can affect the formative years of our child.

 

Here is a structure for slowly and safely introducing this tech into your son or daughter’s life.

1-2 Years Old

 

Generally speaking, children under 2 are still too young to make full use of the iPad or the Kindle. Sure, they will appreciate the colorful graphics and animations but the screens itself provide limited sensory experience.

 

At this stage, it is best to let your child explore the real 3-dimensional world. Allow them to touch the snow or feel the softness of a marshmallow for the first time.

 

Encourage them to play with their shadows and run in a grass field. While these things seem simple enough to us, to a child these experiences will help hone their development. There is no level of screen resolutions that will offer this kind of understanding of the world around us.

Toddler Years

 

Now that your toddler is starting to recognize colors, shapes, and the alphabet, we can introduce them to the wonderful world of iPads and Kindles.

 

Just make sure to monitor and limit their screen time to avoid taking over their daily routines.

 

Thankfully, there is a wide array of child-friendly apps and electronic books to help with your child’s speech and cognitive development.

Pre-School Years

 

The iPad and Kindle are excellent ways to encourage your child to read. At this stage, it is best to go for interactive books that double as an educational toy to help them with their studies.

 

Ebooks are just beginning to evolve into larger immersive experiences, and quick access to dictionaries and the sounding out of words means that your child can quickly build their vocabulary and reading comprehension.

 

Depending on how we use them, e-readers and tablets work to your child’s advantage. The important thing is that we set limitations and monitor them as they explore these gadgets.

 

Brenda Stevens is a techy mom and blogger who writes about all things family. You can find her helping families calculate their baby conception date at DueDateCalculator.org.

Teaching Your Kids to Eat Healthy

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This blog post is by Guest Author Jacqui Vincent)

 

Eating habits are often developed at an early age. It is no surprise that many of us turn to our childhood comfort foods, in times of distress.

 

Teaching Children Healthy Eating Habits

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well. ~ Virginia Woolf

Childhood obesity is a growing concern. Unhealthy eating habits can make kids prone to cholesterol and diseases.

 

As parents and caregivers, it is essential to teach kids to eat healthy, starting at an early age. Eating healthy can have enormous benefits by giving your child that extra insurance in health and also by keeping diseases at bay.

 

Children are often resistant and determined to eat what they like. How exactly do you go about introducing healthy eating habits in your child? Here are a few tips that could help you develop better eating habits in your child.

 

Develop a Long-Term Plan

 

If your kids have been consistently eating fast foods and takeout, chances are they will rebel if you insist on a complete overhaul of their diet. In other words, plan to move gradually towards a healthier lifestyle.

 

Start off by replacing snacks with veggies and dips or fruits. Introduce healthier sides and entrees.

 

Start using heart-friendly cooking substitutes.

 

Switch to whole grains, lean proteins and leaner dairy products.

 

You might be surprised how well your children will adapt to your new plan.

 

Teaching Children

When we learn to eat properly we begin to rebuild our bodies and to fulfill our purpose on this planet to grow in health, creativity, wisdom, and compassion. ~ Dr. Ann Wigmore

Involve Kids in Food Planning and Preparation

 

Children love to be involved. Kids who are actively engaged in menu planning, grocery shopping and food preparation are receptive to trying new foods.

 

Eat a Variety of Foods

 

Introducing a variety of foods will help kids get more nutrients, and develop a palate that is more receptive to new foods.

 

Boredom may revert kids to junk foods. Giving them a choice of delicious, healthy foods will keep hunger at bay and lead them to make healthier eating choices.

 

Portion Control is Key

 

It is important to teach kids to eat the right portions. Portion sizes have been increasing over the years. The average size of a pizza slice or a muffin is not the same anymore.

 

Kids need to be educated about the difference between eating to curb hunger and overeating. Demonstrate healthy portions at meal times and help kids develop visual cues about serving sizes.

 

Eat Together and Eat Slowly

 

Eating too fast may result in overeating. Children need to be reminded to eat slowly. Also, eating together and having family meal times leads to healthier eating habits in children.

 

As with everything else, consistency is key. Children watch and learn. Living by example and following long-term strategies are surely beneficial in teaching your kids to eat healthy.

 

These great parenting tips are brought to you by Jacqui Vincent, mum of four and the owner of MyBabyShoes, Australia’s leading online retailer of children’s shoes.

Have Fun Raising Children

By Noah Brown   |  Thursday, December 13th, 2012

Of course, your kids still need to have a strong parent to help teach them right from wrong, dangerous and safe as well as good and bad but there should also be fun in your child parent relations too. Children tend to drown out negative comments, if they occur too often. Kids are more apt to listen to their parents if they can actually enjoy spending time with them.

Bonding time makes parenting kids much easier because the children are more relaxed with their parents.

Parenting kids is easier if you let yourself have fun and enjoy spending time with them

Remember, there are no cell phones, laptops or handheld video games while camping. Older parents might want to use an air mattress while younger ones might want to “rough it” by sleeping on the ground. The choice is yours as long as you spend the time together, all will be great!

 

Read more http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/03/13/have-fun-raising-children/

 

Parenting Advice to Curb the Habit of Stealing in Kids

By Noah Brown   |  Sunday, November 25th, 2012

Generally children of 5 to 6 years begin to develop conscience at that stage and at times they find it tough to resist their temptation to steal something that they want.

Strictly make your child understand that stealing is wrong and you would not forgive it.

Many children steal because they think that there is nothing wrong about it. Some steal because they want to get attention.

Screaming or slapping your child won’t solve the problem. You need to figure out the root cause and nip it in the bud.

 

Read more: http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2012/12/28/parenting-advice-to-curb-the-habit-of-stealing-in-kids/

 

Raising Children to Make Good Friends

By Noah Brown   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

Encourage your children to share their experiences

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

If your child is introvert and hesitates in building and developing friendships at school and play, it is a time for you to help and motivate your child to make friends.

 

Read more: http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/01/17/raising-children-to-make-good-friends/

 

When It Is Wise To Ignore Your Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, June 23rd, 2012

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To skillfully support child development, remember that there is a time for responding to your child and a time for NOT responding.

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One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough

If we are not responsive enough, we lose parental control as our child grows frustrated.

 

This is because and a frustrated child (like a frustrated adult) cannot help but slip into some form of behavior problem.

We teach our children, and the education may prove negative, through the way that we respond to our kids.

 

Being too non-responsive not only frustrates the child with the sense of denied parent access. It teaches the child, through our modeling, to BE non-responsive. This may manifest as the child not “listening” and being generally inattentive.

 

But, while a sufficient amount of parental involvement is crucial for positive child development and child behavior, it is also possible to be TOO responsive with a child.

 

If we respond automatically to a child’s request (or demand) for our attention, assistance or cooperation we demonstrate a weak form of child behavior management that actually trains the child to be overly demanding.

 

We also needlessly exhaust ourselves through the form of excessive parent involvement that we can describe as being overly responsive.

 

Help for parents who over-stress themselves through excessive responsiveness arrives as they apply the self-help wisdom of being more conscious in parenting.

 

Sometimes it is better to not respond as a means of teaching the child that the behavior she is using to get our response is unacceptable.

 

One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough.

 

Be aware during your parent-child interactions to avoid automatically reacting to your child without first pausing to determine if reacting in the way that you are about to react is really wise right now.

 

If you HABITUALLY respond when your child demands your attention, you produce your own frustration and lead your child toward the relationship problems that stem from being overly demanding.

 

Don’t blame your child for this.  Realize that your reactions of stress and strain are NOT your child’s responsibility.  How you react is YOUR responsibility.

 

Practice the parenting wisdom of more CONSCIOUS parenting to more alertly recognize when you need to respond, and when you need to deliberately NOT respond to your child, for the best parenting results and experiences.

 

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Parenting Kids Under Media Glare – A Challenge For Celebrity Parents

By Antara   |  Monday, April 2nd, 2012
Effective Parenting

All parents need to put in extra efforts to build a loving, trusting, friendly and supportive parent child relationship.

The speculations and media glare about Whitney Houston’s daughter Bobbi Kristina’s activities following her mother’s death is making headlines and setting the social media abuzz.

 

The sudden passing away of Houston, an iconic figure for hundreds of thousands music lovers across the globe, has pitch forked her daughter into the spotlight with newspersons and paparazzi tracking her every move. From Oprah Winfrey to leading lifestyle magazines and TV channels, Bobbi Kristina is the talk of the town.

 

Nothing surprising here. Being a celebrity kid isn’t easy and almost all star kids face incessant media attention. For celebrity parents, it becomes a big challenge to ensure that their kids develop healthy child behavior and the wisdom to handle the trappings of fame successfully.

 

There are two sides to the coin of having parents who are super busy celebrities. On the one side, you have a life of luxury, opulence and fame from the time you open your eyes.

 

On the other side, your parents are often away for long periods for work and the media is always at your feet, trailing you, clicking your pictures, selling them for thousands of dollars, speculating on everything you do…it’s a hard life too.

 

Besides, we hear often about celebrity kids trying hard to come to terms with the failed relationships of their parents, peer pressure,  resorting to drug abuse, getting mired in controversies and struggling to match up to public expectations. Behavior problems of kids of star parents get flashed in the media in no time, doubling the pressure on the children and their parents too.

 

Julia Roberts, in a recent interview, lucidly explained her worries about raising her children – seven-year-old twins Hazel and Finn and four-year-old Henry in the spotlight, saying that after she met Meryl Streep’s daughter Grace Gummer, she felt reassured that children do turn out fine.

 

ANI reported that the Daily Telegraph quoted Roberts as telling Vanity Fair magazine, “Grace comes up and goes, ‘Gosh, it’s so sweet seeing all your kids on the set. It reminds me of when I was little, and I would go see my mom at work.”

 

“I said, ‘How old were you when you realized your mom was Meryl Streep?’ She said, ‘I think I was probably nine when I put that all together’.

 

“I said, ‘Were you cool with it?’ She said, ‘Yeah, it was fine. There was no trauma.’ So that was hopeful,” Roberts added, the report said.

Wisdom For Parenting Kids

Positive parenting is to be with your children in their most impressionable formative years.

All parents need to put in extra efforts to build a loving, trusting, friendly and supportive parent child relationship. That is part of positive parenting.

 

For people who are in the limelight, parenting children in a healthy parent child relationship is all the more essential as even their personal and private lives make news – some factual, some speculative and some pure rumors. You cannot always hide your child away from the cameras.

 

But if you instill the wisdom in your kids to understand the life issues that are real and permanent and the trappings that are illusory and temporary and develop in your child the ability to differentiate between the two, the kids grow up to take all this attention, pressures and opulence in their stride.

 

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The Wisdom of Healthy Ambition

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, November 29th, 2011

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Wisdom For Motivating Kids

Everyone enjoys life more when they have goals and dreams that they want to fulfill

Children thrive on wisdom.

Kids are spiritually nurtured by it.  In other words, wisdom, presented in a way that they can really receive, is inspiring to children.

We provide wisdom to kids in two ways: through what we say (when they are old enough to comprehend our words well enough) and through what we do.

One form of wisdom kids benefit by receiving is the wisdom healthy ambition.

As it says in the Wisie for Children, The Value of Ambition:

The big word – ambition – means that you have get-up-and-go power.”

So teaching children about ambition passes on to them “get-up-and-go” power.

What do you want YOUR child to be ambitious for?

In other words, what goals would you like your child to be self-motivated to pursue?

We instill the wisdom of healthy ambition by pursuing OUR goals in a healthy, balanced way.

If we strive in stress, anxiety, frustration and fatigue, we make ambition “look bad”.

Here is another inspirational quote from the Wisie for Kids video, The Value of Ambition:

“Everyone enjoys life more when they have goals and dreams that they want to fulfill.”

Inspiring children with the wisdom of ambition requires that they see ambition as a key to a happy life.

When I see my almost 9 year-old resisting doing a chore or his homework, I help him to feel motivated by suggesting that he make the work FUN.

I then offer to join him, to assist him, to WORK with him to help to see that working hard can be fun.  In other words, I try demonstrating healthy ambition.

What are YOUR goals and dreams?  Talking about them with your child in a way that expresses your enthusiasm for them is a way of passing healthy ambition onto your child.

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about inspiring children with the wisdom for kids that relates healthy ambition.

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Happy Success Wisdom for Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, November 12th, 2011

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wisdom and motivation for children

By calmly, patiently and perseveringly bringing your child back to the mess he left, and then guiding him to put his things where they belong, over and over and over again, WITHOUT fighting, your child gradually develops the habit of doing it on his own.

In the Wisie for Kids video, “Teach Your Children Patience”, the wisdom for children is really essential for the child’s learning, development and success.

The message is also great for adults to remember.

After all, isn’t patience a necessary part of all major accomplishments?

It’s even essential for remaining sane as we parents work on improving our child’s behavior.

For instance, to get your child to clean up after himself is usually NOT a quick process.

You need to remain patient, to “keep your cool” as you repeatedly guide your child to put her things away each time that she “forgets”.

If you lose your patience in the process, and react with annoyance and frustration, you actually motivate your child to be more resistant, and you make the process more of a strain than it needs to be.

By calmly, patiently and perseveringly bringing your child back to the mess he left, and then guiding him to put his things where they belong, over and over and over again, WITHOUT fighting, your child gradually develops the habit of doing it on his own.

At the same time, you model the wisdom for children of being patient with when you cannot instantly have your way.

What are some of the new or improved behaviors that you would like to motivate your child to do on his or her own?

While working with your child, when do you tend to lose your patience?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about how to
pass on the wisdom for children (and adults) that patience represents.

As this Wisie for Kids video reminds the child, “Don’t get angry, just keep working at it” – we parents need to remember this for happy success in improving child behavior.

As we model patience and perseverance in the way that we work with our children, we pass on that wisdom TO our children.

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Life-Wisdom for Child Development

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, November 3rd, 2011

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Wisdom for Raising Children

Wisies help parents by providing their children with 90-second delightful, engaging videos that pass on profound wisdom for successful living.

Wisies for Kids are positive videos offering invaluable help for parents.

These inspiring, 90-second videos nurture children’s character development for life-long success.

When I was a schoolteacher I used to feel frustrated by the lack of life-wisdom presented to kids in schools.

Of course it’s essential to learn reading, writing and arithmetic, but kids also need life-education to live happy, successful lives of contribution.

Wisies help parents by providing their children with 90-second delightful, engaging videos that pass on profound wisdom for successful living.

Exposing your child, ages 4 – 10, to a Wisie a day will instil in your child life-wisdom messages for character building for your child’s happy and successful SELF-direction.

They prepare your child to make good decisions on his or her own, without you having to tell your child what to do!

Though your child may not understand every word, the basic message of wisdom will come across with the aid of the charming musical and imagery accompaniment.

Every wisdom video is like a seed planted in your child’s heart and mind that will eventually bear the fruit of greater life-wisdom, self-understanding, and happy success.

Parents can always use tips that can help them to help their children master the challenges of life, both now and in the future.

Make it a daily RULE that your child views
one 90-second Wisie a day with you.

Your child will love following this rule because once the video begins he or she will enter delight.

Parents, here are some tips for engaging in Wisie for Kids videos:

View one of the sample Wisies for Kids right now.
Then answer the following questions:

What is the basic message of the video?

Do you agree that this message is good for your child to receive?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about how to
make the most of the Wisie Wisdom Videos for Kids.

Wisie for Kids videos offer a unique form of help for parents: EFFECTIVELY passing on invaluable life-wisdom for developing children.

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Parenting Guide For Raising Boys

By admin   |  Sunday, October 30th, 2011

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Parenting guide for encouraging children

Watch the energy level of your boys. Your objective is to help them to stay calm.

Here are some mother quotes that pertain to parenting boys:

• Watch the energy level of your boys. Your objective is to help them to stay calm. I have found that once they become too excited, they cannot contain their energy and their behavior gets out of control.

• Maintain your attitude of calm confidence, even when it seems that the boys are out of control. In my experience, this attitude exerts a calming influence upon the boys and it also helps me to gain control of the situation.

• Work your hardest on improving your own self-control. Taking charge in my relationship with my three sons always begins with being in charge of myself.

What child behavior challenges your ability to maintain your self-control?

When your child becomes very excited, how can you tell,
and what behaviors does he demonstrate?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about
the challenge of raising boys.

Here are additional mother quotes that provide a parenting guide for raising boys:

• I have learned that I need to accept responsibility for my reactions. When I blame my son for the stressful way that I react to him I feel powerless to improve things.

• From day one my twin boys seemed to have my stress-buttons pegged. But I learned that I can diminish my frustration, annoyance and stress by small degrees every day, if I work at it, and this is very important work.

The mother quotes contained in this blog can certainly provide a useful parenting guide for raising girls as well as to raising boys.

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Acknowledge Your Child’s Perfection

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, October 13th, 2011

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Positive discipline for improving child behavior

The child needs to accept her “wonderfulness” in order to manifest it in positive child behavior.

Positive discipline means guiding and establishing boundaries for children in ways that release the child’s healthy, higher potential.

We can describe discipline as “negative” when it produces negative results. Just yelling at a kid, scolding him, timing him out, spanking him, or depriving him of what he wants does not automatically lead that child into more intelligent, caring, responsible behavior. In fact, it often has the opposite effect.

Essential for positive discipline is relating with the child in ways that foster the child’s positive belief in himself. The child needs to accept her “wonderfulness” in order to manifest it in positive child behavior.

Does your child believe in herself/himself?

Do you agree that self-esteem impacts child-behavior?

In what ways do parents need to nurture, support, and protect
their child’s healthy self-esteem?

Share your thoughts, experiences and questions about this in this blog.

While we want our children to strive to fulfill their higher potential, we need to understand the delicate balance involved.

Focusing too much on what the child does “wrong”, or reacting with too much harshness in your attitude when your child “gets it wrong”, undermines the child’s belief in his ability to do any better. It actually fosters the child’s belief that it is his role to be the “mischief-maker”, and that belief drives him to behave poorly.

Our children need us to teach them how to love themselves just as they are, or at least to protect and nurture that healthy form of self-love that they possess inherently.

However your child behaves, realize that in a very important sense your child is already perfect.

The beauty that shines from your child is divine.

Use only POSITIVE discipline to help your child manifest the forms of self-conduct that express that innate perfection.

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Little Steps Go A Long Way

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, August 9th, 2011

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The powerful success secret of approaching big goals by taking small, unstrained steps is conveyed in the mother quotes that follow.

 

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I tell my child stories about people who have accomplished great things, like climbing to the top of a mountain, and then we talk about the tiny little steps that produced the great result.

1. By degrees equals ease. If I just focus on improving my child’s behavior a little bit at a time, IT WORKS!

 

2. I want to teach my child patience and perseverance, so I attempt to demonstrate those qualities when dealing with his challenging behavior.

 

3. Raising children is a long-term job. If I work too hard at it, out of impatience to produce positive results, I will burn out.

 

4. Parenting is an educational process. My daily experiences with my child are like attending parenting classes that teach me what works and what does not. I need to be patient with myself as I learn my parenting lessons.

 

In what situations do you tend to be impatient with your children?

What single, small thing can you do to improve your results with your child?

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Here are two more mother quotes that pertain to teaching children to succeed one little step at a time:

 

1. When my child becomes frustrated I show her how to break what she is trying to do, like tying her shoes, into small steps. I then have her work on one small step until she gets it.

 

2. I tell my child stories about people who have accomplished great things, like climbing to the top of a mountain, and then we talk about the tiny little steps that produced the great result.
Please feel welcome to share your thoughts in this blog about how that these mother quotes can help YOU make successful parenting easier, and how you can pass on “little-by-little wisdom” to your child.

 

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Parents And Children – You CAN

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, June 27th, 2011

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Parents and children can grow up together

Parenting advice: To instill in your child the positive power of an “I CAN” attitude requires more than “lip service”.

Parents and children both sometimes act like children.

 

What are some of the childish ways that you behave, that you do not want your children to demonstrate?

 

Few childish behaviors are more frustrating for parents than when their children display a helpless, “I CAN’T” attitude.

 

Have you ever wondered where they learn this?

 

Let’s take a closer look at the “I can’t” attitude really expresses, whether it issues forth from parents or children. What it really expresses is self-doubt.

 

What major accomplishments do you wish you could achieve, but that you, at least sometimes, doubt your ability to achieve it?

 

Both parents and children need to believe in themselves to accomplish all that is possible for them. But you undermine your child’s belief in himself or herself to the extent that you indulge in self-doubt.

 

Children naturally adopt the attitude that we express around them, through the amazing power of modeling.

 

It is not what we model consciously that may be the problem, as much as what we model UNconsciously.

 

When a child behaves poorly, it is not uncommon for the parent to feel overwhelmed to the point of feeling powerless.

 

In these instances, probably without even realizing it, the parent expresses an “I can’t” attitude regarding being effectively in charge of the child.

 

Whenever you react with exasperation to your child’s resistance to cooperating with you, there is an undercurrent in your self-expression that says, “This is all too much for me.”

 

Parents, your children have no choice but to demonstrate
a more positive attitude as you demonstrate
a more completely positive attitude
around your children.

To instill in your child the positive power of an “I CAN” attitude requires more than “lip service”.

 

If you feel dissatisfied with your child’s display of helplessness, look for the ways that you express a similar, self-defeating lack of assertiveness, and work on turning that around.

 

This is one way that parents and children can grow up together.

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Children, Parents and Thought-Power

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, June 8th, 2011

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One of the most important life wisdom lessons that children and parents can discuss has to do with the power of thought.

Understanding how thought influences what happens to them can make for happier and more successful children.  Parents can begin teaching this lesson to their children at the earliest stages of infancy.

 

Thought power for personal development of children

Understanding how thought influences what happens to them can make for happier and more successful children.

This is because the development of the child’s attitude is influenced by the demonstration of the parent’s attitude, long before the child can form any concept of what is going on.

 

The parent who takes charge of his or her thinking is bound to display a more positive, hopeful attitude, and waste less energy on negative, despondent moods.

 

Just as we nurture our children’s bodies on the food we serve, we nurture them spiritually on the level of attitude and motivation that we express around them.

 

Discuss creative power of thought
with your children.

Parents should keep in mind that from around the age of around 3-years they can “plant seeds” of “thought power wisdom” in the minds of their children by talking about how thinking about what you want to happen helps it to happen.

 

Suggest to the child that she:

 

  • Think about doing easily what she now finds difficult doing
  • Expect to have a pleasant time instead of an unpleasant time
  • Imagine herself smiling when she feels a little blue

This begins to lay the ground-work for the child to awaken to the positive use of thought, in time.

 

From the age of 5 and up, point to objects in the environment and say something like, “This desk began with an idea of a desk, and holding the idea of the desk in mind helped them build the desk” to your children.

Parents who repeatedly discuss “thought power” with their children, provide those children with a priceless advantage.

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