Raising Children To Care

By   |  July 21st, 2011

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Raising children to care

Loving child behavior, though, cannot be forced. But it CAN be taught.

Raising children to care about themselves and others is something every sane parent wants to do.

 

We don’t just want our children to demonstrate proper behavior toward others because of the rules or because they fear punishment if they don’t.

Few things please a parent more than observing a child demonstrating caring treatment of others, including animals and plants.

 

Loving child behavior, though, cannot be forced.  But it CAN be taught.

The word “education” does not mean to give knowledge, lessons or exercises.  It means to draw out knowledge or ability from the student.

 

Raising children to demonstrate genuinely caring behavior is a process of honoring, supporting, nurturing and drawing out the child’s potential for loving self-conduct.

 

When a child displays cruelty, this educational process can be most challenging.

Instinctively we feel like hurting the child for being hurtful, but this does not actually teach a child to be more kind.

 

Child behavior is a product, at least to a significant degree, of how that child has been related to.

 

Raising children to be kind and caring requires that we honestly examine our own self-conduct toward the child.

When our words or actions become too harsh, we cause the child to develop a sort of emotional numbness to avoid the pain.

 

That numbness prevents the child from connecting with his or her own deep heart of compassion.

 

Just because a child behaves in an unkind or unruly manner, that does not justify our unkind, insensitive reaction.

With dedication and practice we can develop our ability to direct and correct child behavior effectively, in a loving way that honors the child’s heart.

 

In what ways were you treated unkindly in childhood?

Can you see how that treatment programed you to be unkind?

Share your thoughts about raising caring children in this blog.


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