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An Alternative To Saying “No” To Your Kids

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, June 29th, 2012

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Our parental “job” includes instilling wisdom in our children.

Disciplining Children

If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves. ~ C.G. Jung

 

There are good reasons why parents would like to find an alternative to using the word “No” with their children.

 

You don’t want to HAVE to motivate your child to “do the right thing.”

 

Wouldn’t you love sensible ideas to bring as much inspiration to your kids as, say, the idea of shooting off firecrackers?

 

Having to frequently say ‘No’ can make parenting exhausting, and it causes some parents to feel that they are being too negative in the parent-child relationship.

 

If YOU have an issue saying “No”, and you want to instill practical life-wisdom in your child, try instead to tell your child of the reason why and what to do instead.

 

For instance, if your child asks for a second scoop of ice cream, instead of telling him “No”, try saying something like this to lead him to impose positive child discipline upon himself: “That would mean too much sugar, which is not good for the brain. But if you stop requesting another scoop you can have one scoop.”

 

This way of responding resolves the parenting issues of having to say “No” and feeling that you always have to impose boundaries for your child.

 

It ends on a positive note by pointing out what the child CAN have or do. It also helps the child development of understanding that actions have consequences, and to consider the consequences before acting on a desire.

 

Disciplining children is never all that much fun. The sooner our kids can responsibly discipline themselves the better.

 

By providing your child is a simple, brief explanation of what is undesirable about what she wants you actually educate her about what is good for her.

 

At the same time, you motivate your child to cooperate with you by helping her to see the positive outcome of cooperating with you: specifically, not requesting another scoop results in getting one scoop now.

 

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Parenting Help: Improve Your Child’s Environment

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, June 25th, 2012

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To improve child behavior, improve your child’s surroundings.

Good Parenting

Provide the child with influences that help the child display the positive child conduct you want

 

How a child behaves is a largely product of the child’s environment.

 

The child’s environment consists of the influences surrounding the child, including the influences emanating from people within that environment.

 

To help your child avoid or overcome behavior problems improve the emotional and behavior patterns impinging upon your child.

 

Parenting help for better child behavior generally involves working on the child’s environment in order to:

1… Avoid exposing the child to influences that contribute to behavior problems.

2… Provide the child with influences that help the child display the positive child conduct you want.

 

If all we focus on is getting the child to change WITHOUT changing the child’s environment, our efforts will be undermined by the disturbing environmental that led to the child’s behavior problem.

 

For instance, if your child withdraws from other kids, choosing to spend her time alone, that child may have received excessive criticism in her home environment, eroding her self-confidence.

 

Sometimes there is something happening at home that causes the child to feel ashamed.

 

There may be someone in the child’s home environment modeling a similar pattern of sensitivity that drives that person toward solitude and unsociability.

 

As long as the negative environmental factors remain unchanged, child discipline problems are likely to continue reflecting them.

 

In my own parent counseling practice I have often found that the parent help needed for improving how kids behave involves guiding parents in how to bring more order, calmness, attentiveness, positive modeling and love into the child’s environment.

 

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Motivate Your Child – Mother Quotes Of Wisdom

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, May 10th, 2012

 

Wisdom For Children

“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice”

 

Wisdom For Children

One good mother is worth a hundred schoolmasters. ~ George Herbert

 

Parenting Skills

"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary." ~ Dorothy Canfield Fisher

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Inspiring Mother Quotes

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012
Mother Quotes

God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers

 

 

 

Positive Parenting Mother Quotes

A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.

 

 

 

Mother Quotes for Parenting Kids With Wisdom

"She’s my teacher, my adviser, my greatest inspiration." ~ Whitney Houston

Inspiring Children

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012

 

Child Development With Confidence

“All that we are is a result of what we have thought” ~ Buddha

 

Motivation Children

“Play the picture in your mind – focus on the end result VISUALIZE!!! Rehearse your future VISUALIZE!!! See it, feel it! This is where action begins” ~ The Secret

 

Parenting Tips

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. ~ Albert Einstein

How To Raise A Wise Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

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Follow Parenting Wisdom With Your Child

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

To follow parenting wisdom with your child means that you are connecting with your own positive, loving and intelligent intuitive inner guidance.

 

You need to be calm, emotionally balanced, and aware in the now for this to happen.

 

When parents begin feeling frustrated in their efforts to control their child, they break their internal connection with the inner wisdom that can guide them toward healthier, happier parenting success.

 

For instance, if you begin feeling annoyed when your child interrupts your work or demands your attention while you are on the phone, your stressful reaction prevents you from handling the situation as well as you can, from producing the results that you really want.

 

Every parent needs to MASTER the experience of being distracted, to stay sane, content, and constructive.

 

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

 

Wisdom is an inspired state of consciousness that nurtures the soul.

 

When you demonstrate parenting wisdom in your relationship with your child, your inner, harmonious, enlightened state radiates, reaching and nurturing your child’s inner life with those same qualities, producing a happier, more loving and wise child.

 

Parents who complain that their children are too wild would do well to consider this way of helping their children to be more wise.

 

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Create Life-Balance To Raise Happy Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, March 1st, 2012

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Parenting Classes For Raising Happy Children

Create happier times with your kids to deepen and strengthen family bonding.

 

At one of my recent parenting classes, I discussed the need for a deep heart-connection in the parent-child relationship.

 

“As we nurture children emotionally,” I explained,“their behavior expresses more loving kindness and healthy self-esteem than when kids feel emotionally deprived.”

 

A parent in the class raised her hand and posed this common parenting problem:  “In today’s world, when both parents need to work full time, and jobs often demand more than the old, standard 40 hours a week, we’re not able to give our kids the quality time they need.”

 

My response to that addressed the creative power and responsibility of every one of us:

 

“Your circumstances are a product of your own creation.  You have the power to create the life-balance to support the emotional development of your child.

 

“I know parents who have made huge financial sacrifices to be able to provide their children with all the quality time their kids need.

 

Raising Happy Children

“You empower yourself to succeed relative any goal by seeing yourself as the creator of your circumstances, not as a victim of your circumstances.

“Others found creative ways to maintain a high income while meeting the emotional needs of their children.

 

“You empower yourself to succeed relative any goal by seeing yourself as the creator of your circumstances, not as a victim of your circumstances.

 

“Though you may not know what you can do right now to improve the balance of your life, begin by clearly defining life-balance as your goal and commit to making it happen.

 

“In the meantime, if you cannot increase the quantity of time you spend with your kids, improve the quality of the precious time that you do have with them.

 

“Practice connecting with your children in a more conscious and loving way when you are together. Create happier times with your kids to deepen and strengthen family bonding.”

 

“Turn every moment you spend with your daughter into a kind of parenting class by closely observing her, in order to improve your understanding of your child. This is how to better meet your child’s need for a deep heart-connection in the parent-child relationship

 

Please feel welcome to share your comments in this blog about this parenting advice, and any questions you have about overcoming the challenge to providing children with all the quality time they need from us to feel great and to display beautiful behavior.


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How To Parent Wisely When You Are Feeling Down

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, January 24th, 2012

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How we feel around children impacts how children behave.

 

Our feelings radiate. Our kids read our feelings, absorb our feelings, and soon feel the way that we feel.

 

If we feel depressed, feel anxious, feel inadequate, feel frustrated around a child on a consistent basis, the child may develop a similar, unhealthy emotional pattern.

 

If we consistently feel emotionally balanced, feel inspired, feel self-confident, feel secure, feel calm, feel loving, we naturally instill positive emotional qualities in our child’s emotional development.

Parent Wisely For Healthy Child Behavior

Our feelings radiate. Our kids read our feelings, absorb our feelings, and soon feel the way that we feel

Not only is it compassionate to nurture the child-heart with joy.

 

Children behave better when they feel happy than when they feel unhappy.

 

And if a child behaves poorly repeatedly due to an emotional problem, that can turn into a deep-rooted child discipline problem.

 

To protect children from developing emotional problems and behavior problems, and to provide them with the positive parenting influence that supports their happy success, we parents need to parent with joy, parent with love and parent with emotional stability.

 

But displaying perfect parenting is impossible.  For instance, I spent the other day with my almost 3-year old.  Just a dad and his son. But I was feeling depressed about something.

 

It was hard for me to smile with sincerity.

 

I could see that my child’s mood was lowering in response to my low mood, but there was not a thing I could think of doing that would instantly solve my child’s problem.

 

Covering up my feelings and trying to pretend that I feel great would just model a pattern of repressing feelings and emotional dishonesty, something no wise parenting model includes.

 

I learned a while back that the big mistake we make when we are feeling sad, feeling discouraged or feeling anxious is to try to change external circumstances to gain emotional freedom.

 

What it takes is looking within, until we identify the THOUGHTS about ourselves or about our circumstances that keep us feeling badly.

 

By accepting my feelings, and looking into my mind for the negative thinking that causes them, I gain real emotional freedom.

 

But that is not an instantaneous process.  In the meantime the mood and behavior of my child is suffering from my influence.

 

But that was the best parenting I could do at the time.

 

And I did not beat myself up over the fact that I was not able to demonstrate perfect parenting, because that would have only compounded my negativity.

 

Sometimes we just have to trust our own best parenting wisdom, and model for our children how to grow into a better person.

 

 

Do YOU have any parenting tips for parents when they feel down?

Share your thoughts and questions in this blog about wise parenting under the influence of a low emotion.


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Help Your Child Outgrow Behavior Problems

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, January 5th, 2012

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Understanding Child Behavior

If you expect your child to behave so perfectly all the time that you never feel challenged, perplexed or overwhelmed, you expectation is overly optimistic

Child behavior problems or challenges are unavoidable.

If you expect your child to behave so perfectly all the time that you never feel challenged, perplexed or overwhelmed, you expectation is overly optimistic.

Children DO test us, and in surprising ways.

However wonderful your child may USUALLY behavior, whatever magnificent character she very often displays, her behavior will at times surprise you with a problem behavior you did not expect.

Two valuable tips for parents include:

  1. As part of your personal parenting strategy, be psychologically prepared to feel challenged by the way that your child behaves.
  1. Understand that child behavior is not permanent.  If we respond properly to a behavior problem, the child develops beyond it in a short time.

In my parenting classes, parents seek advice on how to handle everyday parenting challenges like sibling rivalry, bedtime issues, setting rules, establishing boundaries, child aggression, talking back disrespectfully, teaching politeness, encouraging honesty, etc.

But underneath their parenting questions I can see that at some level they often seem to feel that their child should NOT be presenting them with these problems; that children SHOULD behave well.

Adjusting expectations to be realistic is fundamental for any successful parent strategy.

When your child displays a problematic behavior, it does not mean that you are an inadequate parent and it does not mean that your child essentially wrong or bad for behaving in a disturbing way.

It means that you are encountering the reality of parenting.

Our parental responsibility, when it comes to child behavior management or child discipline, is to respond to the behavior in a way that supports the positive behavior changes that we want, and that avoids causing the child to become stuck in a problem behavior pattern.

Parenting Tips to help your child outgrow inappropriate self-conduct:
1. When you react to a behavior with much anger and stress you risk blocking the child from outgrowing that behavior.  This is because your emotional intensity indices child defensiveness.
2. Remaining calm, consider the sort of response your child needs from you to improve his or her behavior.
3. If you don’t know what to do, remain calm and patient. The child may most quickly outgrow the behavior without your intervention.

 

Share your experiences, thoughts and questions regarding this strategy for successfully dealing with child behavior in this blog.

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Kindness Inspires Hearts of Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, November 17th, 2011

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Our kids need to regard their own feelings as important if they are to relate with other children, and even pets, with sensitivity

In the Wisie Inspiration for Kids video, “Choose Kindness, the child is reminded: “Kindness makes hearts happy.”

We parents need to remember that kindness also makes our children feel INSPIRED.

Just like adults, children need to feel inspired to deal with the challenges THEY must face.

To do their best, children, like adults, need motivation.

Children lose motivation when the feel heavy-hearted.

We adults often seem to think that kids have no real challenges, compared to those that we must face, like making a living, keeping the home in order, and dealing with the children.

But children don’t really have it that easy:

  • They feel frustrated by all they are unable to do
  • They are sensitive to all the pain felt by those around them (even when they do not show it in obvious ways)
  • Being teased, left out of a game, feeling overlooked in class, messing up in sports, coming in second or even last place in ANYTHING, can drain inspiration from kids.

It’s important that we do NOT minimize our children’s emotional suffering while making our own emotional needs seem all-important.

In what instances do you find it most challenging to
relate kindly with your children?

In what ways do YOU support positive motivation in your children?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about the wisdom of
providing children with a sufficient amount of inspiration.

Our kids need to regard their own feelings as important if they are to relate with other children, and even pets, with sensitivity.

When we treat children unkindly we risk teaching them to believe that they are unworthy of kind treatment.  This sets them up to gravitate toward other children who do not treat them very well.

As it says in the “Choose Kindness” Wisie for Kids video, “…you deserve to be treated well, just because you are you…”

As we inspire our children with an abundance of OUR kindness, we teach them to actually LIVE as if they really deserve to be treated well.
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Happy Success Wisdom for Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, November 12th, 2011

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wisdom and motivation for children

By calmly, patiently and perseveringly bringing your child back to the mess he left, and then guiding him to put his things where they belong, over and over and over again, WITHOUT fighting, your child gradually develops the habit of doing it on his own.

In the Wisie for Kids video, “Teach Your Children Patience”, the wisdom for children is really essential for the child’s learning, development and success.

The message is also great for adults to remember.

After all, isn’t patience a necessary part of all major accomplishments?

It’s even essential for remaining sane as we parents work on improving our child’s behavior.

For instance, to get your child to clean up after himself is usually NOT a quick process.

You need to remain patient, to “keep your cool” as you repeatedly guide your child to put her things away each time that she “forgets”.

If you lose your patience in the process, and react with annoyance and frustration, you actually motivate your child to be more resistant, and you make the process more of a strain than it needs to be.

By calmly, patiently and perseveringly bringing your child back to the mess he left, and then guiding him to put his things where they belong, over and over and over again, WITHOUT fighting, your child gradually develops the habit of doing it on his own.

At the same time, you model the wisdom for children of being patient with when you cannot instantly have your way.

What are some of the new or improved behaviors that you would like to motivate your child to do on his or her own?

While working with your child, when do you tend to lose your patience?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about how to
pass on the wisdom for children (and adults) that patience represents.

As this Wisie for Kids video reminds the child, “Don’t get angry, just keep working at it” – we parents need to remember this for happy success in improving child behavior.

As we model patience and perseverance in the way that we work with our children, we pass on that wisdom TO our children.

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Little Steps

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, November 4th, 2011

“I long to accomplish a great and noble task;

but it is my chief duty to accomplish small tasks

as if they were great and noble.”

 

~ Helen Keller

 

 

If you want to do something new

but are afraid to try,

then take little steps.

Those small steps

add up to a big accomplishment,

and anything is possible!

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Give importance to the little steps. They lead you to the bigger goals

Friendship

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, November 3rd, 2011

“Friendship isn’t a big thing –

it’s a million little things.”

 

~ Unknown

 

Friendship is a million little moments of joy and togetherness

of giving a warm hug

of lending a listening ear

of laughing and playing together

of sharing your favorite food and books

of being there for your friend!

Motivating kids

Friendship is inspiring. Friendship is loving. Friendship is togetherness. Friendship is giving

Life-Wisdom for Child Development

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, November 3rd, 2011

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Wisdom for Raising Children

Wisies help parents by providing their children with 90-second delightful, engaging videos that pass on profound wisdom for successful living.

Wisies for Kids are positive videos offering invaluable help for parents.

These inspiring, 90-second videos nurture children’s character development for life-long success.

When I was a schoolteacher I used to feel frustrated by the lack of life-wisdom presented to kids in schools.

Of course it’s essential to learn reading, writing and arithmetic, but kids also need life-education to live happy, successful lives of contribution.

Wisies help parents by providing their children with 90-second delightful, engaging videos that pass on profound wisdom for successful living.

Exposing your child, ages 4 – 10, to a Wisie a day will instil in your child life-wisdom messages for character building for your child’s happy and successful SELF-direction.

They prepare your child to make good decisions on his or her own, without you having to tell your child what to do!

Though your child may not understand every word, the basic message of wisdom will come across with the aid of the charming musical and imagery accompaniment.

Every wisdom video is like a seed planted in your child’s heart and mind that will eventually bear the fruit of greater life-wisdom, self-understanding, and happy success.

Parents can always use tips that can help them to help their children master the challenges of life, both now and in the future.

Make it a daily RULE that your child views
one 90-second Wisie a day with you.

Your child will love following this rule because once the video begins he or she will enter delight.

Parents, here are some tips for engaging in Wisie for Kids videos:

View one of the sample Wisies for Kids right now.
Then answer the following questions:

What is the basic message of the video?

Do you agree that this message is good for your child to receive?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about how to
make the most of the Wisie Wisdom Videos for Kids.

Wisie for Kids videos offer a unique form of help for parents: EFFECTIVELY passing on invaluable life-wisdom for developing children.

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Motivate Your Child

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, November 3rd, 2011

“The secret of happiness is not in doing what one likes,

but in liking what one does.”

 

~ James M. Barrie

The best part of childhood is that it allows you

the freedom to love and enjoy everything you do.

Let your kids enjoy learning as fun.

Motivate Your Child

Love everything you do. You will be amazed at how well you are able to do it.

Excellence

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011

“We are what we repeatedly do;

excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”


 

~ Aristotle


Do everything you do with all your efforts and sincerity.

Get into the habit of excelling yourself.

You will love the experience.

Wisdom for Children

Do everything you do with all your efforts and sincerity.

Raising Happy Children

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011

“The best way to make children good

is to make them happy.”

 

~ Oscar Wilde

Let your kids love and enjoy every moment

of their childhood

Raising happy children

Raising good children also means raising happy kids.

 

 

Parenting Guide For Raising Boys

By admin   |  Sunday, October 30th, 2011

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Parenting guide for encouraging children

Watch the energy level of your boys. Your objective is to help them to stay calm.

Here are some mother quotes that pertain to parenting boys:

• Watch the energy level of your boys. Your objective is to help them to stay calm. I have found that once they become too excited, they cannot contain their energy and their behavior gets out of control.

• Maintain your attitude of calm confidence, even when it seems that the boys are out of control. In my experience, this attitude exerts a calming influence upon the boys and it also helps me to gain control of the situation.

• Work your hardest on improving your own self-control. Taking charge in my relationship with my three sons always begins with being in charge of myself.

What child behavior challenges your ability to maintain your self-control?

When your child becomes very excited, how can you tell,
and what behaviors does he demonstrate?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about
the challenge of raising boys.

Here are additional mother quotes that provide a parenting guide for raising boys:

• I have learned that I need to accept responsibility for my reactions. When I blame my son for the stressful way that I react to him I feel powerless to improve things.

• From day one my twin boys seemed to have my stress-buttons pegged. But I learned that I can diminish my frustration, annoyance and stress by small degrees every day, if I work at it, and this is very important work.

The mother quotes contained in this blog can certainly provide a useful parenting guide for raising girls as well as to raising boys.

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Parenting Wisdom

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 28th, 2011

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Wise parenting, to me, means experiencing fulfillment and solving problems, not miserably reacting to my children in stress and strain

Be aware of the examples being set for your child is an essential piece of parenting advice.

Observe a toddler as he watches someone doing something, like bending down to touch the floor over and over.

Within moments, the toddler will mimic that behavior.

The way people behave around the child programs the child to behave similarly.

As you work on handling every aspect of your life more wisely, you lead your child along wisdom’s path.

Mother Quotes on Parenting Wisdom

  • “As I study life-wisdom sources, including wisdom classes, books, videos and CD’s, I find myself spiritually nurtured in a way that brings me peace.  I can then more easily bring greater peace into my parenting.”

  • “I want to be a wise mother, not just a “smart” mother. Too many highly educated mothers that I know are nervous wrecks with their children.  Wise parenting, to me, means experiencing fulfillment and solving problems, not miserably reacting to my children in stress and strain.”

How do you relate with the above two “mother quotes” about wisdom?

Do YOU have any parenting advice to share that pertains to preparing a child to lead a WISE life?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about wisdom and parenting.

The essence of wisdom is dedicating yourself to your ongoing personal development, for this is the foundation for improving your results and experiences in all areas of life, including parenting.

Parenting Advice: Wisdom is about aligning with the way life truly is. As you seek deeper understanding of the way life really is, you will be a better guide for your child.

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3 Keys For Improving Child Behavior

By Bob Lancer   |  Sunday, October 23rd, 2011

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Improving child behavior

By helping your child to remain calm, you support the balanced emotional condition that is the foundation for orderly child self-conduct.

Here are 3 keys for improving child behavior.

The first step is modeling.  Children are programed by nature to repeat what they see and hear.

If your child, for instance, demonstrates a problem containing her exuberance in the school classroom, it may be traced to one of her parents operating through the day in an overly high-strung manner.

As that parent demonstrates better self-control by functioning in a more calm and relaxed manner throughout the day, that parent models the kind of improved behavior that is expected from the child.

Modeling is just one bit of parenting advice for improving child behavior.

Here is another: Help the child to maintain emotional balance.

When the child’s level of emotional intensity runs too high, it is impossible for the child to demonstrate orderly behavior.

Child behavior problems often stem from a child’s emotional problem.  By helping your child to remain calm, you support the balanced emotional condition that is the foundation for orderly child self-conduct.

What child behavior problems does your child exhibit?

Can you see how modeling, and how the child’s emotional condition influences that behavior?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about modeling and
how to help your child to remain calm enough to behave well.

Here is a bit of parenting advice for raising children beginning at around age four. To improve their behavior, they need to understand:
1.    The problem with the behavior they have been displaying
2.    The behavior that you expect from them
3.    The benefit of demonstrating that improved behavior

The reason the child needs to improve his behavior should pertain to the patterns of behavior he needs to develop to lead a happy, successful life.

The real purpose of improving child behavior is to prepare the child for responsible self-reliance.
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