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Parenting Can be Overwhelming

By Guest Author   |  Wednesday, December 19th, 2012

 

Editor’s Note: This is a guest post by Aaran.

 

Parental Involvement

“Having children makes you no more a parent than having a piano makes you a pianist.” ~ Michael Levine

If one makes a list of some of the most difficult jobs to do in the world, then parenting should definitely feature in that list probably at the top of the list.

 

Especially, managing children in the age group of 1 to 3 can be extremely difficult. It is a very delicate age group, and you need to handle children in that age group with the utmost care.

 

This is the age group where children start to learn things. They sometimes try to imitate parents and imbibe the characteristics of the parents. So you need to watch what you say or how you behave in front of your kids.

 

Single Parenting is Particularly Difficult

 

If you are a single parent, then your troubles will be compounded. There can be various reasons why you are a single parent. You may be a divorcee, and you get the custody of your child, or your spouse may have died, and you choose not to remarry, or you might have gotten pregnant either by choice or chance without opting to get married.

 

No matter what the reason is for being a single parent, the job is only going to get more and more difficult. One of the popular quotes on parenting that I found online comes to my mind. Here it goes – “A mother who is really a mother is never free.”

 

Expenses Can Significantly Increase

 

First of all, you need to make sure your job or business doesn’t get affected. The expenditure for children at a very young age will be significantly more than when they grow up.

 

Of course, there are going to be other expenses when they grow up, but when they are young, there will be many unnecessary expenses which are quite difficult to avoid.

 

Work Life May be Affected

 

You need to strike a proper balance between your work and parenting. Research has shown that parenthood can affect the productivity levels of employees in the office.

 

If you are a business owner, even then things would be affected since taking care of businesses, either small or large, requires more time and attention than normal jobs.
When you are away for work, you can’t take your children along with you. Some offices allow bringing your children to work since there are separate rooms in some offices for small children. However, not all offices have these facilities.

 

Even if you leave your children in those rooms, you won’t be able to concentrate on your work fully. You will be constantly going and checking on what the child is doing.

 

Also, only a small baby which is under a year old is suitable for taking with you to the office. Children above one year of age are usually very naughty and quite difficult to manage.

 

Nannies Are an Option

 

This leaves you with the option of hiring professional nannies to take care of your children at home when you are at work. It is true that hiring nannies can get quite expensive. But at least your child will be taken care of even in your absence.

 

An article by Aaran who loves reading inspirational quotes and photography. Find some of his favorite sayings about relationship at FinestQuotes.com

About Lying In Children And Importance Of Telling The Truth

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012

 

Editor’s Note: This is a guest blog by Pankaj Sharma

 

In my last blog “Parenting Help: Curbing The Habit of Lying in Children”, I discussed the reasons that prompt children to lie. This blog suggests effective parenting tips that help you curb the habit of lying in children.

 

Honesty In Children

Always tell the Truth. That way, you don’t have to remember what you said.
~ Mark Twain

Having a lying child is a nightmare for every parent.

 

On the one side, you would want your child to be creative and imaginative and story-telling is a great means of encouraging this.

 

But on the other hand, you would also want to teach your child the importance of honesty and of telling the truth. Teaching children the difference between imaginative storytelling and unscrupulous lying is a tricky balance you need to meet.

 

Following some effective parenting advice that will help you discourage the habit of lying in your children:

 

Encourage the Positive Behavior

 

“Catch children being good! Children repeat behaviors that get attention; they give up behaviors that get no attention. “

~ Child Welfare League of America

 

Praising a child for displaying positive behavior further encourages him to stick to good habits. Appreciate your child every time she accepts her mistakes and stays honest. Let her experience the joy of telling the truth. It will instill wisdom in children to learn positive behavior.

 

Role Modeling

 

We tell lies when we are afraid… afraid of what we don’t know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us. But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger. ~ Tad Williams

Children imitate and imbibe values from people around them. Make sure you don’t resort to lying when your kids are around.

 

Communicate the importance of truthfulness by narrating stories that highlight the power of truth and also emphasize on the harmful consequences of lying.

 

Make your child aware about the scenarios when lying caused problems to different individuals. Moral fairy tales and stories such as “Pinocchio” and “The Boy Who Cried Wolf” can prove helpful.

 

Stay Attentive to Your Child’s Lies

 

Parents should be on their toes when it comes to catching lies and disciplining children.

 

Children lie either to seek attention or to escape an uncomfortable situation and succeeding in the same promotes the habit of lying in children.

 

It is very important to catch and correct every little lie your child tells. Every time you catch a lie you get an opportunity to teach honesty to your child.

 

Also, the fear of being caught and facing embarrassment discourages the habit of lying in children.

 

Punishment is not the Solution

 

Punishing lying children with spanking or yelling is not going to solve the problem. The threat of punishment can turn children into smarter and more frequent liars. Deal with this in a calm and collected manner.

 

Mentor your child firmly yet positively on why lying is wrong and should never be repeated again.

 

Your controlled reaction will make it clear to your child that speaking the truth and being honest will always be appreciated while lying will spell trouble.

 

 

When is it Okay for Kids to Use a Kindle or iPad?

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This post is by Guest Author Brenda Stevens)

 

When we were students, we spent countless hours buried in books in the library doing research on our school paper or report.

 

teaching children

“I’m more interested in arousing enthusiasm in kids than in teaching the facts. The facts may change, but that enthusiasm for exploring the world will remain with them the rest of their lives.” ~ Seymour Simon

All kids need now is a laptop, mobile phone, e-reader, or tablet and they have all the resources they need within a few clicks.

 

This change raises some important questions.

 

Are our children ready for all that screen time?

 

What is a safe age to start introducing technology to our toddlers and young children?

 

There is no stopping the pace of technology advancement around us and its influence on our daily lives. As we see more and more young children spending countless hours on their iPads and Kindles, how do we know if they are ready to take on these gadgets.

 

Many of us are worried about how these changes can affect the formative years of our child.

 

Here is a structure for slowly and safely introducing this tech into your son or daughter’s life.

1-2 Years Old

 

Generally speaking, children under 2 are still too young to make full use of the iPad or the Kindle. Sure, they will appreciate the colorful graphics and animations but the screens itself provide limited sensory experience.

 

At this stage, it is best to let your child explore the real 3-dimensional world. Allow them to touch the snow or feel the softness of a marshmallow for the first time.

 

Encourage them to play with their shadows and run in a grass field. While these things seem simple enough to us, to a child these experiences will help hone their development. There is no level of screen resolutions that will offer this kind of understanding of the world around us.

Toddler Years

 

Now that your toddler is starting to recognize colors, shapes, and the alphabet, we can introduce them to the wonderful world of iPads and Kindles.

 

Just make sure to monitor and limit their screen time to avoid taking over their daily routines.

 

Thankfully, there is a wide array of child-friendly apps and electronic books to help with your child’s speech and cognitive development.

Pre-School Years

 

The iPad and Kindle are excellent ways to encourage your child to read. At this stage, it is best to go for interactive books that double as an educational toy to help them with their studies.

 

Ebooks are just beginning to evolve into larger immersive experiences, and quick access to dictionaries and the sounding out of words means that your child can quickly build their vocabulary and reading comprehension.

 

Depending on how we use them, e-readers and tablets work to your child’s advantage. The important thing is that we set limitations and monitor them as they explore these gadgets.

 

Brenda Stevens is a techy mom and blogger who writes about all things family. You can find her helping families calculate their baby conception date at DueDateCalculator.org.

Teaching Your Kids to Eat Healthy

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This blog post is by Guest Author Jacqui Vincent)

 

Eating habits are often developed at an early age. It is no surprise that many of us turn to our childhood comfort foods, in times of distress.

 

Teaching Children Healthy Eating Habits

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well. ~ Virginia Woolf

Childhood obesity is a growing concern. Unhealthy eating habits can make kids prone to cholesterol and diseases.

 

As parents and caregivers, it is essential to teach kids to eat healthy, starting at an early age. Eating healthy can have enormous benefits by giving your child that extra insurance in health and also by keeping diseases at bay.

 

Children are often resistant and determined to eat what they like. How exactly do you go about introducing healthy eating habits in your child? Here are a few tips that could help you develop better eating habits in your child.

 

Develop a Long-Term Plan

 

If your kids have been consistently eating fast foods and takeout, chances are they will rebel if you insist on a complete overhaul of their diet. In other words, plan to move gradually towards a healthier lifestyle.

 

Start off by replacing snacks with veggies and dips or fruits. Introduce healthier sides and entrees.

 

Start using heart-friendly cooking substitutes.

 

Switch to whole grains, lean proteins and leaner dairy products.

 

You might be surprised how well your children will adapt to your new plan.

 

Teaching Children

When we learn to eat properly we begin to rebuild our bodies and to fulfill our purpose on this planet to grow in health, creativity, wisdom, and compassion. ~ Dr. Ann Wigmore

Involve Kids in Food Planning and Preparation

 

Children love to be involved. Kids who are actively engaged in menu planning, grocery shopping and food preparation are receptive to trying new foods.

 

Eat a Variety of Foods

 

Introducing a variety of foods will help kids get more nutrients, and develop a palate that is more receptive to new foods.

 

Boredom may revert kids to junk foods. Giving them a choice of delicious, healthy foods will keep hunger at bay and lead them to make healthier eating choices.

 

Portion Control is Key

 

It is important to teach kids to eat the right portions. Portion sizes have been increasing over the years. The average size of a pizza slice or a muffin is not the same anymore.

 

Kids need to be educated about the difference between eating to curb hunger and overeating. Demonstrate healthy portions at meal times and help kids develop visual cues about serving sizes.

 

Eat Together and Eat Slowly

 

Eating too fast may result in overeating. Children need to be reminded to eat slowly. Also, eating together and having family meal times leads to healthier eating habits in children.

 

As with everything else, consistency is key. Children watch and learn. Living by example and following long-term strategies are surely beneficial in teaching your kids to eat healthy.

 

These great parenting tips are brought to you by Jacqui Vincent, mum of four and the owner of MyBabyShoes, Australia’s leading online retailer of children’s shoes.

Apply The Parenting Wisdom of Silence

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, May 31st, 2012

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Parenting Tips

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

When it comes to parenting wisdom, no principle may be more important than how we speak to our children.

 

What we say to our children impacts them deeply.

 

When we feel frustrated with our kids, it’s best to practice the parent wisdom of silence.

 

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

 

What we say to our children forms their mental programming.

 

Telling a child that he never listens, calling a child a slob, labeling your kid selfish or stubborn proves to be a form of self-defeating parenting.

 

Skills in the area of verbal communication help you empower your child.

 

When we feel frustrated our parent-child communication skills are compromised.

 

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

Take a moment to calm down and think about the messages do you WANT your child to remember and live up to?

 

This morning, my 9 year old was making noise while his baby brother slept.

 

I felt like saying, “Why won’t you stop and think about how you are impacting your brother? He needs his sleep and I don’t want to have to deal with a cranky baby right now! Don’t you care about anyone but yourself?!”

 

But instead of blurting out harsh words, I paused, recognizing I was feeling too upset to speak constructively with my child.

 

So I remained silent.

 

Immediately I realized that all I needed to do was to place my hands on his shoulders and lovingly lead him to a place where his volume would not disturb his brother’s sleep.

 

I’m glad I applied the parenting wisdom of silence to protect his sacred heart.

 

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Apply The Parenting Wisdom of Silence

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012

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When it comes to parenting wisdom, no principle may be more important than how we speak to our children.

 

Child Behavior Challenge

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

What we say to our children impacts them deeply.

 

When we feel frustrated with our kids, it’s best to practice the parent wisdom of silence.

 

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

 

What we say to our children forms their mental programming.

 

Telling a child that he never listens, calling a child a slob, labeling your kid selfish or stubborn proves to be a form of self-defeating parenting.

 

Skills in the area of verbal communication help you empower your child.

 

When we feel frustrated our parent-child communication skills are compromised.

 

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

Parenting Wisdom And The Child Behavior Challenge

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say

Take a moment to calm down and think about the messages do you WANT your child to remember and live up to?

 

This morning, my 9 year old was making noise while his baby brother slept.

 

I felt like saying, “Why won’t you stop and think about how you are impacting your brother?  He needs his sleep and I don’t want to have to deal with a cranky baby right now! Don’t you care about anyone but yourself?!”

 

But instead of blurting out harsh words, I paused, recognizing I was feeling too upset to speak constructively with my child.

 

So I remained silent.

 

Immediately I realized that all I needed to do was to place my hands on his shoulders and lovingly lead him to a place where his volume would not disturb his brother’s sleep.

 

I’m glad I applied the parenting wisdom of silence to protect his sacred heart.

 

Receive your FREE Parenting Advice through this blog. Simply ask Bob Lancer your question and receive his Lancer’s Answer in this blog.

 

Wisie Members: Please feel welcome to share your views in this blog regarding any of the Wisie videos, and to ask questions about how to make the most of them.

How To Raise A Wise Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

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Follow Parenting Wisdom With Your Child

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

To follow parenting wisdom with your child means that you are connecting with your own positive, loving and intelligent intuitive inner guidance.

 

You need to be calm, emotionally balanced, and aware in the now for this to happen.

 

When parents begin feeling frustrated in their efforts to control their child, they break their internal connection with the inner wisdom that can guide them toward healthier, happier parenting success.

 

For instance, if you begin feeling annoyed when your child interrupts your work or demands your attention while you are on the phone, your stressful reaction prevents you from handling the situation as well as you can, from producing the results that you really want.

 

Every parent needs to MASTER the experience of being distracted, to stay sane, content, and constructive.

 

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

 

Wisdom is an inspired state of consciousness that nurtures the soul.

 

When you demonstrate parenting wisdom in your relationship with your child, your inner, harmonious, enlightened state radiates, reaching and nurturing your child’s inner life with those same qualities, producing a happier, more loving and wise child.

 

Parents who complain that their children are too wild would do well to consider this way of helping their children to be more wise.

 

Receive your FREE Parenting Advice through this blog. Simply ask Bob Lancer your question and receive his Lancer’s Answer in this blog.

 

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