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Parenting Help: Childhood Needs to be Nurtured

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, March 28th, 2013

“There was no need for a term like ‘magical thinking’ in the Golden Age of Man…there was only genuine everyday magic and mysticism. Children were not mocked or scolded in those days for singing to the rain or talking to the wind.”
― Anthon St. Maarten

Children dream with their eyes open

Parenting Tips: There are a million dreams in a child’s eyes. Nurture them with your love.




Parenting Advice: Don't let your child's innocence lost in your aspirations.

“You have to love your children unselfishly. That is hard. But it is the only way.”
~ Barbara Bush

Teach Your Child To Realize the Responsibilities of a Hero

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Monday, March 25th, 2013

A hero is somebody who is selfless, who is generous in spirit, who just tries to give back as much as possible and help people. A hero to me is someone who saves people and who really deeply cares.
~ Debi Mazar

A hero is no braver than an ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer. ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

A hero is someone who understands the responsibility that comes with his freedom.
~ Bob Dylan


A hero always choses to do the right thing. He does not hesitate to help someone even in his difficult times.

A hero has faced it all: he need not be undefeated, but he must be undaunted.
~ Andrew Bernstein

A hero is a man who does what he can. ~ Romain Rolland

A hero is willing to work hard. He is brave. He is kind.

We all want to be a hero because we don’t want to let our feet stop with fear. The sense of being a hero gives us courage to fight fear not for ourselves but for others as well.

Little Steps Go A Long Way

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Tuesday, March 19th, 2013

If parents pass enthusiasm along to their children, they will leave them an estate of incalculable value.
~Thomas Edison

Small steps add up to a big accomplishment.

Child learns from its surroundings.



We only have right NOW...the future hasn't come yet.

Free the child’s potential, and you will transform him into the world.
~ Maria Montessori

Powerful Parenting Success Principles

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, March 19th, 2013

When we operate from the belief that our parenting success depends upon getting our child to do what we want, parenting becomes draining and frustrating.


Parenting children

Concentrate on doing the right thing when interacting with your child. Be the example you would want your child to follow.

While it SEEMS that our child’s resistance to our direction makes the child-parent relationship difficult, it is this underlying belief that is the true cause.


This belief fosters an attitude of parent helplessness and dependency upon the child.


In other words, it makes the child in charge and leaves us feeling powerless.


Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you learned that your success and satisfaction in parenting depended only on your application of certain principles that  guarantee the positive results you are after?


The fact is that such principles do in fact exist, and those who experience the most satisfaction and success with their children, with the least wasted effort, conflict and stress, adhere to these principles in their child-parent relationship.


One great pleasure of relying on these principles is the feeling of independence.  You no longer feel dependent upon your child’s will or whim.


You don’t feel desperate to gain your child’s agreement.  You don’t worry about losing control of your child.


You don’t have to engage in straining power-struggles to force cooperation or compliance.


You know that you only have to focus on what YOU are doing, in the now, to perpetuate the progress you want to make.


So what are these powerful parenting success principles?


There are many.  The foundation principal on which the rest rely is simply the principle that states: Awareness Leads To Control.


To increase your success without stress with your children, make it your daily practice to refine your action’s alignment with awareness in the now.


In this context, the word “action” does not only apply to your physical actions.  It applies to your mental and emotional activity as well.  It applies to what you say, when you say it, and how you say it.  It applies to the activity of your attention or to what you choose to pay attention to in the now.


As you simply PRACTICE being more aware in the now, you will begin recognize more and more clearly ways that you can shift, change or refine your emotional responses, actions, speech and thoughts to more easily achieve what you want with your child.


Help Your Child Explore Her Innate Strengths

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Tuesday, March 19th, 2013

Parents need to fill a child’s bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can’t poke enough holes to drain it dry

~ Alvin Price

The love and support of the parents create champions.

Children need your continuous support to prosper and attain success.


Raising Kids – A Child’s Innocence Is Magical

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

“A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll
smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the
future worth living for.”
~ Anonymous

Raising Kids - A Child Innocence Is Magical

A child’s innocence brightens up a day!


Raising Kids - A Child Innocence Is Magical

A baby makes a house colorful and brighter with her innocence.


Raising Kids - A Child Innocence Is Magical

Children have that innocence about them that is so genuine and heart touching.




Spending Time Together Betters Child Parent Relationships

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, March 8th, 2013
Give your child a healthy atmosphere at home.

Family is the first home and parents are first teachers of children.

Spend some happy hours with your children. It will instill wisdom in children and make them good human beings.

Raising Children During Divorce

By Noah Brown   |  Saturday, January 12th, 2013

Raising children is a tough job in and of itself, but when the parents are going through a divorce this important job seems to become even harder. The parents understand why they both need and want to live separate lives but it is very difficult for a child to understand.
Kids tend to blame themselves when their parents split up. They feel unstable and confused as well. Divorce is stressful for kids too. You can use this help for parents advice to ensure that you are being a parent who is truly caring for your child’s psyche throughout the divorce.
Honesty Is the Best Policy
To an extent, you should be very honest with your kids about the divorce. Of course, they do not need details ofa sordid affair or addiction problem. Honesty is important while inspiring children to learn positive values.

Raising Children During Divorce

Being a parent, you will need to make the changes as easy on your kids as possible

Being a parent, you will need to make the changes as easy on your kids as possible
The easiest way to explain the impending divorce is by telling the kids that you and your spouse simply cannot live together anymore. You always must make them understand that they had nothing to do with your marital problems. They need to know that you both love them now and will always love them.
Never tell them that you no longer love your spouse. This will make the children believe that you could stop loving them as well. This is never a good thing and could spoil child parent relationships.
Change Can Be Scary
Everyone who has been raising children understands that change can be quite difficult for some children. Many kids get stressed out moving to a new classroom for a higher grade level so the change resulting from a divorce can be overwhelming.
Being a parent, you will need to make the changes as easy on your kids as possible You should consult your pediatrician and inform him of the divorce and your concerns for its effect on your kids. He will be able to offer some great help for parents’ information that will make the divorce more understandable for your kids. It is possible that he recommends you to take your children to a parenting counselor.
Prevent Possible Problems
Kids who are dealing with divorce often begin to have problems in school. Quite a few articles offering help for parents going through a divorce advice believe that the child’s teacher should be informed of the family situation. This knowledge will allow the teacher to watch for and understand any abnormal behavior and avert problems.
Your child’s guidance counselor may also be able to offer some parenting help as he has certainly dealt with many kids who have gone through stressful divorces
No Badmouthing Allowed
Just because you are raising children during this trying time does not give you the right to talk badly about their other parent. This behavior simply adds more stress for the child and makes him feel like he is being pulled apart. Remember, he loves both of you and if you badmouth your former spouse, the child will always resent you.
Still Two Parents
Even during a divorce, both of you are obligated to fulfill your duties of being a parent. The task of raising children belongs to both mother and father. The custodial parent should never disallow the other parent opportunities to maintain a close relationship with each other.
Authorities on raising children during divorce state that parents who deny their children access to the other will eventually be alienated by the kids later in life. It is healthy for the kids to grow up with two parents, even if they live separate lives.

Inspiring Children Towards Persistence

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Tuesday, December 18th, 2012
Child Behavior Inspiring Children

“We may not be able to prepare the future for our children, but we can at least prepare our children for the future.” ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt

“Parents can promote persistence by encouraging their children to keep going and not give in at the slightest hurdle or difficulty.”

–         Michael Grose


The ability to persist or stay committed to a task till its successful accomplishment is an important quality of positive child behavior that you should try to develop in your child.


From learning to tie shoelaces to achieving his career goal, persistence defines the success of any task that a child undertakes. Children need to stick to the job despite the flood of difficulties and hurdles they face while putting in efforts for reaching their goals.


This parenting advice aims help parents in inspiring children to be persistent and self-motivated.


Follow your child’s interests


This is a basic principle of helping children learn quickly as they always stick to a task they find their interest in. The pleasure and pride children gain after successful completion of work encourages them to undertake new purposes and attain new career peaks in the future.


Appreciate your children when they pursue a task


Appreciation is an important lesson in children education. Every time you see your child sticking on to a task for a long time despite initial failure, give him a pat on his back, hug him or reward him with a chocolate or so.


If you feel he is about to give up just simplify the things a bit or tempt him with a reward so that he stays motivated till he achieves success. The taste of success will encourage him to accept more challenges.


Help him draw courage from past achievements


You can also inspire your child to stay committed from her past experiences when she had finally pulled off things after defying all odds. Instill wisdom in kids that persistence always pays off.

Just be patient and keep trying. It will help her to hang on and keep pursuing the .


Be supportive and helpful


Don’t leave your children helpless with their tasks. Though you should motivate your children to be as independent as possible but predict and respond proactively when they need you.


Define the limits to the children clearly but always leave room for flexibility. Parenting a child requires lots of patience and maturity.


Remember, childhood is about more fun and less restrictions. That’s how a child learns and prepares himself for future.


The Indomitable Human Spirit: Xander Vento, 4, Dies To Save 3-Year-Old Girl From Drowning

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012


Bravery knows no barrier – neither age nor physique.

Xander Vento – a 4-year-old boy from Texas – dared death and displayed a supreme act of humanity when he lost his life while saving a 3-year-old girl from drowning at a neighborhood pool in Fort Worth, Texas.


Parenting Advice: Instill Moral Values in Your Children

Xander Vento displayed indomitable act of humanity when he sacrificed his life to save a girl from drowning.

Xander Vento and the 3-year-old girl were in the pool when the girl started to drown. Vento held the struggling girl’s head above water until she was safe, but he became exhausted and slipped below the water’s surface, The Associated Press reported. The epitome of utmost bravery finally succumbed to a three-day long coma.


“We in some way hope our son’s life serves as an inspiration. He was the angel in the pool who sacrificed himself to save another. And now he continues to give as an organ donor. We were blessed to have such a kind and caring boy as Xander who set an example for all of us and even now he will be saving lives by giving of himself.”

—      Cris and Misty Vento, parents of Xander Vento

(Courtesy: NBCNEWS)


Xander led the way to prove that you need not to grow in age to perform extraordinary. He defies his age to do something that even an adult would hesitate to attempt. At an age when a child thinks about his wants and desires, such a feat can make even the most prolific psychologists to revisit their books on child behavior.


The example of this brave kid gives valuable parenting advice to parents who believe that books can teach everything to children. No book can be as effective as the surroundings in which the child dwells in helping a child learn the universal human values of love, sacrifice, humanity, compassion and courage, effectively. The learning induced through inspiration is more effective than imparting the same theoretically.


The role of good parenting is crucial in inspiring children. If you want to teach the lesson of respect and humanity to your kids, you need to practice these in your life. Seeing you helping a blind person in crossing the road or showing respect to elders will inspire him to do the same when he will get the opportunity.


Hats off to Xander Vento whose desire to help others live was stronger than the choice to save his own life first.


Teaching Your Kids to Eat Healthy

By Guest Author   |  Friday, December 14th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This blog post is by Guest Author Jacqui Vincent)


Eating habits are often developed at an early age. It is no surprise that many of us turn to our childhood comfort foods, in times of distress.


Teaching Children Healthy Eating Habits

One cannot think well, love well, sleep well, if one has not dined well. ~ Virginia Woolf

Childhood obesity is a growing concern. Unhealthy eating habits can make kids prone to cholesterol and diseases.


As parents and caregivers, it is essential to teach kids to eat healthy, starting at an early age. Eating healthy can have enormous benefits by giving your child that extra insurance in health and also by keeping diseases at bay.


Children are often resistant and determined to eat what they like. How exactly do you go about introducing healthy eating habits in your child? Here are a few tips that could help you develop better eating habits in your child.


Develop a Long-Term Plan


If your kids have been consistently eating fast foods and takeout, chances are they will rebel if you insist on a complete overhaul of their diet. In other words, plan to move gradually towards a healthier lifestyle.


Start off by replacing snacks with veggies and dips or fruits. Introduce healthier sides and entrees.


Start using heart-friendly cooking substitutes.


Switch to whole grains, lean proteins and leaner dairy products.


You might be surprised how well your children will adapt to your new plan.


Teaching Children

When we learn to eat properly we begin to rebuild our bodies and to fulfill our purpose on this planet to grow in health, creativity, wisdom, and compassion. ~ Dr. Ann Wigmore

Involve Kids in Food Planning and Preparation


Children love to be involved. Kids who are actively engaged in menu planning, grocery shopping and food preparation are receptive to trying new foods.


Eat a Variety of Foods


Introducing a variety of foods will help kids get more nutrients, and develop a palate that is more receptive to new foods.


Boredom may revert kids to junk foods. Giving them a choice of delicious, healthy foods will keep hunger at bay and lead them to make healthier eating choices.


Portion Control is Key


It is important to teach kids to eat the right portions. Portion sizes have been increasing over the years. The average size of a pizza slice or a muffin is not the same anymore.


Kids need to be educated about the difference between eating to curb hunger and overeating. Demonstrate healthy portions at meal times and help kids develop visual cues about serving sizes.


Eat Together and Eat Slowly


Eating too fast may result in overeating. Children need to be reminded to eat slowly. Also, eating together and having family meal times leads to healthier eating habits in children.


As with everything else, consistency is key. Children watch and learn. Living by example and following long-term strategies are surely beneficial in teaching your kids to eat healthy.


These great parenting tips are brought to you by Jacqui Vincent, mum of four and the owner of MyBabyShoes, Australia’s leading online retailer of children’s shoes.

Have Fun Raising Children

By Noah Brown   |  Thursday, December 13th, 2012

Of course, your kids still need to have a strong parent to help teach them right from wrong, dangerous and safe as well as good and bad but there should also be fun in your child parent relations too. Children tend to drown out negative comments, if they occur too often. Kids are more apt to listen to their parents if they can actually enjoy spending time with them.

Bonding time makes parenting kids much easier because the children are more relaxed with their parents.

Parenting kids is easier if you let yourself have fun and enjoy spending time with them

Remember, there are no cell phones, laptops or handheld video games while camping. Older parents might want to use an air mattress while younger ones might want to “rough it” by sleeping on the ground. The choice is yours as long as you spend the time together, all will be great!


Read more http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/03/13/have-fun-raising-children/


Seven Surprisingly Common Parenting Mistakes

By Guest Author   |  Thursday, November 29th, 2012

(Editor’s Note: This is a guest blog by Sharon Anderson, a prolific writer on parenting advice and a very warm and affectionate person)

Parenting children with discipline

If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do matters very much. ~ Jackie Kennedy


Perfect parents are as fictional as Santa Claus. If you’re a parent, or will be one soon, you are going to make mistakes. Trying to change this fact is a pointless endeavor.


The only thing that any parent can do is try to minimize the number that they make. Here are seven of the most common parenting mistakes. How many have you made?


Trying to be a Friend


It’s pretty common for a parent to want to be their child’s friend but when it comes down to it, your child needs a parent, not a friend. Your role as a parent is to provide structure, rules and a shoulder to cry on. It’s very difficult to be viewed as both a friend and an authority figure. And unfortunately, it’s the latter that your child needs the most.


Talking too Much


Learning when to talk and when to stay silent is a parenting skill that can take years to master. When your child isn’t listening to you, what you say is pretty much the definition of irrelevant. Learn to recognise such situations and try to find the self control to keep your words of wisdom for a time when they will actually be listened to.


Pushing High Expectations


There’s nothing wrong with encouraging your child to do well at school but there is a line. And when you cross that line, your words of encouragement can actually prove the opposite of motivating. Encourage your child to study but don’t tell him/her that you expect certain grades.


Comparing Siblings


If you have two or more children, it’s important to keep the comparisons between them to a minimum. Even subtle comparisons have the capacity to lead to long term insecurities. If one of your children is smarter than the other, keep that fact to yourself. Unconditional love is particularly important when there’s more than one child in the house.


Not Picking Your Battles


Saying yes to everything your child asks for obviously isn’t feasible but a little bit of leeway can go a long way towards keeping arguments to a minimum. Letting your child stay up all night obviously isn’t good parenting but is an extra twenty minutes on front of the television really worth an argument? Sometimes saying no simply isn’t worth it.


Right Words, Wrong Actions


If you want to instil certain values into your children, you need to demonstrate those values yourself. Saying one thing and doing another is not how you teach a child anything. If you don’t want your child to swear, keep your own swear words to a minimum.


Being too Helpful


It might be tempting to make things as easy as possible for your child but doing so isn’t going to benefit him/her in the long term. A child has many lessons to learn and most of those lessons are easiest learnt through experience. It’s important for you to be there for your child but don’t allow yourself to be the solution to every one of their problems.


Sharon Anderson, the writer of this article is a very warm and affectionate person. She is currently working with Country cubbies, who sell a wide range of different cubby houses and play forts.

Parenting Advice to Curb the Habit of Stealing in Kids

By Noah Brown   |  Sunday, November 25th, 2012

Generally children of 5 to 6 years begin to develop conscience at that stage and at times they find it tough to resist their temptation to steal something that they want.

Strictly make your child understand that stealing is wrong and you would not forgive it.

Many children steal because they think that there is nothing wrong about it. Some steal because they want to get attention.

Screaming or slapping your child won’t solve the problem. You need to figure out the root cause and nip it in the bud.


Read more: http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2012/12/28/parenting-advice-to-curb-the-habit-of-stealing-in-kids/


Improve Child Behavior Without Time-Outs

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, November 1st, 2012
Responsible Parenting

No matter how calmly you try to referee, parenting will eventually produce bizarre behavior, and I’m not talking about the kids. ~Bill Cosby


There’s lots of talk these days about using “time outs” to improve child behavior.


But there is far too little talk about the even more important influence of quality time “IN” with your child.


Just spending time with your child, sharing space together, as you remain in a calm and loving state, nurtures your child’s spirit.


Your presence provides your child with a sense of security and supports the child’s feeling of being worthy of love.


Additionally, your peaceful presence provides your child with the influence of your modeling.


As you function in a calm, orderly, intelligent manner around your child, you teach your child to function similarly.


Spending a sufficient amount of quality time with your child can help your child to display better self-conduct, and thus diminish the kinds of behavior problems that you might try to solve with time-outs.


Time-IN with your child, however, is not automatically constructive.


HOW you spend time with your child is just as important as how much time you spend together.


If you display much anger and stress, if you over criticize and complain, if display an impatient and disapproving attitude toward your child, your presence disturbs the child in a way that leads the child into disturbing behavior and unhappiness.


It’s also possible to be overly placating with a child.  Saying “yes” when you ought to say “no” sets the child up to becoming overly dependent and demanding.


Awareness is the most important guide for quality time with our kids.  We need to be attentively aware to recognize the kind of influence we are having on our children.


Avoid parenting in an automatic, unconscious way.  Observe your child closely to accurately read his or her feelings and needs.  Children express their needs non-verbally far more than they do so verbally.


The more CONSCIOUS time you spend with your child, the better you will understand your child, and from there you can provide your child with the influences and interactions that lead to improved child behavior and beautiful child development.

Raising Children to Make Good Friends

By Noah Brown   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

Encourage your children to share their experiences

Making friends plays a vital role in shaping social and emotional behavior of your children.

If your child is introvert and hesitates in building and developing friendships at school and play, it is a time for you to help and motivate your child to make friends.


Read more: http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/01/17/raising-children-to-make-good-friends/


Parenting Advice For Raising Successful Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012
Positive Inspiration For Raising Kids

In our hurry to be a perfect parent, we risk excessive discipline or over indulgence. Keep the balance. Be a parent, friend, guide and mentor to your child.

When we react to child behavior with anger, stress and strain, we may be trying too hard to help our children succeed in living up to our expectations.


We parents want our children to follow our rules, but the parenting strategy we employ to make that happen may undermine our objective, cause us pointless parent frustration and cause the child needless suffering.


Reacting with impatience and anger to motivate your child to do as you say makes parenting children a miserable strain and drain AND it doesn’t really work.


While routinely reacting to a child’s lapse in behavior with harsh, angry criticism, pitiful complaining and intimidating demands is a common parenting strategy, it can undermine the child’s ability to succeed in life.


You may get your child to comply with your demand by yelling, threatening or complaining in extreme frustration, but the intense dissatisfaction you express erodes the child’s self-confidence and self-esteem.


This emotional erosion not only causes the child needless suffering, it ends up lowering the child’s ability to perform and ends up worsening the child’s behavior problem in the long run.


Raising kids who are self-motivated to be successful requires that we honor their need to believe in themselves.


When children believe in themselves, they feel motivated to do their best to live up to their parent’s positive expectations, as well as the expectations of teachers. 


Build Self Confidence In Children

Love your children the way they are. Each child is unique, each child is special.

They see themselves capable of succeeding, and this can develop into a long term pattern of positive motivation.


When a child sees himself as capable of succeeding, the child has the motivation to do what it takes to succeed.


So the parent advice we need is how to constructively and compassionately lead children into higher performance.


The answer is for the parent to lose the habit of angry criticism and complaining.  Replace it with closer supervision and more constructive involvement in the parent child relationship.


Calmly guide your child to follow the rule that he breaks.  Each time that you help her to successfully follow the rule her self-discipline grows stronger.


Pro-actively engage the child in, say, flushing the toilet, turning off the light when he leaves the room, closing his drawers, cleaning up his mess before moving into another activity, instead of impatiently criticizing, complaining or blowing your top.


When you see her about to, say, use her fingers to eat her pasta, remind her to use her fork.  When she follows the rule, even with your help, she see’s herself succeeding.  You can nurture her self-esteem further by saying something like, “Good work.”


Each time you give your child the help he needs to succeed, your child receives a “training” that develops his drive and commitment to success.


Admittedly, following this parenting advice for raising successful children takes work, but it is proves less taxing and far more constructive, than relying on reactions of extreme harshness.


Encourage Your Child For Fair Play

By Noah Brown   |  Wednesday, September 12th, 2012

The first lessons begin at home, from parents, by observing and following people who are in the immediate environment.

Whatever a child learns in his childhood, it leaves a permanent impression on his memory.

“Victory isn’t defined by wins or losses. It is defined by effort. If you can truthfully say, ‘I did the best I could, I gave everything I had,’ then you’re a winner.”
– Wolfgang Schadler

Hence, parents need to be doubly careful when raising children on what kind of a home environment they are providing their children.


Read more: http://wisieforkids.wordpress.com/2013/01/22/encourage-your-child-for-fair-play/



Parenting Advice: Stay Connected With Your Children

By Noah Brown   |  Friday, September 7th, 2012

Does your child display anger and agitation at public places? Check out this useful advice on parenting!


(Editor’s Note: This is a guest blog by Noah Brown, a prolific freelance writer who writes extensively on advice for parents, child behavior and parent child relationship issues.)


Good Parenting

Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each. ~ Plato

Anyone who has ever witnessed poor child behavior in a public place automatically looks at the parents as if they simply allow the child to run amuck and do whatever he pleases. In many cases, parents find it difficult to correct a misbehaving child without yelling or hitting.


Most working parents leave raising their child up to a daycare, babysitters, and nannies or even to the teachers at school. The truth is that there is no person in the world who can raise your kid better than you.


If you have to go off to work to support your family, rules must be set for the kids as well as their caretakers. By following this parenting advice, you will not only see a great improvement in child behavior but also grow stronger and closer child parent relationships.


Those Terrible Tantrums

One of the most nerve wracking child behavior problems that a parent must endure is tantrums. A lot of people think that tantrums are a normal part of child development but they are wrong. Kids throw temper tantrums to get what they want and to control their parents.


It is essential that you find a solution and get expert parenting advice to improve this child behavior immediately. You should calmly and quietly inform the children that if they do not stop misbehaving, they will go into time out or lose other privileges such as their favorite TV show or a special toy.


If the child behavior does not improve, follow through with the time out or sanctions. It enables you to teach the child that you are the authority figure. He will learn to respect you and eventually the child parent relationships grow stronger.


Don’t Feed the Finicky


Children use to dominate the dinner menu by refusing to eat what is on the table. Many parents, especially working parents who lack good parenting skills simply give in and whip up chicken nuggets or macaroni and cheese rather than teaching the kids to eat the meal that has been prepared for the family. You must put your foot down and make them eat their meals.


Should they choose not to eat, send them to bed and wrap the meal for the following day. The child will learn to eat what is available. Knowing that you won’t back down will show the child that you mean business and he will learn to obey you.


Handling Homework Troubles

Nearly every grade school kid tries to avoid doing their homework. This is a common child behavior however; it must be corrected as your child’s education is of the utmost importance. It’s best to set aside a specific time for getting homework completed. Your child might tell you that he has no homework and expect to go out to play. This should never happen.


When a child tells their parents they don’t have homework, the parents need to realize that they may or may not be telling the truth. The scheduled time for homework should always be utilized for education. If there is no homework on a given day, the child should spend the time studying or preparing themselves for the next lesson.


Working parents should hold fast to this schedule as making time to meet with teachers can be difficult as well as problematic for your employer. Once the child understands that this time is always dedicated to his studies, their homework will never be undone, according to child behavior counselors.


Showing the child you are concerned about his education is a very important element of good parenting and an effective technique for inspiring children.


When It Is Wise To Ignore Your Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, June 23rd, 2012

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To skillfully support child development, remember that there is a time for responding to your child and a time for NOT responding.

support child development

One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough

If we are not responsive enough, we lose parental control as our child grows frustrated.


This is because and a frustrated child (like a frustrated adult) cannot help but slip into some form of behavior problem.

We teach our children, and the education may prove negative, through the way that we respond to our kids.


Being too non-responsive not only frustrates the child with the sense of denied parent access. It teaches the child, through our modeling, to BE non-responsive. This may manifest as the child not “listening” and being generally inattentive.


But, while a sufficient amount of parental involvement is crucial for positive child development and child behavior, it is also possible to be TOO responsive with a child.


If we respond automatically to a child’s request (or demand) for our attention, assistance or cooperation we demonstrate a weak form of child behavior management that actually trains the child to be overly demanding.


We also needlessly exhaust ourselves through the form of excessive parent involvement that we can describe as being overly responsive.


Help for parents who over-stress themselves through excessive responsiveness arrives as they apply the self-help wisdom of being more conscious in parenting.


Sometimes it is better to not respond as a means of teaching the child that the behavior she is using to get our response is unacceptable.


One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough.


Be aware during your parent-child interactions to avoid automatically reacting to your child without first pausing to determine if reacting in the way that you are about to react is really wise right now.


If you HABITUALLY respond when your child demands your attention, you produce your own frustration and lead your child toward the relationship problems that stem from being overly demanding.


Don’t blame your child for this.  Realize that your reactions of stress and strain are NOT your child’s responsibility.  How you react is YOUR responsibility.


Practice the parenting wisdom of more CONSCIOUS parenting to more alertly recognize when you need to respond, and when you need to deliberately NOT respond to your child, for the best parenting results and experiences.


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