One of the common behavior problems in children is lying. Children lie or make false stories to get away with mistakes or simply for fun. While some stories are harmless, some lies demand both caution and concern of parents. Many parents who do not check this at the right time, later seek parenting help for curbing this habit in their kids
Just as story-telling is to be encouraged to boost creativity in child, the habit of lying needs to be corrected early.
As parents, you should watch your kid carefully to draw a line between harmless story-telling and growing dishonesty.
If you find your child telling tall tales or narrating outright lies, it is the time for you to take definite steps to correct such child behavior.
Why Children Lie?
There may be many different reasons that prompt kids for escaping the truth including:
To establish identity â A majority of children lie to establish an identity or reputation in his peer groups. He wants to gain respect and admiration of his friends.
For which, he even boasts of having or doing something he has not really done or acquired.
Once he starts enjoying the privilege of his lies, he gets into the habit of making false claims or telling lies.
To avoid trouble â Sometimes it is the desperation to come out of a troublesome situation that forces a child to tell a lie.
For example, he has committed some mistake and he is afraid of punishment or has done something he was not supposed to do.
In order to avoid punishment or repercussions the situation might bring, he simply tells a lie to escape the consequences.
Parents may be responsible â Sometimes, parents inadvertently end up teaching their children the initial lessons of lying. Asking your child to tell the person at the door that dad is not in, just because you donât want to meet the person although you are home, is going to confuse your child on what is right and what is wrong.
âTell Grandma you loved her present even if you didnât because she will feel hurt otherwiseâ â you may be bill this as a âwhite lieâ but it is a lie anyways.
Your kid is too small to understand the character of the lie and takes it as a strategy to avoid some trouble situation.
In some cases, over expectations of parents also tend to make their children liars. When your child feels that she has failed to please her parents, she simply tries to cover up the facts, which eventually becomes a habit.
These are some of the major reasons responsible for developing the habit of telling lies in children. There are several more. The only way you can avoid such behavior is through positive parenting.
We will be discussing positive parenting techniques for improving the behavior of lying children in our next blog. Watch out this space!