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Parenting Help: Curbing The Habit of Lying in Children

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Saturday, December 1st, 2012

 

One of the common behavior problems in children is lying. Children lie or make false stories to get away with mistakes or simply for fun. While some stories are harmless, some lies demand both caution and concern of parents. Many parents who do not check this at the right time, later seek parenting help for curbing this habit in their kids

Improving Child Behavior

Always tell the truth – it’s the easiest thing to remember. ~ David Mamet

 

Just as story-telling is to be encouraged to boost creativity in child, the habit of lying needs to be corrected early.

 

As parents, you should watch your kid carefully to draw a line between harmless story-telling and growing dishonesty.

 

If you find your child telling tall tales or narrating outright lies, it is the time for you to take definite steps to correct such child behavior.

 

Why Children Lie?

 

There may be many different reasons that prompt kids for escaping the truth including:

 

To establish identity – A majority of children lie to establish an identity or reputation in his peer groups. He wants to gain respect and admiration of his friends.

 

For which, he even boasts of having or doing something he has not really done or acquired.

 

Once he starts enjoying the privilege of his lies, he gets into the habit of making false claims or telling lies.

 

To avoid trouble – Sometimes it is the desperation to come out of a troublesome situation that forces a child to tell a lie.

 

For example, he has committed some mistake and he is afraid of punishment or has done something he was not supposed to do.

 

In order to avoid punishment or repercussions the situation might bring, he simply tells a lie to escape the consequences.

 

Parents may be responsible – Sometimes, parents inadvertently end up teaching their children the initial lessons of lying. Asking your child to tell the person at the door that dad is not in, just because you don’t want to meet the person although you are home, is going to confuse your child on what is right and what is wrong.

 

“Tell Grandma you loved her present even if you didn’t because she will feel hurt otherwise” – you may be bill this as a “white lie” but it is a lie anyways.

 

Your kid is too small to understand the character of the lie and takes it as a strategy to avoid some trouble situation.

 

In some cases, over expectations of parents also tend to make their children liars. When your child feels that she has failed to please her parents, she simply tries to cover up the facts, which eventually becomes a habit.

 

Positive parenting can ensure improved child behavior

 

These are some of the major reasons responsible for developing the habit of telling lies in children. There are several more. The only way you can avoid such behavior is through positive parenting.

 

We will be discussing positive parenting techniques for improving the behavior of lying children in our next blog. Watch out this space!

Parenting Advice For Raising Successful Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012
Positive Inspiration For Raising Kids

In our hurry to be a perfect parent, we risk excessive discipline or over indulgence. Keep the balance. Be a parent, friend, guide and mentor to your child.

When we react to child behavior with anger, stress and strain, we may be trying too hard to help our children succeed in living up to our expectations.

 

We parents want our children to follow our rules, but the parenting strategy we employ to make that happen may undermine our objective, cause us pointless parent frustration and cause the child needless suffering.

 

Reacting with impatience and anger to motivate your child to do as you say makes parenting children a miserable strain and drain AND it doesn’t really work.

 

While routinely reacting to a child’s lapse in behavior with harsh, angry criticism, pitiful complaining and intimidating demands is a common parenting strategy, it can undermine the child’s ability to succeed in life.

 

You may get your child to comply with your demand by yelling, threatening or complaining in extreme frustration, but the intense dissatisfaction you express erodes the child’s self-confidence and self-esteem.

 

This emotional erosion not only causes the child needless suffering, it ends up lowering the child’s ability to perform and ends up worsening the child’s behavior problem in the long run.

 

Raising kids who are self-motivated to be successful requires that we honor their need to believe in themselves.

 

When children believe in themselves, they feel motivated to do their best to live up to their parent’s positive expectations, as well as the expectations of teachers. 

 

Build Self Confidence In Children

Love your children the way they are. Each child is unique, each child is special.

They see themselves capable of succeeding, and this can develop into a long term pattern of positive motivation.

 

When a child sees himself as capable of succeeding, the child has the motivation to do what it takes to succeed.

 

So the parent advice we need is how to constructively and compassionately lead children into higher performance.

 

The answer is for the parent to lose the habit of angry criticism and complaining.  Replace it with closer supervision and more constructive involvement in the parent child relationship.

 

Calmly guide your child to follow the rule that he breaks.  Each time that you help her to successfully follow the rule her self-discipline grows stronger.

 

Pro-actively engage the child in, say, flushing the toilet, turning off the light when he leaves the room, closing his drawers, cleaning up his mess before moving into another activity, instead of impatiently criticizing, complaining or blowing your top.

 

When you see her about to, say, use her fingers to eat her pasta, remind her to use her fork.  When she follows the rule, even with your help, she see’s herself succeeding.  You can nurture her self-esteem further by saying something like, “Good work.”

 

Each time you give your child the help he needs to succeed, your child receives a “training” that develops his drive and commitment to success.

 

Admittedly, following this parenting advice for raising successful children takes work, but it is proves less taxing and far more constructive, than relying on reactions of extreme harshness.

 

Parenting Tips: Awaken Parenting Intuition

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, September 10th, 2012

The child behavior that you encounter gives YOU an opportunity to grow.

 

At the heart of raising children is raising ourselves.

 

Raising kids is a learning experience for the parents who look for a way to do a better job.

 

Raising Children

Encourage and support your kids because children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.
~ Lady Bird Johnson ~

Ideally, parents and children grow TOGETHER.

 

Parenting help is always available to those parents who want to do better and to feel better in their relationship with their children.

 

You always have access to wise parenting advice WITHIN.

 

Calm down, observe your child, and open your heart and mind to understanding what is happening.  This awakens your PARENTING INTUITION.

 

Your child is really like an open book that you can read.  Just pay calm attention, with a tranquil, trusting heart and open to your inner source of wisdom.

 

You will see what you can do for your child’s good.  Parenting your child is a creative process, for your way of relating with your child influences the development of your child’s personality.

 

When you calmly observe your child with a heart and mind open to your own best inner judgment of what to do about it, you overcome your habitual reaction patterns and demonstrate new and improved parenting skills.  In other words, you raise yourself as you raise your child.

 

Parents want parenting tips from experts, while they have a parenting expert living within them that they overlook when they emotionally react to child behavior.

 

Help for parents who feel stressed out and are at their wits end becomes available when they return to calm confidence.

 

Your child is not responsible for how you react.  To know what to do about your child discipline challenges, practice non-reactivity.

 

Calm down, observe your child and confidently EXPECT that you will receive an idea, an insight, and inspiration that guides you from within.

 

Emotional reactions blind us to the truth.

 

In peace you can understand your child.

 

Raising kids is a learning experience for the parents who calmly pay attention to what is happening.

 

Our children’s challenging behavior calls upon us to grow.

 

An Alternative To Saying “No” To Your Kids

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, June 29th, 2012

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Our parental “job” includes instilling wisdom in our children.

Disciplining Children

If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves. ~ C.G. Jung

 

There are good reasons why parents would like to find an alternative to using the word “No” with their children.

 

You don’t want to HAVE to motivate your child to “do the right thing.”

 

Wouldn’t you love sensible ideas to bring as much inspiration to your kids as, say, the idea of shooting off firecrackers?

 

Having to frequently say ‘No’ can make parenting exhausting, and it causes some parents to feel that they are being too negative in the parent-child relationship.

 

If YOU have an issue saying “No”, and you want to instill practical life-wisdom in your child, try instead to tell your child of the reason why and what to do instead.

 

For instance, if your child asks for a second scoop of ice cream, instead of telling him “No”, try saying something like this to lead him to impose positive child discipline upon himself: “That would mean too much sugar, which is not good for the brain. But if you stop requesting another scoop you can have one scoop.”

 

This way of responding resolves the parenting issues of having to say “No” and feeling that you always have to impose boundaries for your child.

 

It ends on a positive note by pointing out what the child CAN have or do. It also helps the child development of understanding that actions have consequences, and to consider the consequences before acting on a desire.

 

Disciplining children is never all that much fun. The sooner our kids can responsibly discipline themselves the better.

 

By providing your child is a simple, brief explanation of what is undesirable about what she wants you actually educate her about what is good for her.

 

At the same time, you motivate your child to cooperate with you by helping her to see the positive outcome of cooperating with you: specifically, not requesting another scoop results in getting one scoop now.

 

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Parenting Help: Improve Your Child’s Environment

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, June 25th, 2012

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To improve child behavior, improve your child’s surroundings.

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Provide the child with influences that help the child display the positive child conduct you want

 

How a child behaves is a largely product of the child’s environment.

 

The child’s environment consists of the influences surrounding the child, including the influences emanating from people within that environment.

 

To help your child avoid or overcome behavior problems improve the emotional and behavior patterns impinging upon your child.

 

Parenting help for better child behavior generally involves working on the child’s environment in order to:

1… Avoid exposing the child to influences that contribute to behavior problems.

2… Provide the child with influences that help the child display the positive child conduct you want.

 

If all we focus on is getting the child to change WITHOUT changing the child’s environment, our efforts will be undermined by the disturbing environmental that led to the child’s behavior problem.

 

For instance, if your child withdraws from other kids, choosing to spend her time alone, that child may have received excessive criticism in her home environment, eroding her self-confidence.

 

Sometimes there is something happening at home that causes the child to feel ashamed.

 

There may be someone in the child’s home environment modeling a similar pattern of sensitivity that drives that person toward solitude and unsociability.

 

As long as the negative environmental factors remain unchanged, child discipline problems are likely to continue reflecting them.

 

In my own parent counseling practice I have often found that the parent help needed for improving how kids behave involves guiding parents in how to bring more order, calmness, attentiveness, positive modeling and love into the child’s environment.

 

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When It Is Wise To Ignore Your Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, June 23rd, 2012

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To skillfully support child development, remember that there is a time for responding to your child and a time for NOT responding.

support child development

One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough

If we are not responsive enough, we lose parental control as our child grows frustrated.

 

This is because and a frustrated child (like a frustrated adult) cannot help but slip into some form of behavior problem.

We teach our children, and the education may prove negative, through the way that we respond to our kids.

 

Being too non-responsive not only frustrates the child with the sense of denied parent access. It teaches the child, through our modeling, to BE non-responsive. This may manifest as the child not “listening” and being generally inattentive.

 

But, while a sufficient amount of parental involvement is crucial for positive child development and child behavior, it is also possible to be TOO responsive with a child.

 

If we respond automatically to a child’s request (or demand) for our attention, assistance or cooperation we demonstrate a weak form of child behavior management that actually trains the child to be overly demanding.

 

We also needlessly exhaust ourselves through the form of excessive parent involvement that we can describe as being overly responsive.

 

Help for parents who over-stress themselves through excessive responsiveness arrives as they apply the self-help wisdom of being more conscious in parenting.

 

Sometimes it is better to not respond as a means of teaching the child that the behavior she is using to get our response is unacceptable.

 

One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough.

 

Be aware during your parent-child interactions to avoid automatically reacting to your child without first pausing to determine if reacting in the way that you are about to react is really wise right now.

 

If you HABITUALLY respond when your child demands your attention, you produce your own frustration and lead your child toward the relationship problems that stem from being overly demanding.

 

Don’t blame your child for this.  Realize that your reactions of stress and strain are NOT your child’s responsibility.  How you react is YOUR responsibility.

 

Practice the parenting wisdom of more CONSCIOUS parenting to more alertly recognize when you need to respond, and when you need to deliberately NOT respond to your child, for the best parenting results and experiences.

 

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Good Parenting – Teaching The Simple Values

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, June 1st, 2012
Inspiring Children
Appreciation can make a day – even change a life. ~ Margaret Cousins
Parenting Help

Nobody gets tired of hearing the words "I love you". Tell your loved ones how much they mean to you at every opportunity.

Parenting Tips

When you arise in the morning, give thanks for the morning light, for your life and strength. Give thanks for your food, and the joy of living. ~ Tecumseh

 

Some Of The Most Powerful Parenting Advice

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, May 31st, 2012

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Child Parent Relationships

Close observation of the child is among the most essential parenting skills for improving child behavior

Children are their parents!

 

More specifically, how a child behaves, the child’s mood patterns, attitudes, ways of communicating and emotionally reacting – even thought patterns -  all reflect their parents to a significant extent.

 

In a sense, raising children means raising ourselves.

 

In my parenting classes, parents quickly realize how their children’s behavior problems demonstrate behaviors those parents themselves have modeled.

 

Some of the most powerful parenting advice that can be delivered is to observe your child closely to recognize the ways that his or her behavior reveals how YOU need to change.

 

Close observation of the child is among the most essential parenting skills for improving child behavior.

 

When you really see how a problem behavior displayed by your child replicates a pattern of your own, you hold the key to leading the child into improved behavior.

 

For instance, one parent observed that her child loses her emotional balance too easily and frequently, leading the child into wild, destructive, rebellious behavior.

 

This parent recognized the same tendency (or weakness) of emotional imbalance in herself, and then set to work on getting a better handle on it.

 

As this mother progressed in her self-work, she found her daughter’s self-control improving.

 

This mother realized that she didn’t really need parents tips for controlling her child – she needed self-work for improving her own self-control.

 

The fact that children become like their parents does not have to cause parents to blame and feel badly about themselves when their children misbehave.  All that would accomplish is de-motivate them to even try to do better.  And that, by extension, would do the opposite of motivating their children to do better.

 

Apply some of the most powerful parenting advice by observing your child with the aim of recognizing ways that you can raise yourself… for your child.

 

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Apply The Parenting Wisdom of Silence

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, May 31st, 2012

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Parenting Tips

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

When it comes to parenting wisdom, no principle may be more important than how we speak to our children.

 

What we say to our children impacts them deeply.

 

When we feel frustrated with our kids, it’s best to practice the parent wisdom of silence.

 

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

 

What we say to our children forms their mental programming.

 

Telling a child that he never listens, calling a child a slob, labeling your kid selfish or stubborn proves to be a form of self-defeating parenting.

 

Skills in the area of verbal communication help you empower your child.

 

When we feel frustrated our parent-child communication skills are compromised.

 

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

Take a moment to calm down and think about the messages do you WANT your child to remember and live up to?

 

This morning, my 9 year old was making noise while his baby brother slept.

 

I felt like saying, “Why won’t you stop and think about how you are impacting your brother? He needs his sleep and I don’t want to have to deal with a cranky baby right now! Don’t you care about anyone but yourself?!”

 

But instead of blurting out harsh words, I paused, recognizing I was feeling too upset to speak constructively with my child.

 

So I remained silent.

 

Immediately I realized that all I needed to do was to place my hands on his shoulders and lovingly lead him to a place where his volume would not disturb his brother’s sleep.

 

I’m glad I applied the parenting wisdom of silence to protect his sacred heart.

 

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Inspiring Children To Learn Life Wisdom

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Saturday, May 12th, 2012

Wisdom For Kids

“Treat others as you would like to be treated.” ~ The Golden Rule

 

 

Wisdom For Kids

“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” – Pericles

 

The Happiness of Giving - Wisdom For Children

“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” ~ John Wooden

 

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Motivate Your Child – Mother Quotes Of Wisdom

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, May 10th, 2012

 

Wisdom For Children

“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice”

 

Wisdom For Children

One good mother is worth a hundred schoolmasters. ~ George Herbert

 

Parenting Skills

"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary." ~ Dorothy Canfield Fisher

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A Mother’s Love

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, May 10th, 2012
Loving Mother Quotes

No influence is so powerful as that of the mother. ~ Sarah Josepha Hale

 

 

Mother Quotes With Love

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~ Sophia Loren

 

Mother Quotes On Parenting Kids

The formative period for building character for eternity is in the nursery. The mother is queen of that realm and sways a scepter more potent than that of kings or priests. ~ Author Unknown

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Inspiring Mother Quotes

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012
Mother Quotes

God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers

 

 

 

Positive Parenting Mother Quotes

A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.

 

 

 

Mother Quotes for Parenting Kids With Wisdom

"She’s my teacher, my adviser, my greatest inspiration." ~ Whitney Houston

Inspiring Children

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012

 

Child Development With Confidence

“All that we are is a result of what we have thought” ~ Buddha

 

Motivation Children

“Play the picture in your mind – focus on the end result VISUALIZE!!! Rehearse your future VISUALIZE!!! See it, feel it! This is where action begins” ~ The Secret

 

Parenting Tips

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. ~ Albert Einstein

Apply The Parenting Wisdom of Silence

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012

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When it comes to parenting wisdom, no principle may be more important than how we speak to our children.

 

Child Behavior Challenge

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

What we say to our children impacts them deeply.

 

When we feel frustrated with our kids, it’s best to practice the parent wisdom of silence.

 

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

 

What we say to our children forms their mental programming.

 

Telling a child that he never listens, calling a child a slob, labeling your kid selfish or stubborn proves to be a form of self-defeating parenting.

 

Skills in the area of verbal communication help you empower your child.

 

When we feel frustrated our parent-child communication skills are compromised.

 

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

Parenting Wisdom And The Child Behavior Challenge

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say

Take a moment to calm down and think about the messages do you WANT your child to remember and live up to?

 

This morning, my 9 year old was making noise while his baby brother slept.

 

I felt like saying, “Why won’t you stop and think about how you are impacting your brother?  He needs his sleep and I don’t want to have to deal with a cranky baby right now! Don’t you care about anyone but yourself?!”

 

But instead of blurting out harsh words, I paused, recognizing I was feeling too upset to speak constructively with my child.

 

So I remained silent.

 

Immediately I realized that all I needed to do was to place my hands on his shoulders and lovingly lead him to a place where his volume would not disturb his brother’s sleep.

 

I’m glad I applied the parenting wisdom of silence to protect his sacred heart.

 

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How To Raise A Wise Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

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Follow Parenting Wisdom With Your Child

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

To follow parenting wisdom with your child means that you are connecting with your own positive, loving and intelligent intuitive inner guidance.

 

You need to be calm, emotionally balanced, and aware in the now for this to happen.

 

When parents begin feeling frustrated in their efforts to control their child, they break their internal connection with the inner wisdom that can guide them toward healthier, happier parenting success.

 

For instance, if you begin feeling annoyed when your child interrupts your work or demands your attention while you are on the phone, your stressful reaction prevents you from handling the situation as well as you can, from producing the results that you really want.

 

Every parent needs to MASTER the experience of being distracted, to stay sane, content, and constructive.

 

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

 

Wisdom is an inspired state of consciousness that nurtures the soul.

 

When you demonstrate parenting wisdom in your relationship with your child, your inner, harmonious, enlightened state radiates, reaching and nurturing your child’s inner life with those same qualities, producing a happier, more loving and wise child.

 

Parents who complain that their children are too wild would do well to consider this way of helping their children to be more wise.

 

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Parenting Kids Under Media Glare – A Challenge For Celebrity Parents

By Antara   |  Monday, April 2nd, 2012
Effective Parenting

All parents need to put in extra efforts to build a loving, trusting, friendly and supportive parent child relationship.

The speculations and media glare about Whitney Houston’s daughter Bobbi Kristina’s activities following her mother’s death is making headlines and setting the social media abuzz.

 

The sudden passing away of Houston, an iconic figure for hundreds of thousands music lovers across the globe, has pitch forked her daughter into the spotlight with newspersons and paparazzi tracking her every move. From Oprah Winfrey to leading lifestyle magazines and TV channels, Bobbi Kristina is the talk of the town.

 

Nothing surprising here. Being a celebrity kid isn’t easy and almost all star kids face incessant media attention. For celebrity parents, it becomes a big challenge to ensure that their kids develop healthy child behavior and the wisdom to handle the trappings of fame successfully.

 

There are two sides to the coin of having parents who are super busy celebrities. On the one side, you have a life of luxury, opulence and fame from the time you open your eyes.

 

On the other side, your parents are often away for long periods for work and the media is always at your feet, trailing you, clicking your pictures, selling them for thousands of dollars, speculating on everything you do…it’s a hard life too.

 

Besides, we hear often about celebrity kids trying hard to come to terms with the failed relationships of their parents, peer pressure,  resorting to drug abuse, getting mired in controversies and struggling to match up to public expectations. Behavior problems of kids of star parents get flashed in the media in no time, doubling the pressure on the children and their parents too.

 

Julia Roberts, in a recent interview, lucidly explained her worries about raising her children – seven-year-old twins Hazel and Finn and four-year-old Henry in the spotlight, saying that after she met Meryl Streep’s daughter Grace Gummer, she felt reassured that children do turn out fine.

 

ANI reported that the Daily Telegraph quoted Roberts as telling Vanity Fair magazine, “Grace comes up and goes, ‘Gosh, it’s so sweet seeing all your kids on the set. It reminds me of when I was little, and I would go see my mom at work.”

 

“I said, ‘How old were you when you realized your mom was Meryl Streep?’ She said, ‘I think I was probably nine when I put that all together’.

 

“I said, ‘Were you cool with it?’ She said, ‘Yeah, it was fine. There was no trauma.’ So that was hopeful,” Roberts added, the report said.

Wisdom For Parenting Kids

Positive parenting is to be with your children in their most impressionable formative years.

All parents need to put in extra efforts to build a loving, trusting, friendly and supportive parent child relationship. That is part of positive parenting.

 

For people who are in the limelight, parenting children in a healthy parent child relationship is all the more essential as even their personal and private lives make news – some factual, some speculative and some pure rumors. You cannot always hide your child away from the cameras.

 

But if you instill the wisdom in your kids to understand the life issues that are real and permanent and the trappings that are illusory and temporary and develop in your child the ability to differentiate between the two, the kids grow up to take all this attention, pressures and opulence in their stride.

 

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Solve Child Behavior Problems With Your Inner Parenting Expert

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, March 12th, 2012

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Raising Successful Kids

To raise successful kids, don’t worry about them… BELIEVE in them.

In your quest for great parenting resources, you need look no further than at your own mind.

 

Your own subconscious contains profound answers to your parenting questions.

 

You have a great parenting expert inside of you!

 

To access your own expert parenting advice remember this:

What you envision comes to pass.  This proves true in every area of life, including raising kids.

 

To raise successful kids, don’t worry about them… BELIEVE in them.

 

You will enjoy the results of better parenting by envisioning your child behaving beautifully rather than behaving terribly.

 

When you envision your child as calm, confident, caring and capable, your subconscious responds by guiding you from within, showing you what to do to help your child in line with bringing that wonderful child development outcome about.

 

When we worry about our child’s behavior or character, we mentally picture our child demonstrating behavior problems and character weaknesses in the future.

 

This negative mental vision of the child blocks our subconscious capacity to provide us with wise parenting help for positive child development.  As a consequence of this blockage, we feel powerless, anxious, and out of control in the parent-child relationship.

 

Child Development

You will enjoy the results of better parenting by envisioning your child behaving beautifully rather than behaving terribly.

To employ the power of positive vision for raising children to fulfill their great potential, apply the following positive parenting tip: mentally reverse your child’s behavior problem.

 

For instance, if your child displays too much physical aggression, envision your child calmly behaving in a caring, self-contained manner.

 

If your child displays severe emotional breakdowns on a routine basis, provide your child with behavior help by mentally picturing your child demonstrating terrific emotional balance and healthy self-control.

 

When we worry about our child’s behavior, we envision behavior problems and thus make it harder to raise responsible kids.

 

But to solve or avoid child behavior problems, envision the way you would expect your child to behave if you solved those problems.This is how to access the parenting wisdom of your inner parenting expert.

 

Please feel welcome to share your comments in this blog about this parenting advice, and any questions you have about using the power of mental vision to help your kids display beautiful behavior.

 

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Parenting Advice For How To Be A “Lucky Parent”

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

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child behavior and child development

The fact is that parent-success is not a matter of luck. Parenting well produces well-behaved children.

The other day someone said to me, “You are really lucky with your 9 year old son. He behaves wonderfully because he came out as a very special child.”

 

My response was, “In my 25 years of teaching parenting skills, I’ve never seen a child who did NOT express the same beautiful spirit you are referring to in my child. But as the parent influences the child development process through the quality of the parent-child relationship, a very ‘difficult child’ may be the result.”

 

Largely because of my deep studies of and our shared interest in child behavior and child development my wife and I have practiced very conscious parenting.

 

The core of our “parenting style” has been to honor our children’s sacred heart, to relate compassionately with their feelings, even when we need to firmly establish a boundary.

 

In the course of my professional parenting education practice I have seen countless moms and dads making serious and all too common parenting mistakes that engendered destructive behavior and emotional problems in their child’s development process.”

 

One core purpose behind my positive parenting classes and the conscious approach to child discipline that I teach is to help parents understand how to AVOID raising kids in ways that produce emotional difficulties and behavior problems.

 

The fact is that parent-success is not a matter of luck.   Parenting well produces well-behaved children.  You can always find problematic parenting practices occurring in the history of children who demonstrate seriously problematic behavior.

 

But there are those prefer to believe that how a kid behaves is a matter of pure luck.  They adhere to this view, perhaps, because it absolves them from a painful sense of responsibility for their children’s problems.

 

Anyone who counts on luck to succeed usually ends up unsuccessful.  This applies to parenting success as well to every other area of life.

 

Better Parenting For Healthy Child Behavior

Be the ray of light as parents to help your kids sparkle and shine

To be among the “lucky parents” you might begin by paying closer attention to your child’s feelings during your parent-child interactions.

 

Keep your heart open and sensitive to your child’s deepest feelings, instead of reacting to child discipline problems with anger and stress.

 

As you begin nurturing your child’s tender heart through more conscious, compassionate parenting you will raise a happier child who displays more beautiful behavior.

 

Do YOU believe that parenting success is really just a matter of luck?

Help struggling parents, and those who believe that better parenting skills produce better-behaved children, by sharing in this blog some of the parenting mistakes you feel that you have made, and what you wish you had done instead.


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Create Life-Balance To Raise Happy Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, March 1st, 2012

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Parenting Classes For Raising Happy Children

Create happier times with your kids to deepen and strengthen family bonding.

 

At one of my recent parenting classes, I discussed the need for a deep heart-connection in the parent-child relationship.

 

“As we nurture children emotionally,” I explained,“their behavior expresses more loving kindness and healthy self-esteem than when kids feel emotionally deprived.”

 

A parent in the class raised her hand and posed this common parenting problem:  “In today’s world, when both parents need to work full time, and jobs often demand more than the old, standard 40 hours a week, we’re not able to give our kids the quality time they need.”

 

My response to that addressed the creative power and responsibility of every one of us:

 

“Your circumstances are a product of your own creation.  You have the power to create the life-balance to support the emotional development of your child.

 

“I know parents who have made huge financial sacrifices to be able to provide their children with all the quality time their kids need.

 

Raising Happy Children

“You empower yourself to succeed relative any goal by seeing yourself as the creator of your circumstances, not as a victim of your circumstances.

“Others found creative ways to maintain a high income while meeting the emotional needs of their children.

 

“You empower yourself to succeed relative any goal by seeing yourself as the creator of your circumstances, not as a victim of your circumstances.

 

“Though you may not know what you can do right now to improve the balance of your life, begin by clearly defining life-balance as your goal and commit to making it happen.

 

“In the meantime, if you cannot increase the quantity of time you spend with your kids, improve the quality of the precious time that you do have with them.

 

“Practice connecting with your children in a more conscious and loving way when you are together. Create happier times with your kids to deepen and strengthen family bonding.”

 

“Turn every moment you spend with your daughter into a kind of parenting class by closely observing her, in order to improve your understanding of your child. This is how to better meet your child’s need for a deep heart-connection in the parent-child relationship

 

Please feel welcome to share your comments in this blog about this parenting advice, and any questions you have about overcoming the challenge to providing children with all the quality time they need from us to feel great and to display beautiful behavior.


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