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How To Raise A Wise Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

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Follow Parenting Wisdom With Your Child

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

To follow parenting wisdom with your child means that you are connecting with your own positive, loving and intelligent intuitive inner guidance.

 

You need to be calm, emotionally balanced, and aware in the now for this to happen.

 

When parents begin feeling frustrated in their efforts to control their child, they break their internal connection with the inner wisdom that can guide them toward healthier, happier parenting success.

 

For instance, if you begin feeling annoyed when your child interrupts your work or demands your attention while you are on the phone, your stressful reaction prevents you from handling the situation as well as you can, from producing the results that you really want.

 

Every parent needs to MASTER the experience of being distracted, to stay sane, content, and constructive.

 

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

 

Wisdom is an inspired state of consciousness that nurtures the soul.

 

When you demonstrate parenting wisdom in your relationship with your child, your inner, harmonious, enlightened state radiates, reaching and nurturing your child’s inner life with those same qualities, producing a happier, more loving and wise child.

 

Parents who complain that their children are too wild would do well to consider this way of helping their children to be more wise.

 

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Understand The Cause Of Child Behavior Problems

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, February 17th, 2012

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Any number of factors can be contributing to a child behavior problem, and unless those are addressed, giving the child a “time out” or trying any other way that you might punish a child will prove fruitless.

Automatically emotionally reacting to child behavior can be described as the OPPOSITE of parenting wisdom.

 

Mechanically dishing out punishment for children when they display inappropriate behavior is like trying to fix your car’s behavior problem without first understanding the cause – while it may just be out of gas, you might be working on the breaks!

 

Disciplining children whose appropriate behavior stems from the fact that they are not feeling well physically is not all that different of a strategy.

 

When your child’s behavior regresses, before reacting, consider the possibility that he may be “coming down with something.”

 

When it comes to advice for parents, there is really no such thing as  “one size fits all”.

 

Any number of factors can be contributing to a child behavior problem, and unless those are addressed, giving the child a “time out” or trying any other way that you might punish a child will prove fruitless, and may even work against your parenting objectives.

 

If you know that your child is not feeling well physically, realize that it is more difficult, and it may even be impossible, for her to restrain herself from displaying inappropriate behavior – even malicious behavior.

 

And please realize also that you are no different.  When YOU are not feeling well you become more cranky, irritable, and difficult to please.  You don’t treat people as well as you know you should, including – maybe even especially – those you care the most about.

 

Instead of reflexively reacting in a harsh way to behaviors like whining, defiance, vicious sibling rivalry, destructiveness, or emotional fits, consider the cause.

 

It is possible that some influence is actually sapping your child of the power to live up to your expectations.

 

In those instances, being a stern disciplinarian may trigger even more serious behavior problems, because it will add pressure to your child’s already over-taxing condition.

 

The reason why the child who feels unwell physically behaves poorly is because of the influence of his physical condition upon his emotional condition.

 

The more emotional a child feels the more difficult it is to get a child to listen, follow directions and rules, and behave in a considerate fashion.

 

In this situation it is usually best to respond with love, patience and understanding, not fierce discipline, because as you help the child feel better she will be able to do better.

 

When your child is emotional, due to a physical problem or any other provocation, to improve her behavior demonstrate the parenting wisdom of first considering the underlying cause.

 

In this blog, please provide examples of when your child’s physical or emotional condition contributed to a behavior problem, and how you handled it.


And share any questions you have about the cause of any behavior problems you are facing, for parenting advice regarding what to do about them.

 

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Create Great Times With Your Kids

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, February 9th, 2012

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Children and parents thrive on a positive, creative relationship with one another.

 

Child Behavior Improvement Tip

Child behavior improves when parents engage with their children in loving, creative ways

Child behavior improves when parents engage with their children in loving, creative ways.

 

Parents feel energized, rather than drained, by their time with their kids when they focus on creating great times with them.

 

Raising children becomes easier, more fun and produces better behaved children when parents work on making their time with their kids interesting, exciting and pleasant.

 

When parents see children as wild creatures they need to control, instead of as wonderful partners in creating joyful times together, parenting feels more like a burden than a blessing.

 

Raising kids well takes work, but remember to work at making every moment with your child a positively engaging experience for you both.

 

Parenting skills should not just be about disciplining children.  They need to be about coming up with clever ways of being with the child and leading the child through joyful acts of bonding.

 

Parenting Tips:

1. Don’t just tell your child what to do.  Think up a playful way to lead.  For instance, if you need to turn off the TV because your child has been watching long enough, dance and sing as you do it, to see if you can get a smile instead of a frown.

 

2. Does your child resist bedtime?  Make it part of your PARENT discipline to remain loving, and to find new and creative ways to start bedtime each evening.  For instance, you might bend over and speak to your child with your head upside down.  You might race your child to his bed.

 

3. Brainstorm with your spouse, or even with your child, to come up with fun, creative ways to lead your child into responsible behavior.

 

Passive parenting is so much more fun than stern, serious parenting.

Would you like to receive some creative, fun ideas for handling a child behavior problem?

Share them in this blog to receive some creative, fun AND PRACTICAL parenting tips.

 

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The Wisdom Of Doing Nothing

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

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Parenting Strategies For Child Discipline

It is as if we presume that we are always supposed to have perfect parenting strategies, that we must always do something to fix a child discipline problem.

 

Here is some parenting advice for child discipline that may surprise you:

  1. It’s okay to not know what to do about a child behavior problem.
  2. When you don’t know what to do, it’s often wise to do NOTHING.

 

When your child behaves in a disturbing way, as parents we feel compelled to do something about it.

 

It is as if we presume that we are always supposed to have perfect parenting strategies, that we must always do something to fix a child discipline problem.

 

When your infant cries on and on, when your toddler throws something in a rage, when your older child tells you something that you know is untrue, if you feel clueless, remember this important piece of responsible parenting wisdom:  Sometimes doing nothing is better than doing something.

 

When you presume that you must do SOMETHING, instead of effectively teaching your child, you probably end up complaining, criticizing, nagging, yelling, arguing or endlessly negotiating, which does nothing but wear you down and promote more behavior problems.

 

We need to practice the effective parenting wisdom of being non-reactive when we don’t know what to do for improved child discipline.

 

The time to apply this parenting advice is when you realize that you really don’t know what to do.

Raising Children with Child Discipline

We need to practice the effective parenting wisdom of being non-reactive when we don’t know what to do for improved child discipline.

Here is a parenting exercise:

 

 

  1. 1. The next time your child behaves in a way that you are uncertain about how to handle, remain calm and don’t say or do anything to your child.  Discipline yourself to remain non-reactive.

 

  1. 2. Be sure to apply this to the EMOTIONAL level as well.  By that I mean remain EMOTIONALLY non-reactive by staying calm instead of slipping into anger, frustration, or any form of emotional overwhelm.

 

  1. 3. EXAMPLE: if your child left a mess and refused to clean it up when you asked him to do so, and you know that pushing the child further will only lead to increasing chaos relax.  If you want the mess cleaned up right now, clean it yourself, calmly, without resentment, and without worrying that your child is learning to take advantage of you, to disrespect you, to be messy.

 

 

 

 

 

I’m not suggesting that you apply the parenting advice of doing nothing ALL the time – only when you don’t know what to do to improve child discipline.

 

 

Of course, the more you learn from study and parenting experience, the more you will know just what to do for positive child discipline results. But there are still bound to be instances when you feel clueless.

 

That doesn’t make you a bad parent. Doing nothing, when you don’t know what to do, makes you a wiser parent than one who simply reacts blindly.

 

Please feel welcome to share instances when you don’t know what to do for better child discipline.  Perhaps I, or your fellow bloggers, will have some parenting advice that you can try.

 

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The Wisdom of Positive Motivation

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, December 5th, 2011

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Positive Motivation For Children

It really IS possible to lead a child, and to teach a child, in a loving, mutually pleasing manner

Using positive motivation with children often works best.

When a child does not behave as you expect, a disciplinary response is not always the answer.

Often, all the child needs is to feel a loving connection with you.

That loving connection makes the child feel happy and INSPIRES the child to cooperate with you.

When the child feels deeply pleased, the child feels inspired to please.

Using positive motivation with children maintains a loving, happy parent-child bond, and that represents the most fundamental demonstration of parental wisdom with kids.

It not only leads the child into higher performance, it also permits BOTH parent and child to more deeply enjoy the parent-child relationship.

It really IS possible to lead a child, and to teach a child, in a loving, mutually pleasing manner.

When we lose our patience, yell, nag, plead, argue or punish, we may be making parenting harder than it needs to be on ourselves and on our children.

Try this exercise.

Commit yourself to remaining calm, relaxed, pleasant and loving for an entire day, NO MATTER HOW YOUR CHILD BEHAVES.

In what instances do you use strictness or even anger to direct your child?  Try to think up more pleasant, loving, even happy ways that you can successfully function in those instances.

Contribute to other parents’ Wisdom with Kids by sharing the results of these two exercises in this blog.

Connecting in relaxed, loving, even fun ways with children inspires them to connect with US in pleasing ways.Using positive motivation with children does not mean bribing them with special rewards.

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Kindness Inspires Hearts of Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, November 17th, 2011

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Our kids need to regard their own feelings as important if they are to relate with other children, and even pets, with sensitivity

In the Wisie Inspiration for Kids video, “Choose Kindness”, the child is reminded: “Kindness makes hearts happy.”

We parents need to remember that kindness also makes our children feel INSPIRED.

Just like adults, children need to feel inspired to deal with the challenges THEY must face.

To do their best, children, like adults, need motivation.

Children lose motivation when the feel heavy-hearted.

We adults often seem to think that kids have no real challenges, compared to those that we must face, like making a living, keeping the home in order, and dealing with the children.

But children don’t really have it that easy:

  • They feel frustrated by all they are unable to do
  • They are sensitive to all the pain felt by those around them (even when they do not show it in obvious ways)
  • Being teased, left out of a game, feeling overlooked in class, messing up in sports, coming in second or even last place in ANYTHING, can drain inspiration from kids.

It’s important that we do NOT minimize our children’s emotional suffering while making our own emotional needs seem all-important.

In what instances do you find it most challenging to
relate kindly with your children?

In what ways do YOU support positive motivation in your children?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about the wisdom of
providing children with a sufficient amount of inspiration.

Our kids need to regard their own feelings as important if they are to relate with other children, and even pets, with sensitivity.

When we treat children unkindly we risk teaching them to believe that they are unworthy of kind treatment.  This sets them up to gravitate toward other children who do not treat them very well.

As it says in the “Choose Kindness” Wisie for Kids video, “…you deserve to be treated well, just because you are you…”

As we inspire our children with an abundance of OUR kindness, we teach them to actually LIVE as if they really deserve to be treated well.
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Life-Wisdom for Child Development

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, November 3rd, 2011

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Wisdom for Raising Children

Wisies help parents by providing their children with 90-second delightful, engaging videos that pass on profound wisdom for successful living.

Wisies for Kids are positive videos offering invaluable help for parents.

These inspiring, 90-second videos nurture children’s character development for life-long success.

When I was a schoolteacher I used to feel frustrated by the lack of life-wisdom presented to kids in schools.

Of course it’s essential to learn reading, writing and arithmetic, but kids also need life-education to live happy, successful lives of contribution.

Wisies help parents by providing their children with 90-second delightful, engaging videos that pass on profound wisdom for successful living.

Exposing your child, ages 4 – 10, to a Wisie a day will instil in your child life-wisdom messages for character building for your child’s happy and successful SELF-direction.

They prepare your child to make good decisions on his or her own, without you having to tell your child what to do!

Though your child may not understand every word, the basic message of wisdom will come across with the aid of the charming musical and imagery accompaniment.

Every wisdom video is like a seed planted in your child’s heart and mind that will eventually bear the fruit of greater life-wisdom, self-understanding, and happy success.

Parents can always use tips that can help them to help their children master the challenges of life, both now and in the future.

Make it a daily RULE that your child views
one 90-second Wisie a day with you.

Your child will love following this rule because once the video begins he or she will enter delight.

Parents, here are some tips for engaging in Wisie for Kids videos:

View one of the sample Wisies for Kids right now.
Then answer the following questions:

What is the basic message of the video?

Do you agree that this message is good for your child to receive?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about how to
make the most of the Wisie Wisdom Videos for Kids.

Wisie for Kids videos offer a unique form of help for parents: EFFECTIVELY passing on invaluable life-wisdom for developing children.

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Excellence

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011

“We are what we repeatedly do;

excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”


 

~ Aristotle


Do everything you do with all your efforts and sincerity.

Get into the habit of excelling yourself.

You will love the experience.

Wisdom for Children

Do everything you do with all your efforts and sincerity.

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