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Motivated Kids Can Make A Big Difference

By Antara   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

6-Year-Old Raises $10K To Help Ailing Dad

 

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Six-year-old Drew Cox selling lemonade to help raise funds for his father's medical bills. Pic courtesy: kltv.com

A 6-year-old boy from Gladewater, Texas has done what most adults would not be able to do. Drew Cox, 6, raised $10,000 at a lemonade stand to help his father Randy Cox who had been diagnosed with Seminoma cancer three months ago.

 

Setting an inspiring example of what a caring child can do, Drew set up a lemonade stall on Walnut Street, Saturday, April 14, to help raise funds for his father’s medical bills. As the word spread about this little boy’s brave effort, cars and people queued up to support his cause by buying a cup of lemonade for 25 cents. By the end of the day, the earnings had reached a whopping $10,000.

 

The beautiful child-parent relationship between this ailing father and his doting son was evident in Drew’s words about his father. “He is so important to me. We like to play with each other. Lots of times we like to play games,” Drew said on KLTV.

 

Drew’s feat is reminiscent of the 4-year-old Alexandra “Alex” Scott, who, battling with a form of childhood cancer – neuroblastoma since before her first birthday, had decided to set up a lemonade stand to raise money for her doctors to help find a cure for all kids with cancer.

 

“Alex was just four-years-old when she asked my wife if she could hold a lemonade stand when she was released from the hospital. When asked what she wanted to do with the money, Alex said she wasn’t keeping it, but instead giving it to her doctors to help find a cure for all kids with cancer. And so, our lemonade crusade began,” writes Jay Scott, Alex’s father and Co-Executive Director, Alex’s Lemonade Stand Foundation, in Huffingtonpost.com.

 

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Parenting kids is also about inspiring children to do their bit to make the world a better place

Alex, with the help of volunteers across the country raised over $1 million in her lifetime (she passed away in 2004). But her legacy was carried on by parents who have raised over $50 million toward finding a cure for cancer.

 

Motivated kids set precedents which even adults may find hard to match. It is essential for parents to instill this wisdom in children that they too can make a difference.

 

When you help develop in your child the vision to see beyond his own self and the ability to think for others’ welfare, you motivate your child to grow as a caring, helpful, kind and compassionate human being.

 

Parenting kids is not only about making sure they have the good things of life. It’s about inspiring children to do their bit to make the world a better place.

 

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How To Raise A Wise Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

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Follow Parenting Wisdom With Your Child

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

To follow parenting wisdom with your child means that you are connecting with your own positive, loving and intelligent intuitive inner guidance.

 

You need to be calm, emotionally balanced, and aware in the now for this to happen.

 

When parents begin feeling frustrated in their efforts to control their child, they break their internal connection with the inner wisdom that can guide them toward healthier, happier parenting success.

 

For instance, if you begin feeling annoyed when your child interrupts your work or demands your attention while you are on the phone, your stressful reaction prevents you from handling the situation as well as you can, from producing the results that you really want.

 

Every parent needs to MASTER the experience of being distracted, to stay sane, content, and constructive.

 

Wisdom guides mastery in all fields of endeavor, including parenting.

 

Wisdom is an inspired state of consciousness that nurtures the soul.

 

When you demonstrate parenting wisdom in your relationship with your child, your inner, harmonious, enlightened state radiates, reaching and nurturing your child’s inner life with those same qualities, producing a happier, more loving and wise child.

 

Parents who complain that their children are too wild would do well to consider this way of helping their children to be more wise.

 

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Create Great Times With Your Kids

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, February 9th, 2012

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Children and parents thrive on a positive, creative relationship with one another.

 

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Child behavior improves when parents engage with their children in loving, creative ways

Child behavior improves when parents engage with their children in loving, creative ways.

 

Parents feel energized, rather than drained, by their time with their kids when they focus on creating great times with them.

 

Raising children becomes easier, more fun and produces better behaved children when parents work on making their time with their kids interesting, exciting and pleasant.

 

When parents see children as wild creatures they need to control, instead of as wonderful partners in creating joyful times together, parenting feels more like a burden than a blessing.

 

Raising kids well takes work, but remember to work at making every moment with your child a positively engaging experience for you both.

 

Parenting skills should not just be about disciplining children.  They need to be about coming up with clever ways of being with the child and leading the child through joyful acts of bonding.

 

Parenting Tips:

1. Don’t just tell your child what to do.  Think up a playful way to lead.  For instance, if you need to turn off the TV because your child has been watching long enough, dance and sing as you do it, to see if you can get a smile instead of a frown.

 

2. Does your child resist bedtime?  Make it part of your PARENT discipline to remain loving, and to find new and creative ways to start bedtime each evening.  For instance, you might bend over and speak to your child with your head upside down.  You might race your child to his bed.

 

3. Brainstorm with your spouse, or even with your child, to come up with fun, creative ways to lead your child into responsible behavior.

 

Passive parenting is so much more fun than stern, serious parenting.

Would you like to receive some creative, fun ideas for handling a child behavior problem?

Share them in this blog to receive some creative, fun AND PRACTICAL parenting tips.

 

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Being Patient With Inappropriate Child Behavior

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, February 1st, 2012

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This blog post is about the wisdom of patient parenting.

 

Wisdom Of Patient Parenting With Inappropriate Child Behavior

For parenting your child with wisdom, you sometimes have to be patient with NOT KNOWING what to do about a child discipline challenge

To follow the guidance of wisdom with our children often requires patience.

 

For instance, you may not know exactly what it will take from you to motivate your child to, say, eat with utensils instead of with his fingers, to seriously apply herself to homework, to stop screaming out in public.

 

Wisdom comes with a flash of inspiration, but kids often catch us off guard with a surprising behavior.

 

A problem, for instance a child telling lies, can come out of the blue.

 

You have a parenting expert within you, an inner parenting guide that can lead you.

 

But the parenting guidance you need may not always arrive as quickly as you want it to.

 

Wisdom follows a rhythmic, cyclic pattern like all organic processes.

 

It blooms at times, but at other times it seems to lie dormant.  At those times, we just don’t know what to do to be successful parents, to help our children fulfill their great potential.

 

You don’t have to know all the answers right away to be a good parent. If that was necessary, there would be no good parents!

 

For parenting your child with wisdom, you sometimes have to be patient with NOT KNOWING what to do about a child discipline challenge.

 

Remain calm, even while your child behaves inappropriately, with your mind open and alert to recognize the dawning of a positive parenting strategy.

 

Try not to worry about your child drawing the conclusion that you approve of his unacceptable behavior.  That will only stress you out, and when you feel stress you make child behavior problems more difficult, if not impossible, for you to solve.

 

Some child behavior solutions can take months to solve!  Some behaviors remain beyond our parental control, and we simply have to endure the problem, without making it worse, until the child outgrows it.

 

Patience means trusting the time it takes for wisdom’s inner guidance to lead you.

 

Passive parenting means you do less than you can to help your child develop responsible behavior.

Patient parenting means that you avoid reacting hastily, and await and follow wisdom’s guidance.

What challenging behaviors does your child demonstrate that you feel clueless about solving?

Share them in this blog to receive some practical suggestions.

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Help Your Child Outgrow Behavior Problems

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, January 5th, 2012

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Understanding Child Behavior

If you expect your child to behave so perfectly all the time that you never feel challenged, perplexed or overwhelmed, you expectation is overly optimistic

Child behavior problems or challenges are unavoidable.

If you expect your child to behave so perfectly all the time that you never feel challenged, perplexed or overwhelmed, you expectation is overly optimistic.

Children DO test us, and in surprising ways.

However wonderful your child may USUALLY behavior, whatever magnificent character she very often displays, her behavior will at times surprise you with a problem behavior you did not expect.

Two valuable tips for parents include:

  1. As part of your personal parenting strategy, be psychologically prepared to feel challenged by the way that your child behaves.
  1. Understand that child behavior is not permanent.  If we respond properly to a behavior problem, the child develops beyond it in a short time.

In my parenting classes, parents seek advice on how to handle everyday parenting challenges like sibling rivalry, bedtime issues, setting rules, establishing boundaries, child aggression, talking back disrespectfully, teaching politeness, encouraging honesty, etc.

But underneath their parenting questions I can see that at some level they often seem to feel that their child should NOT be presenting them with these problems; that children SHOULD behave well.

Adjusting expectations to be realistic is fundamental for any successful parent strategy.

When your child displays a problematic behavior, it does not mean that you are an inadequate parent and it does not mean that your child essentially wrong or bad for behaving in a disturbing way.

It means that you are encountering the reality of parenting.

Our parental responsibility, when it comes to child behavior management or child discipline, is to respond to the behavior in a way that supports the positive behavior changes that we want, and that avoids causing the child to become stuck in a problem behavior pattern.

Parenting Tips to help your child outgrow inappropriate self-conduct:
1. When you react to a behavior with much anger and stress you risk blocking the child from outgrowing that behavior.  This is because your emotional intensity indices child defensiveness.
2. Remaining calm, consider the sort of response your child needs from you to improve his or her behavior.
3. If you don’t know what to do, remain calm and patient. The child may most quickly outgrow the behavior without your intervention.

 

Share your experiences, thoughts and questions regarding this strategy for successfully dealing with child behavior in this blog.

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The Wisdom Of Doing Nothing

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, December 28th, 2011

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Parenting Strategies For Child Discipline

It is as if we presume that we are always supposed to have perfect parenting strategies, that we must always do something to fix a child discipline problem.

 

Here is some parenting advice for child discipline that may surprise you:

  1. It’s okay to not know what to do about a child behavior problem.
  2. When you don’t know what to do, it’s often wise to do NOTHING.

 

When your child behaves in a disturbing way, as parents we feel compelled to do something about it.

 

It is as if we presume that we are always supposed to have perfect parenting strategies, that we must always do something to fix a child discipline problem.

 

When your infant cries on and on, when your toddler throws something in a rage, when your older child tells you something that you know is untrue, if you feel clueless, remember this important piece of responsible parenting wisdom:  Sometimes doing nothing is better than doing something.

 

When you presume that you must do SOMETHING, instead of effectively teaching your child, you probably end up complaining, criticizing, nagging, yelling, arguing or endlessly negotiating, which does nothing but wear you down and promote more behavior problems.

 

We need to practice the effective parenting wisdom of being non-reactive when we don’t know what to do for improved child discipline.

 

The time to apply this parenting advice is when you realize that you really don’t know what to do.

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We need to practice the effective parenting wisdom of being non-reactive when we don’t know what to do for improved child discipline.

Here is a parenting exercise:

 

 

  1. 1. The next time your child behaves in a way that you are uncertain about how to handle, remain calm and don’t say or do anything to your child.  Discipline yourself to remain non-reactive.

 

  1. 2. Be sure to apply this to the EMOTIONAL level as well.  By that I mean remain EMOTIONALLY non-reactive by staying calm instead of slipping into anger, frustration, or any form of emotional overwhelm.

 

  1. 3. EXAMPLE: if your child left a mess and refused to clean it up when you asked him to do so, and you know that pushing the child further will only lead to increasing chaos relax.  If you want the mess cleaned up right now, clean it yourself, calmly, without resentment, and without worrying that your child is learning to take advantage of you, to disrespect you, to be messy.

 

 

 

 

 

I’m not suggesting that you apply the parenting advice of doing nothing ALL the time – only when you don’t know what to do to improve child discipline.

 

 

Of course, the more you learn from study and parenting experience, the more you will know just what to do for positive child discipline results. But there are still bound to be instances when you feel clueless.

 

That doesn’t make you a bad parent. Doing nothing, when you don’t know what to do, makes you a wiser parent than one who simply reacts blindly.

 

Please feel welcome to share instances when you don’t know what to do for better child discipline.  Perhaps I, or your fellow bloggers, will have some parenting advice that you can try.

 

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Positive Parenting Wisdom

By Bob Lancer   |  Sunday, December 18th, 2011

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new child behavior pattern

It is essential to eliminate the use of complaining as a means of solving behavior problems

One of the common parenting mistakes I have observed as a parent and as a parenting seminar leader and consultant who has worked directly with thousands of families, is confusing complaining with effectively improving child behavior.

 

When we complain to our kids about a behavior problem, like not putting their things away or eating like a barbarian at the dinner table, we really are NOT leading them to more responsible child behavior.

 

Raising kids to display a higher level of self-discipline is accomplished by patiently guiding the child, step-by-step, through the new child discipline pattern you want established.

 

And to SUCCESSFULLY establish a new child behavior pattern, you have to be willing to repeat this patient, step-by-step leadership over and over again, until it becomes the child’s new habit.

Try this exercise:

  1. Make a list of the child behavior problems that you face in raising your kids. want your child display.
  2. Envision the new child behavior you want in place of that problem.
  3. The next time that your child demonstrates the behavior problem, instead of complaining, calmly, patiently guide your child step-by-step through the new behavior that you want.

 

Contribute to the Parenting Wisdom of the planet by sharing the results of this exercise, and any questions you have about it, in this blog.


 

One additional point: It is essential to eliminate the use of complaining as a means of solving behavior problems.

 

When we complain to our kids, we incite their defensiveness, not their cooperation.

 

Complaining is a way of raising kids to complain!

 

To instill a new child behavior pattern, guide your child through the steps of that behavior calmly, patiently and repeatedly, until the child does it on his or her own.

 

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Happy Success Wisdom for Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, November 12th, 2011

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By calmly, patiently and perseveringly bringing your child back to the mess he left, and then guiding him to put his things where they belong, over and over and over again, WITHOUT fighting, your child gradually develops the habit of doing it on his own.

In the Wisie for Kids video, “Teach Your Children Patience”, the wisdom for children is really essential for the child’s learning, development and success.

The message is also great for adults to remember.

After all, isn’t patience a necessary part of all major accomplishments?

It’s even essential for remaining sane as we parents work on improving our child’s behavior.

For instance, to get your child to clean up after himself is usually NOT a quick process.

You need to remain patient, to “keep your cool” as you repeatedly guide your child to put her things away each time that she “forgets”.

If you lose your patience in the process, and react with annoyance and frustration, you actually motivate your child to be more resistant, and you make the process more of a strain than it needs to be.

By calmly, patiently and perseveringly bringing your child back to the mess he left, and then guiding him to put his things where they belong, over and over and over again, WITHOUT fighting, your child gradually develops the habit of doing it on his own.

At the same time, you model the wisdom for children of being patient with when you cannot instantly have your way.

What are some of the new or improved behaviors that you would like to motivate your child to do on his or her own?

While working with your child, when do you tend to lose your patience?

In this blog, share your thoughts and questions about how to
pass on the wisdom for children (and adults) that patience represents.

As this Wisie for Kids video reminds the child, “Don’t get angry, just keep working at it” – we parents need to remember this for happy success in improving child behavior.

As we model patience and perseverance in the way that we work with our children, we pass on that wisdom TO our children.

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Excellence

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Wednesday, November 2nd, 2011

“We are what we repeatedly do;

excellence, then, is not an act but a habit.”


 

~ Aristotle


Do everything you do with all your efforts and sincerity.

Get into the habit of excelling yourself.

You will love the experience.

Wisdom for Children

Do everything you do with all your efforts and sincerity.

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