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15-year-old Down Syndrome Boy Scales Mount Everest

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Tuesday, April 2nd, 2013

SUCCESS is SURE when one decides to DARE the DISABILITIES.

 

Gone are the days when disabilities only attracted sympathy and help. Eli Reimer – a 15-year-old Oregon boy and a victim of Down Syndrome – received a bow from the world when he dared his disability and conquered Mount Everest, the highest vertical limit on Earth.

 

Eli Reimer Conquers Mount Everest despite being suffering from Down Syndrome

Fifteen-year-old Eli Reimer, who suffers from Down syndrome, dared his disability and conquered Mount Everest.

 

It took him 10 days and almost 70 miles to reach 17,600 feet up Mount Everest in Nepal. What makes this feat extraordinary or rather unbelievable is the fact that the achiever is suffering from Down Syndrome. Down syndrome is a medical condition when a child is born with disabilities that get severe as the child grows.

 

In addition to hearing and vision impairment, a Down Syndrome patient faces decreased mental activity, poor IQ, and physical weakness. Triumphing Everest, which seems impossible for even a healthy person in the first place, was something unimaginable for a person who faces such challenges.

 

15-year-old Down Syndrome Boy Scales Mount Everest

Triumphant Eli with Justin Reimer, his proud and ecstatic father, guide, mentor and a co-climber

 

Justin Reimer, the proud and ecstatic father, guide, mentor and a co-climber, told HLN in an interview, reported the Daily News, “It was surreal. To be standing there at that place and see the smile on Eli’s face and the sense of accomplishment that he had, and the fact that his health was better than any of us at that point … it was humbling, it was inspiring, just an amazing moment.”

 

The unbelievable feat of Eli Reimer is inspiring not only for those suffering from Down syndrome (in the United States, 691 babies are born each year with this disability) and but also for children across the world. The news made headlines in the media all over the world.

 

The achievement of Eli Reimer highlights the power of parenting. Eli’s father Justin Reimer, who runs The Elisha Foundation to provide professional and educational support to families with special-needs children, is the source of invincible courage and indomitable strength of the Eli Reimer. He proved that proper love, care, and support can make a disabled or diseased child to achieve what may seem unthinkable even for a healthy person.

 

A child draws values from his home and parents. Being parents, you play a deciding role in the development of your child. The reason Eli Reimer could conquer the Mount Everest is the continuous company and support of his father during the endeavor.

 

Every parent can draw motivation and courage from Justin Reimer who transformed limitations into an achievement that created history and a feat that will continue to inspire children.

 

Inspiring Children

Proper love, care, and support from the parents can make a disabled or diseased child to achieve what may seem unthinkable even for a healthy person.

 

Raising Kids – A Child’s Innocence Is Magical

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Wednesday, March 13th, 2013

“A baby will make love stronger, days shorter, nights longer, bankroll
smaller, home happier, clothes shabbier, the past forgotten, and the
future worth living for.”
~ Anonymous

Raising Kids - A Child Innocence Is Magical

A child’s innocence brightens up a day!

 

Raising Kids - A Child Innocence Is Magical

A baby makes a house colorful and brighter with her innocence.

 

Raising Kids - A Child Innocence Is Magical

Children have that innocence about them that is so genuine and heart touching.

 

 

 

Raising Children During Divorce

By Noah Brown   |  Saturday, January 12th, 2013

Raising children is a tough job in and of itself, but when the parents are going through a divorce this important job seems to become even harder. The parents understand why they both need and want to live separate lives but it is very difficult for a child to understand.
 
Kids tend to blame themselves when their parents split up. They feel unstable and confused as well. Divorce is stressful for kids too. You can use this help for parents advice to ensure that you are being a parent who is truly caring for your child’s psyche throughout the divorce.
 
Honesty Is the Best Policy
 
To an extent, you should be very honest with your kids about the divorce. Of course, they do not need details ofa sordid affair or addiction problem. Honesty is important while inspiring children to learn positive values.

Raising Children During Divorce

Being a parent, you will need to make the changes as easy on your kids as possible


 
Being a parent, you will need to make the changes as easy on your kids as possible
 
The easiest way to explain the impending divorce is by telling the kids that you and your spouse simply cannot live together anymore. You always must make them understand that they had nothing to do with your marital problems. They need to know that you both love them now and will always love them.
 
Never tell them that you no longer love your spouse. This will make the children believe that you could stop loving them as well. This is never a good thing and could spoil child parent relationships.
 
Change Can Be Scary
 
Everyone who has been raising children understands that change can be quite difficult for some children. Many kids get stressed out moving to a new classroom for a higher grade level so the change resulting from a divorce can be overwhelming.
 
Being a parent, you will need to make the changes as easy on your kids as possible You should consult your pediatrician and inform him of the divorce and your concerns for its effect on your kids. He will be able to offer some great help for parents’ information that will make the divorce more understandable for your kids. It is possible that he recommends you to take your children to a parenting counselor.
 
Prevent Possible Problems
 
Kids who are dealing with divorce often begin to have problems in school. Quite a few articles offering help for parents going through a divorce advice believe that the child’s teacher should be informed of the family situation. This knowledge will allow the teacher to watch for and understand any abnormal behavior and avert problems.
 
Your child’s guidance counselor may also be able to offer some parenting help as he has certainly dealt with many kids who have gone through stressful divorces
 
No Badmouthing Allowed
 
Just because you are raising children during this trying time does not give you the right to talk badly about their other parent. This behavior simply adds more stress for the child and makes him feel like he is being pulled apart. Remember, he loves both of you and if you badmouth your former spouse, the child will always resent you.
 
Still Two Parents
 
Even during a divorce, both of you are obligated to fulfill your duties of being a parent. The task of raising children belongs to both mother and father. The custodial parent should never disallow the other parent opportunities to maintain a close relationship with each other.
 
Authorities on raising children during divorce state that parents who deny their children access to the other will eventually be alienated by the kids later in life. It is healthy for the kids to grow up with two parents, even if they live separate lives.

The Indomitable Human Spirit: Xander Vento, 4, Dies To Save 3-Year-Old Girl From Drowning

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Sunday, December 16th, 2012

 

Bravery knows no barrier – neither age nor physique.


Xander Vento – a 4-year-old boy from Texas – dared death and displayed a supreme act of humanity when he lost his life while saving a 3-year-old girl from drowning at a neighborhood pool in Fort Worth, Texas.

 

Parenting Advice: Instill Moral Values in Your Children

Xander Vento displayed indomitable act of humanity when he sacrificed his life to save a girl from drowning.

Xander Vento and the 3-year-old girl were in the pool when the girl started to drown. Vento held the struggling girl’s head above water until she was safe, but he became exhausted and slipped below the water’s surface, The Associated Press reported. The epitome of utmost bravery finally succumbed to a three-day long coma.

 

“We in some way hope our son’s life serves as an inspiration. He was the angel in the pool who sacrificed himself to save another. And now he continues to give as an organ donor. We were blessed to have such a kind and caring boy as Xander who set an example for all of us and even now he will be saving lives by giving of himself.”

—      Cris and Misty Vento, parents of Xander Vento

(Courtesy: NBCNEWS)

 

Xander led the way to prove that you need not to grow in age to perform extraordinary. He defies his age to do something that even an adult would hesitate to attempt. At an age when a child thinks about his wants and desires, such a feat can make even the most prolific psychologists to revisit their books on child behavior.

 

The example of this brave kid gives valuable parenting advice to parents who believe that books can teach everything to children. No book can be as effective as the surroundings in which the child dwells in helping a child learn the universal human values of love, sacrifice, humanity, compassion and courage, effectively. The learning induced through inspiration is more effective than imparting the same theoretically.

 

The role of good parenting is crucial in inspiring children. If you want to teach the lesson of respect and humanity to your kids, you need to practice these in your life. Seeing you helping a blind person in crossing the road or showing respect to elders will inspire him to do the same when he will get the opportunity.

 

Hats off to Xander Vento whose desire to help others live was stronger than the choice to save his own life first.

 

Parenting Help: Curbing The Habit of Lying in Children

By Pankaj Sharma   |  Saturday, December 1st, 2012

 

One of the common behavior problems in children is lying. Children lie or make false stories to get away with mistakes or simply for fun. While some stories are harmless, some lies demand both caution and concern of parents. Many parents who do not check this at the right time, later seek parenting help for curbing this habit in their kids

Improving Child Behavior

Always tell the truth – it’s the easiest thing to remember. ~ David Mamet

 

Just as story-telling is to be encouraged to boost creativity in child, the habit of lying needs to be corrected early.

 

As parents, you should watch your kid carefully to draw a line between harmless story-telling and growing dishonesty.

 

If you find your child telling tall tales or narrating outright lies, it is the time for you to take definite steps to correct such child behavior.

 

Why Children Lie?

 

There may be many different reasons that prompt kids for escaping the truth including:

 

To establish identity – A majority of children lie to establish an identity or reputation in his peer groups. He wants to gain respect and admiration of his friends.

 

For which, he even boasts of having or doing something he has not really done or acquired.

 

Once he starts enjoying the privilege of his lies, he gets into the habit of making false claims or telling lies.

 

To avoid trouble – Sometimes it is the desperation to come out of a troublesome situation that forces a child to tell a lie.

 

For example, he has committed some mistake and he is afraid of punishment or has done something he was not supposed to do.

 

In order to avoid punishment or repercussions the situation might bring, he simply tells a lie to escape the consequences.

 

Parents may be responsible – Sometimes, parents inadvertently end up teaching their children the initial lessons of lying. Asking your child to tell the person at the door that dad is not in, just because you don’t want to meet the person although you are home, is going to confuse your child on what is right and what is wrong.

 

“Tell Grandma you loved her present even if you didn’t because she will feel hurt otherwise” – you may be bill this as a “white lie” but it is a lie anyways.

 

Your kid is too small to understand the character of the lie and takes it as a strategy to avoid some trouble situation.

 

In some cases, over expectations of parents also tend to make their children liars. When your child feels that she has failed to please her parents, she simply tries to cover up the facts, which eventually becomes a habit.

 

Positive parenting can ensure improved child behavior

 

These are some of the major reasons responsible for developing the habit of telling lies in children. There are several more. The only way you can avoid such behavior is through positive parenting.

 

We will be discussing positive parenting techniques for improving the behavior of lying children in our next blog. Watch out this space!

Parenting Wisdom For Developing Your Child’s Leadership

By Bob Lancer   |  Wednesday, October 31st, 2012

 

Give your kids all the freedom to control themselves that you can, but not too much.  Giving them enough freedom to find their own way develops their sense of who they really are and what they really want to do.  This prepares them to be able to find their own authentic path to fulfillment and success in adulthood.

Parenting Help For Child Development

Do not ask that your kids live up to your expectations. Let your kids be who they are, and your expectations will be in breathless pursuit. ~ Robert Brault

 

It develops the child’s self-leadership power.

 

But of course, avoid giving kids too much responsibility for themselves.  You need to closely monitor your child to recognize when you need to intervene and establish boundaries.

 

If you give a child more freedom than he or she can responsibly handle, the child oversteps appropriate behavior boundaries and develops habitual behavior problems.

 

And when you do step in, avoid disciplining children using behaviors you don’t want them to copy, because nature programs children to imitate the behaviors that they witness and receive.

 

This means that yelling at children teaches them to yell.  Hitting children teaches them to hit.  Harshly criticizing and complaining to kids teaches them to display those negative speech patterns.

 

Remember this child behavior principle: How you react to not getting your way with your kids teaches your kids how to react when they don’t get their way.

 

Our responsibility as parents is to prepare our children to intelligently and constructively handle NOT getting their way.  This means responding to not getting their way in a way that really works for them, in a way that helps them to get your way in time.

 

This amounts to teaching kids the wise leadership skill of accountability.

 

Here is how that skill works:  Rather than blowing their top and blaming others when they do not like what happens, wise leaders accept responsibility for recognizing what they have done that led to what is happening, and how they can change to improve their results.

 

As you apply this parenting wisdom for developing leadership skill in your child, your child will demonstrate improved child behavior and you will not have to work as hard to keep your child’s conduct on a positive track.

 

Parenting Advice For Raising Successful Children

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, October 12th, 2012
Positive Inspiration For Raising Kids

In our hurry to be a perfect parent, we risk excessive discipline or over indulgence. Keep the balance. Be a parent, friend, guide and mentor to your child.

When we react to child behavior with anger, stress and strain, we may be trying too hard to help our children succeed in living up to our expectations.

 

We parents want our children to follow our rules, but the parenting strategy we employ to make that happen may undermine our objective, cause us pointless parent frustration and cause the child needless suffering.

 

Reacting with impatience and anger to motivate your child to do as you say makes parenting children a miserable strain and drain AND it doesn’t really work.

 

While routinely reacting to a child’s lapse in behavior with harsh, angry criticism, pitiful complaining and intimidating demands is a common parenting strategy, it can undermine the child’s ability to succeed in life.

 

You may get your child to comply with your demand by yelling, threatening or complaining in extreme frustration, but the intense dissatisfaction you express erodes the child’s self-confidence and self-esteem.

 

This emotional erosion not only causes the child needless suffering, it ends up lowering the child’s ability to perform and ends up worsening the child’s behavior problem in the long run.

 

Raising kids who are self-motivated to be successful requires that we honor their need to believe in themselves.

 

When children believe in themselves, they feel motivated to do their best to live up to their parent’s positive expectations, as well as the expectations of teachers. 

 

Build Self Confidence In Children

Love your children the way they are. Each child is unique, each child is special.

They see themselves capable of succeeding, and this can develop into a long term pattern of positive motivation.

 

When a child sees himself as capable of succeeding, the child has the motivation to do what it takes to succeed.

 

So the parent advice we need is how to constructively and compassionately lead children into higher performance.

 

The answer is for the parent to lose the habit of angry criticism and complaining.  Replace it with closer supervision and more constructive involvement in the parent child relationship.

 

Calmly guide your child to follow the rule that he breaks.  Each time that you help her to successfully follow the rule her self-discipline grows stronger.

 

Pro-actively engage the child in, say, flushing the toilet, turning off the light when he leaves the room, closing his drawers, cleaning up his mess before moving into another activity, instead of impatiently criticizing, complaining or blowing your top.

 

When you see her about to, say, use her fingers to eat her pasta, remind her to use her fork.  When she follows the rule, even with your help, she see’s herself succeeding.  You can nurture her self-esteem further by saying something like, “Good work.”

 

Each time you give your child the help he needs to succeed, your child receives a “training” that develops his drive and commitment to success.

 

Admittedly, following this parenting advice for raising successful children takes work, but it is proves less taxing and far more constructive, than relying on reactions of extreme harshness.

 

Parenting Tips: Awaken Parenting Intuition

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, September 10th, 2012

The child behavior that you encounter gives YOU an opportunity to grow.

 

At the heart of raising children is raising ourselves.

 

Raising kids is a learning experience for the parents who look for a way to do a better job.

 

Raising Children

Encourage and support your kids because children are apt to live up to what you believe of them.
~ Lady Bird Johnson ~

Ideally, parents and children grow TOGETHER.

 

Parenting help is always available to those parents who want to do better and to feel better in their relationship with their children.

 

You always have access to wise parenting advice WITHIN.

 

Calm down, observe your child, and open your heart and mind to understanding what is happening.  This awakens your PARENTING INTUITION.

 

Your child is really like an open book that you can read.  Just pay calm attention, with a tranquil, trusting heart and open to your inner source of wisdom.

 

You will see what you can do for your child’s good.  Parenting your child is a creative process, for your way of relating with your child influences the development of your child’s personality.

 

When you calmly observe your child with a heart and mind open to your own best inner judgment of what to do about it, you overcome your habitual reaction patterns and demonstrate new and improved parenting skills.  In other words, you raise yourself as you raise your child.

 

Parents want parenting tips from experts, while they have a parenting expert living within them that they overlook when they emotionally react to child behavior.

 

Help for parents who feel stressed out and are at their wits end becomes available when they return to calm confidence.

 

Your child is not responsible for how you react.  To know what to do about your child discipline challenges, practice non-reactivity.

 

Calm down, observe your child and confidently EXPECT that you will receive an idea, an insight, and inspiration that guides you from within.

 

Emotional reactions blind us to the truth.

 

In peace you can understand your child.

 

Raising kids is a learning experience for the parents who calmly pay attention to what is happening.

 

Our children’s challenging behavior calls upon us to grow.

 

Parenting Advice: Stay Connected With Your Children

By Noah Brown   |  Friday, September 7th, 2012

Does your child display anger and agitation at public places? Check out this useful advice on parenting!

 

(Editor’s Note: This is a guest blog by Noah Brown, a prolific freelance writer who writes extensively on advice for parents, child behavior and parent child relationship issues.)

 

Good Parenting

Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each. ~ Plato

Anyone who has ever witnessed poor child behavior in a public place automatically looks at the parents as if they simply allow the child to run amuck and do whatever he pleases. In many cases, parents find it difficult to correct a misbehaving child without yelling or hitting.

 

Most working parents leave raising their child up to a daycare, babysitters, and nannies or even to the teachers at school. The truth is that there is no person in the world who can raise your kid better than you.

 

If you have to go off to work to support your family, rules must be set for the kids as well as their caretakers. By following this parenting advice, you will not only see a great improvement in child behavior but also grow stronger and closer child parent relationships.

 

Those Terrible Tantrums

One of the most nerve wracking child behavior problems that a parent must endure is tantrums. A lot of people think that tantrums are a normal part of child development but they are wrong. Kids throw temper tantrums to get what they want and to control their parents.

 

It is essential that you find a solution and get expert parenting advice to improve this child behavior immediately. You should calmly and quietly inform the children that if they do not stop misbehaving, they will go into time out or lose other privileges such as their favorite TV show or a special toy.

 

If the child behavior does not improve, follow through with the time out or sanctions. It enables you to teach the child that you are the authority figure. He will learn to respect you and eventually the child parent relationships grow stronger.

 

Don’t Feed the Finicky

 

Children use to dominate the dinner menu by refusing to eat what is on the table. Many parents, especially working parents who lack good parenting skills simply give in and whip up chicken nuggets or macaroni and cheese rather than teaching the kids to eat the meal that has been prepared for the family. You must put your foot down and make them eat their meals.

 

Should they choose not to eat, send them to bed and wrap the meal for the following day. The child will learn to eat what is available. Knowing that you won’t back down will show the child that you mean business and he will learn to obey you.

 

Handling Homework Troubles

Nearly every grade school kid tries to avoid doing their homework. This is a common child behavior however; it must be corrected as your child’s education is of the utmost importance. It’s best to set aside a specific time for getting homework completed. Your child might tell you that he has no homework and expect to go out to play. This should never happen.

 

When a child tells their parents they don’t have homework, the parents need to realize that they may or may not be telling the truth. The scheduled time for homework should always be utilized for education. If there is no homework on a given day, the child should spend the time studying or preparing themselves for the next lesson.

 

Working parents should hold fast to this schedule as making time to meet with teachers can be difficult as well as problematic for your employer. Once the child understands that this time is always dedicated to his studies, their homework will never be undone, according to child behavior counselors.

 

Showing the child you are concerned about his education is a very important element of good parenting and an effective technique for inspiring children.

 

An Alternative To Saying “No” To Your Kids

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, June 29th, 2012

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Our parental “job” includes instilling wisdom in our children.

Disciplining Children

If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves. ~ C.G. Jung

 

There are good reasons why parents would like to find an alternative to using the word “No” with their children.

 

You don’t want to HAVE to motivate your child to “do the right thing.”

 

Wouldn’t you love sensible ideas to bring as much inspiration to your kids as, say, the idea of shooting off firecrackers?

 

Having to frequently say ‘No’ can make parenting exhausting, and it causes some parents to feel that they are being too negative in the parent-child relationship.

 

If YOU have an issue saying “No”, and you want to instill practical life-wisdom in your child, try instead to tell your child of the reason why and what to do instead.

 

For instance, if your child asks for a second scoop of ice cream, instead of telling him “No”, try saying something like this to lead him to impose positive child discipline upon himself: “That would mean too much sugar, which is not good for the brain. But if you stop requesting another scoop you can have one scoop.”

 

This way of responding resolves the parenting issues of having to say “No” and feeling that you always have to impose boundaries for your child.

 

It ends on a positive note by pointing out what the child CAN have or do. It also helps the child development of understanding that actions have consequences, and to consider the consequences before acting on a desire.

 

Disciplining children is never all that much fun. The sooner our kids can responsibly discipline themselves the better.

 

By providing your child is a simple, brief explanation of what is undesirable about what she wants you actually educate her about what is good for her.

 

At the same time, you motivate your child to cooperate with you by helping her to see the positive outcome of cooperating with you: specifically, not requesting another scoop results in getting one scoop now.

 

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Parenting Help: Improve Your Child’s Environment

By Bob Lancer   |  Monday, June 25th, 2012

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To improve child behavior, improve your child’s surroundings.

Good Parenting

Provide the child with influences that help the child display the positive child conduct you want

 

How a child behaves is a largely product of the child’s environment.

 

The child’s environment consists of the influences surrounding the child, including the influences emanating from people within that environment.

 

To help your child avoid or overcome behavior problems improve the emotional and behavior patterns impinging upon your child.

 

Parenting help for better child behavior generally involves working on the child’s environment in order to:

1… Avoid exposing the child to influences that contribute to behavior problems.

2… Provide the child with influences that help the child display the positive child conduct you want.

 

If all we focus on is getting the child to change WITHOUT changing the child’s environment, our efforts will be undermined by the disturbing environmental that led to the child’s behavior problem.

 

For instance, if your child withdraws from other kids, choosing to spend her time alone, that child may have received excessive criticism in her home environment, eroding her self-confidence.

 

Sometimes there is something happening at home that causes the child to feel ashamed.

 

There may be someone in the child’s home environment modeling a similar pattern of sensitivity that drives that person toward solitude and unsociability.

 

As long as the negative environmental factors remain unchanged, child discipline problems are likely to continue reflecting them.

 

In my own parent counseling practice I have often found that the parent help needed for improving how kids behave involves guiding parents in how to bring more order, calmness, attentiveness, positive modeling and love into the child’s environment.

 

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When It Is Wise To Ignore Your Child

By Bob Lancer   |  Saturday, June 23rd, 2012

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To skillfully support child development, remember that there is a time for responding to your child and a time for NOT responding.

support child development

One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough

If we are not responsive enough, we lose parental control as our child grows frustrated.

 

This is because and a frustrated child (like a frustrated adult) cannot help but slip into some form of behavior problem.

We teach our children, and the education may prove negative, through the way that we respond to our kids.

 

Being too non-responsive not only frustrates the child with the sense of denied parent access. It teaches the child, through our modeling, to BE non-responsive. This may manifest as the child not “listening” and being generally inattentive.

 

But, while a sufficient amount of parental involvement is crucial for positive child development and child behavior, it is also possible to be TOO responsive with a child.

 

If we respond automatically to a child’s request (or demand) for our attention, assistance or cooperation we demonstrate a weak form of child behavior management that actually trains the child to be overly demanding.

 

We also needlessly exhaust ourselves through the form of excessive parent involvement that we can describe as being overly responsive.

 

Help for parents who over-stress themselves through excessive responsiveness arrives as they apply the self-help wisdom of being more conscious in parenting.

 

Sometimes it is better to not respond as a means of teaching the child that the behavior she is using to get our response is unacceptable.

 

One key for raising children toward self-reliance is the parenting practice of being just responsive enough.

 

Be aware during your parent-child interactions to avoid automatically reacting to your child without first pausing to determine if reacting in the way that you are about to react is really wise right now.

 

If you HABITUALLY respond when your child demands your attention, you produce your own frustration and lead your child toward the relationship problems that stem from being overly demanding.

 

Don’t blame your child for this.  Realize that your reactions of stress and strain are NOT your child’s responsibility.  How you react is YOUR responsibility.

 

Practice the parenting wisdom of more CONSCIOUS parenting to more alertly recognize when you need to respond, and when you need to deliberately NOT respond to your child, for the best parenting results and experiences.

 

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Some Of The Most Powerful Parenting Advice

By Bob Lancer   |  Thursday, May 31st, 2012

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Child Parent Relationships

Close observation of the child is among the most essential parenting skills for improving child behavior

Children are their parents!

 

More specifically, how a child behaves, the child’s mood patterns, attitudes, ways of communicating and emotionally reacting – even thought patterns -  all reflect their parents to a significant extent.

 

In a sense, raising children means raising ourselves.

 

In my parenting classes, parents quickly realize how their children’s behavior problems demonstrate behaviors those parents themselves have modeled.

 

Some of the most powerful parenting advice that can be delivered is to observe your child closely to recognize the ways that his or her behavior reveals how YOU need to change.

 

Close observation of the child is among the most essential parenting skills for improving child behavior.

 

When you really see how a problem behavior displayed by your child replicates a pattern of your own, you hold the key to leading the child into improved behavior.

 

For instance, one parent observed that her child loses her emotional balance too easily and frequently, leading the child into wild, destructive, rebellious behavior.

 

This parent recognized the same tendency (or weakness) of emotional imbalance in herself, and then set to work on getting a better handle on it.

 

As this mother progressed in her self-work, she found her daughter’s self-control improving.

 

This mother realized that she didn’t really need parents tips for controlling her child – she needed self-work for improving her own self-control.

 

The fact that children become like their parents does not have to cause parents to blame and feel badly about themselves when their children misbehave.  All that would accomplish is de-motivate them to even try to do better.  And that, by extension, would do the opposite of motivating their children to do better.

 

Apply some of the most powerful parenting advice by observing your child with the aim of recognizing ways that you can raise yourself… for your child.

 

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Inspiring Children To Learn Life Wisdom

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Saturday, May 12th, 2012

Wisdom For Kids

“Treat others as you would like to be treated.” ~ The Golden Rule

 

 

Wisdom For Kids

“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” – Pericles

 

The Happiness of Giving - Wisdom For Children

“You can’t live a perfect day without doing something for someone who will never be able to repay you.” ~ John Wooden

 

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Motivate Your Child – Mother Quotes Of Wisdom

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, May 10th, 2012

 

Wisdom For Children

“Every father should remember that one day his son will follow his example instead of his advice”

 

Wisdom For Children

One good mother is worth a hundred schoolmasters. ~ George Herbert

 

Parenting Skills

"A mother is not a person to lean on, but a person to make leaning unnecessary." ~ Dorothy Canfield Fisher

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A Mother’s Love

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Thursday, May 10th, 2012
Loving Mother Quotes

No influence is so powerful as that of the mother. ~ Sarah Josepha Hale

 

 

Mother Quotes With Love

When you are a mother, you are never really alone in your thoughts. A mother always has to think twice, once for herself and once for her child. ~ Sophia Loren

 

Mother Quotes On Parenting Kids

The formative period for building character for eternity is in the nursery. The mother is queen of that realm and sways a scepter more potent than that of kings or priests. ~ Author Unknown

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Inspiring Mother Quotes

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012
Mother Quotes

God could not be everywhere and therefore he made mothers

 

 

 

Positive Parenting Mother Quotes

A mother is she who can take the place of all others but whose place no one else can take.

 

 

 

Mother Quotes for Parenting Kids With Wisdom

"She’s my teacher, my adviser, my greatest inspiration." ~ Whitney Houston

Inspiring Children

By Marilyn Cramer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012

 

Child Development With Confidence

“All that we are is a result of what we have thought” ~ Buddha

 

Motivation Children

“Play the picture in your mind – focus on the end result VISUALIZE!!! Rehearse your future VISUALIZE!!! See it, feel it! This is where action begins” ~ The Secret

 

Parenting Tips

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. The important thing is not to stop questioning. ~ Albert Einstein

Apply The Parenting Wisdom of Silence

By Bob Lancer   |  Friday, April 27th, 2012

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When it comes to parenting wisdom, no principle may be more important than how we speak to our children.

 

Child Behavior Challenge

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

What we say to our children impacts them deeply.

 

When we feel frustrated with our kids, it’s best to practice the parent wisdom of silence.

 

Under the influence of a disturbed emotional reaction to a child behavior challenge, we are most likely to say something that negatively impacts child self-esteem, self-confidence and performance.

 

What we say to our children forms their mental programming.

 

Telling a child that he never listens, calling a child a slob, labeling your kid selfish or stubborn proves to be a form of self-defeating parenting.

 

Skills in the area of verbal communication help you empower your child.

 

When we feel frustrated our parent-child communication skills are compromised.

 

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say.

 

Parenting Wisdom And The Child Behavior Challenge

The next time that you are faced with a child discipline challenge, before you speak, imagine that your child will forever remember what you are about to say

Take a moment to calm down and think about the messages do you WANT your child to remember and live up to?

 

This morning, my 9 year old was making noise while his baby brother slept.

 

I felt like saying, “Why won’t you stop and think about how you are impacting your brother?  He needs his sleep and I don’t want to have to deal with a cranky baby right now! Don’t you care about anyone but yourself?!”

 

But instead of blurting out harsh words, I paused, recognizing I was feeling too upset to speak constructively with my child.

 

So I remained silent.

 

Immediately I realized that all I needed to do was to place my hands on his shoulders and lovingly lead him to a place where his volume would not disturb his brother’s sleep.

 

I’m glad I applied the parenting wisdom of silence to protect his sacred heart.

 

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Motivated Kids Can Make A Big Difference

By Antara   |  Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

6-Year-Old Raises $10K To Help Ailing Dad

 

Positive Parenting Raises Motivated Kids

Six-year-old Drew Cox selling lemonade to help raise funds for his father's medical bills. Pic courtesy: kltv.com

A 6-year-old boy from Gladewater, Texas has done what most adults would not be able to do. Drew Cox, 6, raised $10,000 at a lemonade stand to help his father Randy Cox who had been diagnosed with Seminoma cancer three months ago.

 

Setting an inspiring example of what a caring child can do, Drew set up a lemonade stall on Walnut Street, Saturday, April 14, to help raise funds for his father’s medical bills. As the word spread about this little boy’s brave effort, cars and people queued up to support his cause by buying a cup of lemonade for 25 cents. By the end of the day, the earnings had reached a whopping $10,000.

 

The beautiful child-parent relationship between this ailing father and his doting son was evident in Drew’s words about his father. “He is so important to me. We like to play with each other. Lots of times we like to play games,” Drew said on KLTV.

 

Drew’s feat is reminiscent of the 4-year-old Alexandra “Alex” Scott, who, battling with a form of childhood cancer – neuroblastoma since before her first birthday, had decided to set up a lemonade stand to raise money for her doctors to help find a cure for all kids with cancer.

 

“Alex was just four-years-old when she asked my wife if she could hold a lemonade stand when she was released from the hospital. When asked what she wanted to do with the money, Alex said she wasn’t keeping it, but instead giving it to her doctors to help find a cure for all kids with cancer. And so, our lemonade crusade began,” writes Jay Scott, Alex’s father and Co-Executive Director, Alex’s Lemonade Stand Foundation, in Huffingtonpost.com.

 

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Parenting kids is also about inspiring children to do their bit to make the world a better place

Alex, with the help of volunteers across the country raised over $1 million in her lifetime (she passed away in 2004). But her legacy was carried on by parents who have raised over $50 million toward finding a cure for cancer.

 

Motivated kids set precedents which even adults may find hard to match. It is essential for parents to instill this wisdom in children that they too can make a difference.

 

When you help develop in your child the vision to see beyond his own self and the ability to think for others’ welfare, you motivate your child to grow as a caring, helpful, kind and compassionate human being.

 

Parenting kids is not only about making sure they have the good things of life. It’s about inspiring children to do their bit to make the world a better place.

 

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